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Author:  ksmith68w [ Thu Jan 30, 2014 6:25 am ]
Post subject:  how long to text for before i ask for first date?
This is my first, post. Have been reading this site for a year now, finally decided to make a profile today
Never really played around with the texting/phone game, so im a little stuck.

Ive been texting this HB10 for a few hours. asked for her number on instagram, got it that night, and waited a day in a half to text her. ive met her before, and talked here and there, as we had a class together. never really pursued until now, when i got the balls to haha. i used the bank robbery opener
heres the convo:
me: hi there, this is chris!
hb10: hey whats up?!
me: about to go rob a bank, i need a getaway driver though, you interested? ;)
hb10: sure! ill hop in my mustang right now! which bank? :) haha
me: idaho central! make sure you bring a cute swimsuit and some snacks, cause were going to california after!
hb10:sounds like a great plan to me!!! :)
me: if we get caught, who are we blaming? i dont thing we will, as long as you can drive fast and look good doing it, we will be safe ;)
hb10: haha it was your idea so even if i dont drive fast enough, your to blame ;) :)
me: you got that sweet mustang, youll have no problem going fast enough ;) have you seen that movie, getway? (i screwed up, should have negged)
hb10: well see about that ha :) and no, i dont think i have!
me: definitely need to see that! its in redbox! about a girl and her mustang, sounds kinda familiar ;)
hb10:haha no way! i definitely need to watch it then:)


i want to ask her out to go eat tommorow, but im not sure if its too early or what not. and should i jump on the movie idea?
Author:  scanner4 [ Thu Jan 30, 2014 10:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
Yep its definitely time. She's had fun in the texts.

You have options with the movie thing. Mention it now by saying something like "Ok we're watching it, but first I know a great place to eat"

Or, you can save the movie as ammo to bring her back to yours after drinks. She may need the plausible deniability.

Either way... It's time!

Enjoy
Author:  In$tinct [ Thu Jan 30, 2014 3:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
Quote:
(i screwed up, should have negged)
I don't see how you screwed up, you ignored her BS. Completely fine. Just ask her out now and see how it goes...
Author:  ksmith68w [ Thu Jan 30, 2014 5:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
so i sent her this message:
me: hey, tommorrow at 8:27, or saturday at 3:01, lets go get pita pit! The new one just opened up, and im excited to check it out
hb10: Okay how about saturday
me: thats a bet, looking forward to it. we can rob that bank then ;) talk to you tommorow, i gtg
hb10: no reply.

this morning i sent her a text
me: good morning sleepy head! :)

no reply yet, but it was an hour ago.

next step? i thought i was getting some IOI's from her, as she was going along with the bank thing, she was enjoying our talk, but also, i mirrored the shit out of her wit texting times!
Author:  In$tinct [ Thu Jan 30, 2014 6:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
What next step? Next step is when you go on a date, no need to complicate it unnecessarily... All you need to do until then is keep the fun frame and don't care about stupid shits.
Author:  mixology [ Fri Jan 31, 2014 1:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
you were playful before asking for the date- perfect.

now you got the date for saturday- STOP texting her.

No more good morning texts, this isn't your girlfriend.

The less texts the better unless you need to create more attraction which you don't. don't text her again, unless you change plans last minute or something
Author:  nuttybuddygame [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 12:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
keep text game short!!! Also why revisit the bank thing? She may think your serious if you keep talking about it. Plus that's old out of date conversation piece find new material that's not played out. I once went out with a bunch of AFCS and every girl said hey that guy just asked me what i'm passionate about.. lol...so I stopped using that I framed questions different. Get away from the material lines an invent new lines around the same thing. The last thing you want is a girl knowing your in the community or your some kind of community clone. I think we should have creative writing class for some people. Always remember girls always think in the back of there head is this guy a killer or boring or a loser- I would always stay away from negative imagery. I would keep it short and sweet- Yeah good morning texts are strange it shouts out stalker or guy wants a gf.
I think text is good by saying" hey I'm doing this today- you should join me or whats your plans tonight? After you text her a few times in a few weeks she will start thinking your a fun guy and she should join you on one of your adventures. So for example week 1( Hey I'm going to the clippers game) Thought hey why not ask if your into sports?" Week 2 " Hey I'm going to the casino I won 800 last night and they compted me a free room and champagne I need a good luck charm- are you lucky? Week 3 hey I'm going to this concert my friend couldn't get off work- are you into music? You are qualifying and also asking her out while DHVing yourself- I call this the triple threat approach.

If you get nothing then ditch her- move on- shes horrible and you don't need dead weight!!!
Author:  In$tinct [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 9:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
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keep text game short!!! Also why revisit the bank thing? She may think your serious if you keep talking about it. Plus that's old out of date conversation piece find new material that's not played out.
I agree and I disagree. Yes, old frames should not be overused. But. Did this work this time? Yes, it definitely did. So did he fuck up? No, he didn't. Agree though, that next time, no more bank robbing.
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The last thing you want is a girl knowing your in the community
All of my past girlfriends, and my current girlfriend has known that I'm in the community. So far it's never caused an issue.
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or your some kind of community clone.
Yes, in this context, I agree with you.
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After you text her a few times in a few weeks she will start thinking your a fun guy and she should join you on one of your adventures.
Weeks? Really? I don't know about you, but I don't want to keep texting a girl for weeks till I finally get to see her. Spark interest, throw in the hook(for eg. what you said that she should join you on one of your adventures) and then it's done. No need for weeks. A couple of days. Maybe one week, at the very very maximum(must be super interesting girl). Texting for too long before meeting will punch attraction in the face, and beat it to the ground and below.
Author:  ksmith68w [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 7:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
ok, so today is the day we are going to meet up. havent texted her since, so how should i go about reminding her?

should i say something like "mmm, pita pit!"? what do you think?
Author:  Skyrock3t [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 9:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
Hi man, first of all really good game on the first message day! I think you brought yourself in a difficult situation, because of your not necessary messages before. This is how i would try to rescue the situation:

Call her two hours before the date and say "Hey accompliance [fill a little small talk with funny experiences of you within the last days] and after some small talk (2-5 minutes) go with "I totally forgot that i have [something] at 3.01 (i like your bullshiting about the time btw) could we change to 5.01?"

Then you see whether she has the date on her mind or not

What you think?

Cheers

sky
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Author:  ksmith68w [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 9:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
Quote:

Call her two hours before the date and say "Hey accompliance [fill a little small talk with funny experiences of you within the last days] and after some small talk (2-5 minutes) go with "I totally forgot that i have [something] at 3.01 (i like your bullshiting about the time btw) could we change to 5.01?"

Then you see whether she has the date on her mind or not


sky
lets-go-skyrocket-vt174976.html
this shit is gold!!!

she texted me saying:
HB10: hey can we go another day? ive got family in town :)


how do you think i should approach this?
im thinking of saying something like:
"Yeah, that works way better! some friends and i are going to the hot springs today, so lets reschedule for blahblahblah"
Author:  Skyrock3t [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 9:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
Haha thanks.

Did you call her or message? I wouldnt make it so easy for her now. Dont instantly agree. I would wait a little and maybe answer something (i prefer telephone but if you feel more comfortable with texting its ok i guess). "Puh you want to introduce me that quick to your mum? Slow down a little :P I guess we can. I call you tomorrow. Greetings to my mother-in-law"

Cheers

Edit: its mother-in-law not stepmother :D sorry im not native^^
Author:  ksmith68w [ Sat Feb 01, 2014 10:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
Quote:
Haha thanks.

"Puh you want to introduce me that quick to your mum? Slow down a little :P I guess we can. I call you tomorrow. Greetings to my mother-in-law"

Cheers

Edit: its mother-in-law not stepmother :D sorry im not native^^
so neg her a little bit, while DHVing her showing that im not desperate for her haha

what does everyone else think about this?
Author:  nuttybuddygame [ Sun Feb 02, 2014 6:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
The week thing is an example hopefully u meet as soon as possible
But depending on how busy she is how many guys in her life
And how much she is attracted to you equals how fast u will get that date.
He's already going to be on week 2. She canceling plans using family
Which is 1 of the top excuses. That and birthday parties I would say is top.
What should you do ? I say nothing wait til next week freeze out. Send a text that says
Sounds good and freeze out. Once again the week 1 and 2 is only if your getting limited
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Author:  Skyrock3t [ Sun Feb 02, 2014 4:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how long to text for before i ask for first date?
I agree to a freeze out, maybe say "call you tomorrow" but call her the day after tomorrow. I dont think a long freeze out would work, because your status is not high enough yet that he will chase after a long freeze out. Things will just cold out... Freeze out yes, but not a week.

And make sure you pull off good phone game and DONT invite her for something. End it with "it was really fun talking. You just made your self from bootie call #74 to #37. Just kidding, i will call you and greetings to my mother-in-law"

Cheers
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