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| Author: | Marvin Nash [ Thu Nov 14, 2013 11:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Fear of rejection with a classmate |
Hey there, This weekend we have a class party since is almost end of the year. I used the whole year to make a nice image of myself with the girls and with the lads, not something that I think about that much but all the stuff Ive read of PUA and lifestyle change has helped me to set some solid base that I try to show up on my day to day life (mainly, showing DAVs and making myself look valuable whenever I can). Im a popular guy, probably one of the most popular ones, everyone recognizes me as a funny bloke that is always in a good modd and has clear values and ideas and a solid personality. At this party - which Im organizing, +1 for my image of social bloke - I pretend to escalate with a girl I really like, MY type of girl. I play the guitar and Im using that tool and some others to give myself the higher Value possible and try to close the deal that night. Is not gonna be easy but classmates make out and start relationships with each other since the first class was created centuries ago, so, why not me and her? Im a cool, nice, and high value person and someone that any girl would like to date, so theres nothing else to do than to game her nicely and kclose it this sat night. The girl is kinda shy, she already got approached by this classmate and rejected him so Im walking on a dangerous field, even though we have a nice talk from time to time, we share common interests and we get along well, she seems like a hard-to-game girl, the type of girl that choses who to fall for and not the other way around, do you understand what I mean? So here comes the issue...what if she resists my game and I end up being rejected? how am I suposed to walk to the class next monday and say hi to her withouth going red?. Silly as it seems, this is the major issue that I ever had when gaming classmates and probably the main reason why I failed to establish any relationship or affair with classmates and why I ended up being friendzone over and over again during highschool. I know this is a deep inner game problem: if you really care about what people say about you, then youre doing something wrong. The right mindset would be something like: "I dont give a fuck if she rejects me or not, Im just gonna do my thing and be myself no matter what happens because I rule my world", but the problem is that no matter how hard I try to make myself look valuable and try to asimilate that line of thought, I still cant cope with people whispering and laughing: "You heard that Marvin was rejected by ***?". So this is a two sides thing, on one side, I feel terribly confident about suceeding and about my game, I think that all the things I learned throughout my life and books and field experience is paying off and will end up giving results this saturday, but on the other hand I have inminent fear of rejection about to come up. What your advice would be lads? Thanks in advance, MN |
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| Author: | El_Mago [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 6:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fear of rejection with a classmate |
Dude, you have answered all your own questions really. If you feel confident and you have high value, don't devalue yourself by worrying about rejection. If you really are the guy that you described and people see you that way, no one is going to give the slightest shit if you get rejected. People remember rejections temporarily and the feeling of rejection is transient. You have the tools so be a man and do something about it. People get rejected every day, it's not that much fun to talk about, so they won't talk about it that much. |
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