So I met this girl at a bar, I got her number and a few days later I was at her house drinking beer, watching a ball game and having a good time. At some point in the night I put my arm around her, and she seemed very receptive to it. She scooted in closer and seemed comfortable. I did somethings that could be considered forward, for example I somewhat massaged her shoulder when my arm was around her and later gave her a quick kiss. We decided to leave her place and go to my pool for a swim, but when we got to my car she said she was sorry but that I was too forward and she wasn't that kind of girl. I was somewhat taken aback and tried to explain I was not looking for someone to hook up with, that I usually am not incredibly forward, and she said she was sorry but told me to call her the next day. I called her the next day and she did not answer, I also texted her the next day saying I was sorry about being so forward and asking if she would hang out again. She has yet to respond, and I am at a loss as to what to do. The obvious answer is to forget it and move forward, she isn't interested, but we I think we really connected and the only reason things went south is my supposed forwardness. Sorry for the tl;dr post but I could really use some help here, I want a chance so she can get to know the real me. Advice?

You creeped her out dude. Do better with the next one. Check this thread out and learn how to escalate kino properly.

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massaged her shoulder when my arm was around her and later gave her a quick kiss.

Goodness, it wasn't that you were too forward dude. You failed a shit test, an obvious one at that too. She said "you're too forward" you stepped back ask why then fucking APOLOGISED after she didnt respond!!

She says you are too forward you laugh, smile at her and say "what makes you think I like you in that way?" When you asked why, she responded and you gave her an explanation, you said you're "not that kind of guy." This just comes off as bullshit and weak. You dropped your frame, let hers take yours and you lost.

Remember you are the man, she should be HAPPY you want to hook up with her. There's no greater privilege, remember that!

You should have tested her back, teased her a bit for being so presumptuous, then if she isn't coming around just drive off and do NOT under any circumstances be the one to call her the next day.

You failed a shit test big time. Time to move on mate. Watch for them next time, hold your frame!!

I'm telling you, that's what's happened. Remember, most of what you say is body language, the way you hold yourself, your facial expression, your tone. You don't have to have grovelled. You just have to have reacted in a way that makes you lose your frame in place of hers. Your first mistake was your initial reaction.

Your second mistake was definitely calling her the next day. Yes I'm aware she asked you to, but mate you've just had a girl flip out a little bit for no reason, why reward that? So what if she thinks you are just out for sex? Let her think what she wants, only you know the truth and like I said, she should be happy that you chose to hang out with her at all. Don't call her the next day ever! Wait like a week, THEN call her. Show her you don't need her, then give her the chance to get back in your life.

Good work not taking your friends advice. My number 1 rule of all pick up is "do NOT take chick advice from chicks." Unless of course they are a stud lesbian playa haha. Whenever my female friends try give me chick advice I ask "so, how many women have you picked up and slept with?" Usually shuts them up pretty fast.