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| Author: | Aero-el [ Sun Oct 06, 2013 7:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Hanging out vs "dating" |
If you invited a girl to "meet up" at a coffeehouse the first time, a bar at the second time, and an art gallery the third and there was no kiss attempted at the end, would it seem to you that I was asking her to "hang out" vs an actual "date"? Also, if I wanted to pursue this as more than just "hanging out" (such as a romantic pursuit), would I be friendzoned by now into the point of no return? |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Oct 07, 2013 12:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hanging out vs "dating" |
Is there any physical contact at all? Any kind of escalation? These aren't dates if you're missing any physical element (touching, petting, kissing, etc). |
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| Author: | Aero-el [ Wed Oct 09, 2013 9:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hanging out vs "dating" |
As for as kinoing goes, the occasional "let's-go-this-way" hand guide on her back, was about it. |
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| Author: | USteve [ Thu Oct 10, 2013 8:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hanging out vs "dating" |
Quote: If you invited a girl to "meet up" at a coffeehouse the first time, a bar at the second time, and an art gallery the third and there was no kiss attempted at the end, would it seem to you that I was asking her to "hang out" vs an actual "date"?
I am in kind of the same situation however have only been on one date. I did no kino whatsoever as I didn't feel the vibe from her and im very inexperienced, so Im wondering if she will think its just a hang out as friends thing. My feelings are that if you go 3 dates and no kino or sexual escalation then I think she will think you are just friends. Im going to have to use kino on my second date to pull things around and make date 1 seem like a gradual buildup.
Also, if I wanted to pursue this as more than just "hanging out" (such as a romantic pursuit), would I be friendzoned by now into the point of no return? |
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| Author: | Chris101 [ Sat Oct 12, 2013 3:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hanging out vs "dating" |
I have a rule that I always attempt the makeout on the day-two... not at the end, but when we're getting close and I feel that I've pumped her buying temperature to a reasonable degree. If she's attracted she'll reciprocate, or tell you that she's not ready, or not interested - either way you need to test to waters, but be completely non-needy about it. Granted, this doesn't guarantee things will continue... I've had many times when we kissed, then get a text the next day about how she's not really interested or some BS I can't understand. But would you rather set the man-to-woman frame early as possible, or hang out with a friend hoping it will eventually turn into a romantic endeavour? First option should always be your choice. PS. Make sure you're also sub-comminucating the right message when you first meet, texting, organising to meet, etc. But that's a topic for another time. |
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