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Author:  WiseDude24 [ Sat May 10, 2014 6:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Am I friend zoned, and can I undo this?

So i've got this girl from work, we went on a date (although it wasn't officialy a date).
It was one week after my gf broke up with me and this girl knew about it.

In the date she threw a some comments to test me (i'm guessing those are shit tests?) which i didn't react well, some are also sexual, i'm guessing to test my reaction.
After that I actually wanted to end it and take her home, and she suggested we'll continue and go sit somewhere (we were doing wall climbing).
So we sat at the beach, talking, conversation was good but it went towards comfort.
I did some mistakes like telling her that i'm impressed from a few things she told me, and compliment her on her beauty once. The main impression i think she got from me is that i'm a good guy (she actually said it once and followed up with some sex story).

I think i kind of killed the attraction instead of building it.
A day after I've called her and we talked a little bit.
A day after we saw each other at work, acted normally, she asked me to come with her and 2 more friends to wall climbing (i told her before on the phone we should go again) but I couldn't so I declined and said maybe on the weekend.
2 days later I sent her a text that i wanted to do something fun, some kind of sport. She took half a day to reply, and her msg wasn't clear so i backed off and wrote that my grandmother texts me faster than her (playfully, with a smiley) and that I already made plans with some friends. She got a little annoyed by it.
A week later I saw her at work, and again acted normally, we talk here and then and she's sometimes initiates conversation with me but it's been 2 weeks since and I'm not suggesting anymore meetings with her.

The problem is that I wonder if the first date based her a solid opinion on me as a friend and I can't fix it.
I need to erase it from her head somehow :)
We see each other only 2 days a week at work.
Should i just keep acting normal at work and maybe try to rebuild the attraction, using some subtle kino?

Author:  prince_prince [ Sun May 11, 2014 2:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Am I friend zoned, and can I undo this?

Hey man. I wouldnt think about it to much. Just continue to

act normal and build the relationship.

Author:  Leo-Jed [ Mon May 12, 2014 3:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Am I friend zoned, and can I undo this?

Its a very hard one this "girl at work" thing. it any other circumstance I would say she lost attraction because you didn't make a move. If its some girl you're never going to see again and she rejects you then no problem. If it's a girl from work then you have to see her every day after the rejection and who wants that shit.

If you really want to go for it then I would say on your next date do lots of kino and see how she reacts. Put your hands on her when you're talking to her or walk arm in arm for a bit. You can calibrate from this and see how she is reacting to it.

That said I have made up my mind to steer clear of girls from work unless you know they like you. There are thousands of other girls out there.

Author:  alphabro [ Wed May 14, 2014 10:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Am I friend zoned, and can I undo this?

It doesn't really sound like you are in the friend zone but it doesn't sound like you are taking it in a sexual direction either. If she is talking back to you it means she is interested but you need to do something to increase that attraction.

Author:  WiseDude24 [ Fri May 16, 2014 11:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Am I friend zoned, and can I undo this?

Quote:
It doesn't really sound like you are in the friend zone but it doesn't sound like you are taking it in a sexual direction either. If she is talking back to you it means she is interested but you need to do something to increase that attraction.

the problem with this chick is that she has a lot of male friends. she herself told me she has many of them, and none female friends.
so it's really hard for me to tell what she wants. i'll just have to gamble and risk seeing her at work later. still wondering if it's worth it.

Author:  WiseDude24 [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 6:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Am I friend zoned, and can I undo this?

well, things went bad.

i tried increasing the attraction, i used kino, negged her (she also negged me back a few times).
two days ago she came to me and said hello at work while hugging and kissing me so i took it as a good sign,
so a couple of hours later i've told her to come with me to the car to take something she forgot in it a few days back, but she rejected while saying that i can throw it away. i said i didn't want to, and she replied with "maybe, when we'll have a chance" (girls are fucking smart, she knew exactly why i wanted to take her to the car).

now i'm left with onitis on this girl and without a clue on how to cure it as i need to see her everyday. bummer.

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