Greeting pick up artists!
I am sixteen years old (soon to be seventeen), and therefore younger than most people on this site. I recently discovered PU and it has since changed my life. Before I found the community I had had little to no experience with the opposite gender. A kiss without tongue when I was thirteen and a makeout session with, what would be categorized as, an HB 1(at best, more like a HB -5)when I was fourteen was all the experience I had.
I remember thinking that it made no sense. I had some of the best grades in my school, I invested almost all my spare time working out (I do mixed martial arts) and I was a tall, blonde, blue eyed guy! Why didn’t women want me? I wanted a change in my life and in the pickup arts I found the answer to my prayers. Although I am no full-fledged PuA yet, I have come a long way from being the badly dressed, fast talking, overly submissive AFC I used to be. I meet new girls every weekend and I have had at least a K-close every Saturday and Sunday for the past three weeks. The confidence I have gotten through the pick up arts have also helped me in other areas of life, making me a more confident, happy person as well as a better athlete within my sport.
However, one tiny little enormous problem remains.
Most the girls that I pick up I frame for either a ONS or a FWB relation. And usually everything goes well! That is until the clothes come off…
I belong to a small percentage of people who lost their virginity in a ONS, and I can honestly say I had no idea what I was doing.
Things like how to unhook a bra and how to put on a condom were completely foreign to me. I didn’t even have the experience that most people get from looking at porn since I never really did that growing up (maybe I should start? For educational purposes!
). Also, since this was an ONS, and since I had framed myself as the alpha, high value guy who gets girls on a routinely basis, asking questions like “How do you put on a condom?” wasn’t really an option. Anyways, since she wasn’t taking the pill and I couldn’t even find the god damn hole (not my greatest moment…) I ended up fingering her for like five hours straight instead. Of course, I once again had no idea what I was doing but at least she moaned so I guess I was doing something right. However, since I also had no idea how to tell when she was having an orgasm, and therefore no idea of when to stop, I ended up utilizing some of that warrior spirit from my martial arts training to simply go on and on and on until my wrist felt like it would explode from the exhaustion. In the end, I just though “fuck this” and stopped. Then we slept.Yeah…
So, I reach out to the infinite wisdom of the PuA forums to ask for you all to take some time off of your busy schedules to give me some advice on how to fix this last major problem in my life.What can I do to improve? Are there any good books to read? I remember Style talking about some super sex method that he learned from some Gurus in "The Game", is there any way to get in on that? (Of course, I'd like to add that information like "how to put on a condom" is easily researched, I just threw it in there to illustrate the debt of my problem)
Also since I live in Sweden, surrounded by beautiful women on a daily basis, this problem becomes even more frustrating.
Thanks in advance!