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Author:  canadianphil [ Thu Jan 16, 2014 9:36 pm ]
Post subject:  1st date checklist
Hey dudes,

I've got a first date with a girl I met online on Saturday. This is my first date since I've started learning about pick up so I'm a bit nervous, but we've had some good text chat so looking forward to it as well! Anyways, from my reading so far here's what I should and shouldn't be doing:

Maintain open body language
Mirror/match her posture/tone of voice where appropriate
Try and sit beside her as oppose to opposite her
Try and ensure the vast majority of the conversation is about her.
Make occasional jokes - use callback humor to our text banter
Direct the conversation - show i'm alpha
Try not to constantly ask questions - make statements instead
Match her energy, but always be confident and upbeat
Bounce between a few bars

As date progresses try to create sexual tension - seductive gazing, speaking slower, moving closer.
Ramp up kino - sit closer with legs touching, touch her palm/arm when speaking. put arm on back when moving between places. touch her hair, necklace, face.

Building for the kiss:

Lean in to talk close to her then lean out for a bit - creates sexual tension
When going for the kiss, don't swoop in from miles away, be sure to be close. Place fingers just under chin and pull her face in.

Have a plan for how it will end if all goes well ;) - I'm thinking of offering to come back to mine for a bottle of wine if it gets there. If she's not up for this, should you offer to walk her home or put her in a cab - or is that too boyfriendy?

Do not:

Try to fill every silence
Interrupt her
Tease her all the time

Any other do's and do not's? Thanks!
Author:  Masse20 [ Thu Jan 16, 2014 10:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: 1st date checklist
Good points there. IMO the things I would do differently is the kiss part and the "come over to myplace"part.
Details maybe but:
for the kiss I would rather have the hand behind her neck, feels a bit more "safe"
for the come over to my place, I would have a better "excuse" than for a bottle of wine. Maybe telling her you have some videos you want to show her or something.

Anyways. Good luck. Try to enjoy the date and don't only think about "game".
Author:  McCoy1 [ Sat Jan 18, 2014 1:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: 1st date checklist
Almost exactly what I did the other night, worked for me.
1. I second the bottle of wine FAIL. Try other list of things such as check out an amazine x or surprise I have to show you. My friend and I made home movie etc. Little white lie go to house party/after party (then stop by your house first) change clothes for more casual after party etc.
2. no fingers under the chin, I think. Rinse repeat if rejected on the kiss. Check out how K e z i a says to go for kiss on video site
3. I love M y s t e r y major kino hand holding but let go constantly build up tension "a wanting" seems to work for me. The other night she even mentioned hey why let go when we passed x bar know them, embarrased type thing. That im pretty sure is an IOI from her, no?

Please don't leave us hanging tell us how it went!!
Quote:
Hey dudes,

I've got a first date with a girl I met online on Saturday. This is my first date since I've started learning about pick up so I'm a bit nervous, but we've had some good text chat so looking forward to it as well! Anyways, from my reading so far here's what I should and shouldn't be doing:

Maintain open body language
Mirror/match her posture/tone of voice where appropriate
Try and sit beside her as oppose to opposite her
Try and ensure the vast majority of the conversation is about her.
Make occasional jokes - use callback humor to our text banter
Direct the conversation - show i'm alpha
Try not to constantly ask questions - make statements instead
Match her energy, but always be confident and upbeat
Bounce between a few bars

As date progresses try to create sexual tension - seductive gazing, speaking slower, moving closer.
Ramp up kino - sit closer with legs touching, touch her palm/arm when speaking. put arm on back when moving between places. touch her hair, necklace, face.

Building for the kiss:

Lean in to talk close to her then lean out for a bit - creates sexual tension
When going for the kiss, don't swoop in from miles away, be sure to be close. Place fingers just under chin and pull her face in.

Have a plan for how it will end if all goes well ;) - I'm thinking of offering to come back to mine for a bottle of wine if it gets there. If she's not up for this, should you offer to walk her home or put her in a cab - or is that too boyfriendy?

Do not:

Try to fill every silence
Interrupt her
Tease her all the time

Any other do's and do not's? Thanks!
Author:  ChimeranPanda [ Sat Feb 22, 2014 2:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: 1st date checklist
Very, very good list. Small things can be very big. I would like to add the following:
  • At first intro, tell her to give you some sugar and turn your cheek sideways and point to it.
  • I stick my elbow out and tell her to grab my arm when we walk. She can follow easily by feeling your body language how fast and in what direction you're walking. It's also kino. I never walk holding hands bc i think it's beta, plus palms can sweat.
  • First change of venue within five minutes. (Coffee, then ice cream, then a secluded bench somewhere. No more than 1 hour before first kiss.)
  • I always kiss close with Evolution phase shift, followed by, "What would you do...if i kissed you.... right...now."
  • DO NOT LET HER PICK THE PLACE FOR THE FIRST DATE. She has no idea what is good. You need other places to be close by for the aforementioned easy venue change.
  • She will be more comfortable at her place, so that's what i shoot for ("What kind of movies do you have at your place?" "Let's pick something up and cook it at your place.")
  • Mindset that if she's on a date with you, she no doubt has thought about and wants to kiss you.
  • When you're following all the aforementioned, plus your list, it's also very important to be observant. Adjust with feedback. This is the hardest and takes practice.
I can't imagine being more smooth. bulletproof. Of course I'm waiting for anyone to add even more.
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