PUA Forum :: great first date, did I fuck up?

It's probably not the text that creeped her out. If I were to guess, you were probably pretty transparent with how into her that you were when you were together. In these interactions you want her to have the puppy dog look, not you.

The morning text was probably fine and maybe, you know crazy as it might seem, she might have been asleep and still not running at full speed. As well, it's sounds like she was not obsessing about you as much as you were about her.

Girls are pretty intuitive about these games. The texts, the calls, they all give you away. The focus needs to be in your interaction, not so much about how long until you call and the texts. If she finds you splendid everything else can go however it goes. Making out does not mean she is really into you, sex usually does. As exciting as it was for you, keep in mind her interest in you is still probably mild. Best to fix that.

Give it a bit of time, then go with a friend to where she works and hit on her colleagues in the most playful way you can. Peacock a bit and make sure the people around her see how great you are. Then punish her for not responding by negging her (don't mention that she didn't respond directly, but just make fun of her in a playful way) and then if she tries to plan something, take that moment to either talk to your friend or change the topic. Before leaving tell her if she wants she can text you and see what to do.

If you get another chance to be together, keep it fun and work on being the most interesting person you know.

Author:	truejew [ Mon Mar 25, 2013 8:11 pm ]
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I met a girl at a friends birthday party. first night out was great, she was obviously interested. she made sure to tell me where she works and that I should come in to get hooked up. I waited 2 weeks before attempting to see her. I saw her at her job, got her phone #. I set up the date. the first date was perfect. ended with her in my arms making out with me, I didn't even initiate. built a solid connection and was super confident in myself. we set up a second night out a week later. I messed up and started texting her between the two dates. she gave me the ok to call her anytime I wanted to get my mind off other things. I said "maybe I will" I didn't... but I sent her a good night text at the end of the evening. she replied. the next morning, I was on cloud 9 and wasn't thinking straight. and I sent her a good morning text (oh god why.) she didn't respond until 8:30 pm with a "how are you?" I answered after waiting about 30min. it was a short and to the point answer with a "how are you?" at the end. no response. the next day we were supposed to meet up as we set up earlier in the week. I called her to see if she was still meeting me at my job. no answer, left a message no reply. I backed off and havn't tried to contact her since. its been one week since our first date. I am really stoked on this one, I got a few others to keep me busy but I hope this one comes around. I know first of all that there are plenty other women out there for me, but I know for a fact that this one is special.

Author:	VietnameseProdigy [ Tue Mar 26, 2013 7:52 am ]
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you sent a good morning text, and creeped her out

Author:	smushed [ Tue Mar 26, 2013 10:16 am ]
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It's probably not the text that creeped her out. If I were to guess, you were probably pretty transparent with how into her that you were when you were together. In these interactions you want her to have the puppy dog look, not you. The morning text was probably fine and maybe, you know crazy as it might seem, she might have been asleep and still not running at full speed. As well, it's sounds like she was not obsessing about you as much as you were about her. Girls are pretty intuitive about these games. The texts, the calls, they all give you away. The focus needs to be in your interaction, not so much about how long until you call and the texts. If she finds you splendid everything else can go however it goes. Making out does not mean she is really into you, sex usually does. As exciting as it was for you, keep in mind her interest in you is still probably mild. Best to fix that. Give it a bit of time, then go with a friend to where she works and hit on her colleagues in the most playful way you can. Peacock a bit and make sure the people around her see how great you are. Then punish her for not responding by negging her (don't mention that she didn't respond directly, but just make fun of her in a playful way) and then if she tries to plan something, take that moment to either talk to your friend or change the topic. Before leaving tell her if she wants she can text you and see what to do. If you get another chance to be together, keep it fun and work on being the most interesting person you know.

Author:	truejew [ Tue Mar 26, 2013 2:45 pm ]
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Quote: It's probably not the text that creeped her out. If I were to guess, you were probably pretty transparent with how into her that you were when you were together. In these interactions you want her to have the puppy dog look, not you. The morning text was probably fine and maybe, you know crazy as it might seem, she might have been asleep and still not running at full speed. As well, it's sounds like she was not obsessing about you as much as you were about her. Girls are pretty intuitive about these games. The texts, the calls, they all give you away. The focus needs to be in your interaction, not so much about how long until you call and the texts. If she finds you splendid everything else can go however it goes. Making out does not mean she is really into you, sex usually does. As exciting as it was for you, keep in mind her interest in you is still probably mild. Best to fix that. Give it a bit of time, then go with a friend to where she works and hit on her colleagues in the most playful way you can. Peacock a bit and make sure the people around her see how great you are. Then punish her for not responding by negging her (don't mention that she didn't respond directly, but just make fun of her in a playful way) and then if she tries to plan something, take that moment to either talk to your friend or change the topic. Before leaving tell her if she wants she can text you and see what to do. If you get another chance to be together, keep it fun and work on being the most interesting person you know. this is exactly what is happening. although I am confident that she is into me. I just expressed too much interest. thanks for the reply!

Author:	smushed [ Tue Mar 26, 2013 2:51 pm ]
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Keep us updated on your next moves. Should be interesting.

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Author:	truejew [ Thu Mar 28, 2013 3:40 pm ]
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an interesting turn of events has unfolded. first off I am a tattoo artist. A professorial making an honest living. A few nights ago I posted a few new designs on the social media. The friend/roomate, that had the birthday party, hit me up and is coming to get one of the designs tattooed tonight. I am still ignoring the one im interested in and the roomate/friend approached me about the tattoo. I plan to play it cool act like a professional as I am. And not mention the one im interested in.

Author:	smushed [ Fri Mar 29, 2013 8:53 am ]
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Maybe that is already your idea, but if you could seduce this girl getting the tattoo, but keep her in the friend zone (so flirt with her and get her into you). Then she'd likely invite you around her and start angling towards your target. Seems like a good amount of work, but could be really interesting as an angle. Would be cool to have some feedback from others about how to play it.

Author:	truejew [ Sat Mar 30, 2013 10:37 pm ]
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she texted me last night. "sorry, I have been feeling cunty. lets have lunch one of these days" I left it alone for a day and texted back "lunch sounds good, what day?" I think I was too direct. and maybe should have waited for a second text.

Author:	smushed [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 8:36 am ]
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It's not the timing, it's the wording. Could have played a bit, replying something like: np, I just adore cunty girls. Huge turn on for me. And instead of validating her lunch suggestion, I would go for: Ah yes, lunch. I do like to eat. When do you want to take me? Everything you write and do is saying to her that you like her and you will let her be dominant. Stop that. All of these routines and postures are to teach guys to be men. Be fine with yourself. Control your interactions. Show that you are dominant. Never put one girl above you.

Author:	truejew [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 3:13 pm ]
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I have been up until this girl... I dont know why I gave up my power like that. shit has been buggin me out. oh well live and learn.

Author:	AdamThomas [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 3:15 pm ]
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Blind leading the blind... You didn't show too much interest, in fact you probably didn't show enough. You're over analysing all of this way too much. Sending a good morning text isn't creepy, it's normal. It's not a big deal if she doesn't reply to one text. Sometimes shit comes up. Often a girl will text me, I'll read the text, but I'll be too busy to reply, then I'll forget to reply later. It doesn't mean I don't like the girl, I just forget. All the girl has to do is text me another time when I'm not as busy and I'll reply. Overthinking tiny little things like that is what fucks most PUAs up. It just makes you act weird. I text girls all the time, even in between dates. It doesn't make you look needy. If she likes you she won't mind it at all. If she doesn't like you, acting aloof and ignoring her isn't going to make her like you more, contrary to what many PUAs will tell you.

Author:	smushed [ Tue Apr 02, 2013 9:22 am ]
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It's not to do with the text, it's with the general neediness. Texting the night of and the next morning isn't necessarily bad or good, but being too interested in her if it's not clearly mutual is a turn off and it's what apparently happened here.

Author:	truejew [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 4:15 am ]
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I tattooed her friend/roomate last night. Didn't mention her at all during the session. Everything went great, she tipped me with weed, beer and $50. She felt so comfortable with me she was topless the whole time (my job is awesome) I acted like the professional that I am and nailed the tattoo. At the end of the night she accidentally gave me some insight on the girl that I'm into. Apperantly the girl is stressed at work (she works two jobs in NYC.) and hasn't been sleeping properly. She was hinting on this during our date and constantly was telling me she wanted to visit my home town that she heard about from mutual friends. Today she had a FB status update that read along the lines of "been at work for 5 hours, dub step till 3am. I am dancing now but will be be crushing skulls later" I sent a PM saying "sounds you need a week off and a hot tub" she responded with "yeah we'll see" I said "it'll come" and she responded with two more messages "hahaha yeah" and "at least the sunshine helps" and I left her hanging for now.

Author:	smushed [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 6:03 am ]
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Quote: At the end of the night she accidentally gave me some insight on the girl that I'm into. Apperantly the girl is stressed at work (she works two jobs in NYC.) and hasn't been sleeping properly. I think that a lot of times what guys think is there lack of game is just a girl being human. I know that I get busy sometimes or get too many women in my life and neglect the ones I enjoy. If one asked their girlfriend what they thought, probably the girlfriend would tell them that I am just not into her, which would be completely wrong. It's a good point to keep in mind as a poster and also for those answering.

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Author:	truejew [ Thu Apr 18, 2013 1:52 am ]
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just a quick update for you all. I have been going out with other ladies and getting #s. still no text or calls from her. but she has been showing her interest on the instagram/fb by liking a couple of my photos and commenting on one of my paintings. been thinking of trying to talk to her again. everyone tells me to not text or call her. some say it would be ok to try and say whats up at her job. not stressing it but I do like her and I hope something might happen.