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Author:  scanner4 [ Tue Aug 06, 2013 12:21 pm ]
Post subject:  changed her mind (text msg)
Hey guys, need your opinions on this

Approached two girls in a pub (sitting outside). One of them was waiting for a train and the other (target) was keeping her company till then. Hooked them in, got on really well, then said a warm goodbye to the one catching her train. The target dropped her friend across the road to the station then came back to chill with me. We talked more for an hour, played lots of games, built lots of comfort etc.

Before she left we exchanged numbers and talked about a date later in the week. We got on like a house on fire! There was a very positive vibe.

I text next day confirming the day, she says:

It was good talking to you too. But I'm sort of seeing someone and don't want to give you the wrong impression. Probably best not to meet. X


Do I take this for face value, or have any of you guys seen and/or overcome this before?

cheers

Scanner
Author:  In$tinct [ Tue Aug 06, 2013 1:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: changed her mind (text msg)
I smell shit test.

"Sort of seeing someone else" wtf is this shit? How can you "sort of" see someone?

I'd text something like this:

"If you're worried about the other person getting hurt I understand. But you don't need to be afraid for me. I felt a good vibe and having a cup of coffee next /xyz day/ won't hurt anyone I guess"
Author:  scanner4 [ Wed Aug 07, 2013 3:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: changed her mind (text msg)
I like your reply. I used something very similar. She actually text back but was much more blunt this time...

"It was nice to meet you and I enjoyed your company but I don't think it would be a good idea to meet up. X"

My friend thinks I should start using the straw man now. "yeah you're probably right, I wouldn't wanna get in the way of something that s going very well for you and its not every day you meet someone who you have such a strong connection with"

It's so evil its funny.

What do you think?
Author:  fishnwomen [ Wed Aug 07, 2013 3:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: changed her mind (text msg)
I think you are done. She said it twice.

You didn't mess up on text messaging, you messed up before then somewhere. Everyone gets a few flakes anyway.
Author:  In$tinct [ Wed Aug 07, 2013 4:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: changed her mind (text msg)
I don't think the strawman would work in this situation. The strawman was designed to destroy long term relationships because it makes the woman question that it's worth it but I suspect that if she's really seeing someone it's not been a long enough time for it to have any effect.

What did you text her exactly, might I ask? I still think this one has a little potential left in it, it might be worth a last shot but probably not more.

Right now she conveyed a massive amount of disinterest so pushing the meet-up any further is not a good idea anymore. You will have to find another way to get her curious. I think the best policy right now is not to text her at all for a few days and then come up with some really random text.

Meanwhile, seek other options. This one is far from a sure lay.
Author:  scanner4 [ Wed Aug 07, 2013 5:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: changed her mind (text msg)
Guys thanks for your input. Instinct if you're asking about the very first text I sent to her as you've seen the others, it read:

"Hey its *********. It was cool talking to you yesterday. Let's go out this week. You can meet my dog ;). Having fun with your brother?x"

Obviously the stuff I mentioned was already talked about night before. but reading it back... its a bit boring huh?

I'm pretty sure its done as she has now told me twice. But Instinct thanks for your help brother. Let me know what it was you were thinking for this

Scanner
Author:  In$tinct [ Wed Aug 07, 2013 7:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: changed her mind (text msg)
Well it is quite boring but it's nothing that should result in a flake like that. There're some other things behind this. Perhaps she is in fact seeing someone else. I think I finally figured out the most possible scenario. This is what I think happened:

She had been having a crush for a guy for at least a little while, and she managed to move things a bit forward. She enjoyed herself with you but doesn't want to screw this one up.

I'm not saying this is what surely happened but I think this is the most possible.
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