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| Author: | maxradness [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to get another date! Tricky situation |
I'll try and be as frank as possible. A couple weeks back I opened this chick who sat directly behind me in my college class, and I was having an awful day so I did not even really attempt to game her. The way I opened her was almost on accident, she just took a seat behind me and I said fuck it. Nothing of interest was displayed, just boring talk about the class and what not. Throughout the course of these past couple I decided to actually game her, small talking before and after class using negs such as "your cute but your a terrible liar" and heavily teasing. I played it rather slow bc I did not want to fall to the trap of getting oneitis so some days I would simply leave without saying anything to give our convos some variety. Mixed in some DHV, and I thought I was getting IOIs from her such as reinitiating conversation which is said to be a big one. Fast forward to now, a test came up and I took the lead and told her to get together and study for the mid term(n-close). She accepted and we met up on a wednesday. Im aware that some say study dates are a trap but we really did not end up studying a whole lot, and had more convos toward the end. At the start I used disqualifiers, did a good job of making her laugh by teasing etc etc. Lasted about an hour and a half. Discovered she was 21(im 18 but she doesnt know, I look old bc of my facial hair). I believe more IOIs have taken place such as asking me questions about random things in conversation. I wanted to use the palm reading trick but didnt get to. Im not sure if theres any significance but toward the end of our conversation we started to build rapport and share common interest in things. I believe she started to get more comfortable around me explaining to me about how her parents recently split up and things of that nature. I have texted her on 2 occasions, and she strikes me as almost high maintenance. We got into a short text convo before our study session and she seems to have had bad experience with boyfriends saying there alot of work and saying that guys are high maintenance. I of course played this off and used disqualifiers to the best of my ability. She also explained to me that she keeps her phone on silent, bc she sees her phone as needy(doesnt like to talk on the phone, etc etc). So with this in mind I want to keep the txting low but set up another "date". The day after I texted her about the test and asked how it went, not much flirting at all bc its really difficult to text her. I feel AFC, because after meeting up with her Im really digging her and I really dont wanna lose out on her. I feel like it may be over because I dont see her for class again due to spring break starting, and she is going back home to connecticut(from pennsylvania) and i wont see her for a solid week. I need some opinions on if I went wrong then where, and how can I still manage to get this chick interested over break without being needy in her eyes. Any helps appreciated thanks. |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Um, you're not seeing her for a week and you're afraid about that? That's already being needy. You should have treated her whole "boyfriends are bla bla bla" as shit tests. Ignore that crap. But seems like you have good rapport with her. What you're missing is escalation. Have you been touching her while studying with her? Don't be afraid to get to that before you get friendzoned. |
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| Author: | maxradness [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Quote: Um, you're not seeing her for a week and you're afraid about that? That's already being needy.
Hah! Not exactly afraid as much as just thinking if there is any attraction built itll steam off bc I imagine itll be super difficult texting her over break. But there was no escalation, the way we sat didnt allow for me to be close enough.
You should have treated her whole "boyfriends are bla bla bla" as shit tests. Ignore that crap. But seems like you have good rapport with her. What you're missing is escalation. Have you been touching her while studying with her? Don't be afraid to get to that before you get friendzoned. |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Attraction doesn't die off over a one week break. Relax. And next time, sit right next to her. Make sure there's enough space between the both of you for her to feel comfortable, then gradually get your chair closer to escalate when ready. Don't be afraid to escalate bro. That's your next move. |
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| Author: | maxradness [ Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Quote: Attraction doesn't die off over a one week break. Relax.
Do you think it would be best to wait till class starts again to ask her on a date then?
And next time, sit right next to her. Make sure there's enough space between the both of you for her to feel comfortable, then gradually get your chair closer to escalate when ready. Don't be afraid to escalate bro. That's your next move. |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 12:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Yeah, that's an excellent idea if you want to crash and burn. You don't just ask her out on a date. You were already on a date with her when you studied with her. Think about it. What's a date after all? It's a moment alone with a girl. Doesn't need to be over a candle-lit dinner. Any moment alone with her is your opportunity to escalate. Escalation is your difference maker. Touching her thighs, putting your arm around her shoulder, kissing her cheek... These are your most powerful tools. Not opening your mouth and asking her out on a date. That would just make it awkward. |
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| Author: | maxradness [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 3:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Other than a date Im not sure when else I can get alone time with her, but I guess well see what happens. The most I see her on a class week would be twice with conversational time before and after class |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 3:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
Then wait for your opportunity. Don't jump out of the gate like a hungry lion. The best hunters wait patiently for their prey. You won't lose her if your next alone time with her is in 3 weeks. But you WILL lose her if you awkwardly ask her out. Mind you, you don't need to be alone with her to perform light kino. A small rub on her lower back, or gently squeezing her arm may seem innocent in nature, but send powerful vibes that she wouldn't forget. |
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| Author: | maxradness [ Fri Mar 15, 2013 3:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get another date! Tricky situation |
I'll keep this in mind, I guess just keep cool while escalating and flirting when I do see her and not be too try hard/needy |
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