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Author:  JOHNNYBOY29 [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 4:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Interest vs desperation

Hi guys, I do apologise if this has been asked in some form or another (I am sure it has)

So met a girl off Match.com, we met a couple of weeks ago and had an amazing first date where I kissed her an hour into it and it was like a five hour date at a cocktail bar.

Second date was last friday, dinner, drinks etc, also fuckin amazing. We were comfortable from the get go, she came held my hand and my arm, walking around, basically like a couple from dinner to drinks etc. Invited her back to mine at midnight she came. We did everything but have sex - oral and kissing etc. She didnt want sex as she wanted something to look forward to next time etc etc etc She stayed the night, did some morning stuff then she left (she had a day out with her dad which she told me about before)

During that date though, she has harped on about how she told all her friends what an amazing first date we had, how she feels comfortable with me and how she feels like she has known me a lot longer than she actually has. She can be herself around me and towards me. We cant really keep our hands off each other. It is all very comfortable and just amazing chemistry.

What I dont get is she NEVER initiates communication, which I suppose aint a bad thing as I like to control the communication myself although she is a tad cold via text (in person totally different person). BUT what has poleaxed me is 'how much interest is TOO much'? So I have texted her about four times in three weeks and did text her on sunday. Would calling her tonight (two days after our last contact) to hang out this weekend be too forward? too much?

Thanks and any help would be appreciated.

Author:  Nairobi [ Wed Mar 05, 2014 2:14 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Interest vs desperation

You need to bang her, fairly soon. Until you actually have sex with her, her emotional investment in you is practically zilch.

Author:  dinozzo925 [ Wed Mar 05, 2014 4:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Interest vs desperation

Quote:
You need to bang her, fairly soon. Until you actually have sex with her, her emotional investment in you is practically zilch.
Agreed, bag her and tag her.

You know what will make her bang you?

Stop contacting her for a prolonged period of time. Let her initiate contact for once. Be patient. If she likes you she'll get back to you. If she doesn't get back to you then you know you were wasting your time/money anyway.

Author:  JOHNNYBOY29 [ Wed Mar 05, 2014 10:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Interest vs desperation

Thanks guys,

But whilst this is 'about one girl' its actually a sticking point in that I never know the balance between showing interest and acting aloof or rather, being busy. I lead a busy life anyways (work and have a great deal of friends etc) BUT I also respond in a timely fashion as THAT is one of my good points and its something that others like about me.

In terms of banging her, yeah I should have fucked her and was surprised that we did everything else BUT fuck and perhaps the opportunity has gone but I would say it was more than just a fuck with her.

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