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Author:  Amazed [ Tue Mar 05, 2013 2:11 am ]
Post subject:  Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
Hey guys, first time poster. I need a little advice in regards to gauging IOIs and genuine interest with this girl i have been texting the last few weeks. On her birthday i messaged her on Facebook "Happy Birthday!" and stemmed a conversation on from there. I have yet to really meet her in person but we had each other on facebook for a few years.
After that small exchange on fb chat on her birthday, i ended by saying "If your ever interested in meeting up for a drink after class, heres my number (000-000-0000)". She said absolutely and she would text me later with her name.

A day later she messaged me and we started texting. I took this as a huge IOI because if she was completely creeped out by my proposal she just wouldnt have texted back. We have had about 3-4 text sessions (every one of which i have initiated) of teasing, banter, and small rapport building. If i were to ask a question she would answer then ask one of her own to keep the conversation going (another IOI). Also there seems to be about 1-2 exclamation points per text on her part which i think is another IOI. We have a meet set up for tm and we are going for drinks.

I was thinking about maybe doing some small neging like maybe comment on how she does duck faces on her Facebook pics, but come back around and say that they are cute though. Also going to run with some of the standard first meeting practices and getting some information i could use for future encounters. Its a casual mid afternoon drink date which leads me to believe i shouldnt pursue heavy Kino and maybe just keep it with a light armbrush and maybe a hug afterwards.

Any thoughts or ideas to help improve my situation or help gauge her interest would be fantastic!

Thanks Gentlemen
Author:  SLIPKNOT [ Wed Mar 06, 2013 2:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
Don't focus too much on what her level of interest is. If she is willing to go out with you at all, she has enough to build on.

I'd also avoid negs. Instead give her small hoops to gradually build a yes ladder. Make sure to give her one compliment not beauty related.

Before you actually get together, set the tone for the date by texting her something that is definitely sexual but, can be played off entirely by acting kidding.

I love how I dealt with this chick...

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I'd just raise her "willing to see me level" to "willing to do more than see me level" if you can.

In her mind, she isn't sure really how things will go. Getting her mind thinking about you sexually, even if it looks like a joke, at least plants the scenario in her head.
Author:  Amazed [ Thu Mar 07, 2013 7:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
Dude i really like the Vasectomy text. I comes off as funny but sexual and gets her thinking about my 'item' in a non threatening way. It will most likely be used.

We didnt end up getting together. But she seemed interested. Here is the texts

Me "Hey, whats up"

Her "Hey just finished class, doing some work for my next class hbu!"

Me "Same actually grabbing a drink with some friends. Your missing out :P"

Her "Haha yea i guess i can drink in between classes now eh!"

Me "You sure can! Alcoholism at its finest haha. How's your schedule looking like this week?"

Her "Nothing like getting tipsy in between classes! I might be at school on break from 2:30-4 tm"

Me "Oh thats cool, ill be in the lib doing research al day tm. Want to meet up on your break for a drink?"

Her "Yea sure! Ill let you know if i stay"

"Sounds good to moi"

NEXT DAY - Around 12

Me "Hey, down for some drinks today? I need to kill a few brain cells aha"

Her "Hey would tomoroow work better! I have a break from 1-3?"

Me "I have class during that time, a boring 2 hour lecture. Today's not good?

Her "Unfortunately not! I have class till 1 then i gotta go for an hour cuz i have a quiz and i forgot my book at home"

Me "Its all good, I'd suggest maybe meeting Thursday but im going to the zoo to steal a money. Ive always wanted one for myself"

Her "Haha are you legit"

Me "Lets hangout Friday, if all goes according to plan you can meet him"

Her "Seems pretty wild haha but yea unfortunately business likes to schedule midterms on Saturday mornings so i kind of have a date with my books Friday"

Me "Thats brutal, sucks to be you :P. Maybe sometime next week then"

So theres one flake plus the 'date' with the books on friday. Any thoughts on how i should approach from here?
Author:  SLIPKNOT [ Thu Mar 07, 2013 9:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
When I read through your texts, they are breaking rule #2. There is also way to much boring regular what are doing blah blah blah texts. That monkey one was good, the rest were just too plain.

Create an emotional impact or build connection.

For your next text I'd wait several days.

If she texts you, reply with EMOTIONAL IMPACT!!

If you hear nothing, try one of these...

What color thong are you wearing? And by that I mean happy Sunday!!

Hey bratface..!! Did you forget how to use a phone or are you just playing hard to get?

Don't be alarmed if next time I see you I go straight for 3rd base.

Love at first site doesn't exist for people but, it can for cocks. Just saying.

Quit giving her straight answers. It takes all the mystery out of you.

Nevermind, I'll tell ya later rockstar.

Do you always pry into peoples business? I'm not easy like that.

So basically, quit with the normal guy stuff. If you just think to yourself what it's the answer that 19 out of 20 guys would say, don't send that text. Instead, say what you want to say, not what you think she wants to hear.

The same holds true for pickup, the bold guy that gets in her face is the guy who bangs her. Be BOLD and ramp it up sexually.
Author:  Amazed [ Fri Mar 08, 2013 12:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
Thanks dude, we last texted on Tuesday so im thinking about either waiting till saturday to say "Hey did you fail that midterm :P?" or something along the lines of that. The only thing im worried about is that it is a weekend and i dont normally text girls i havent even gone out with yet on the weekend because i think it conveys weakness in the sense that i want them to think that i have better shit going on during the weekend.

Also based off of her rhetoric when she says "3pm tomoro sound good" or when she had mentioned a "date" with her books. Do you think its a minor IOI that she was proactive in attempting to do another day. Also how maybe the word "date" is in her subconscious mind might mean a good thing.

Thoughts?

But i agree completely Slip, i need to ramp up the sexual innuendo, good advice!
Author:  SLIPKNOT [ Fri Mar 08, 2013 2:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
Okay you either don't understand me or can't figure out what I'm trying hard to explain. Go back to that link from my post with the rules I follow for texting. Before you ever send a message ever, look over the rules and see if it breaks any of those. If it does, do NOT send it or you will look like a pussy.

Hey, did you fail those midterms :D ?

Are you kidding me. This is a typical no pussy getting nice guy text.

For starters, it's a question. Questions are only allowed of they are sexual or setting dates. That's it. Your just fluffing.
The next thing is there its no emotional impact at all.
Quit acting like you care. Even if you do, don't act like Mr. concerned.
And emoticons are childish at best. Use them sparingly but only if sexual.

Hey did you fail blah blah blah (I'm not a man so I'll insert this) :D is just screaming AFC.

Pick one of the texts I gave you. If you have to mention her stupid mid term use one if these.

I heard you failed those mid terms. At least you still have a nice ass.

You should study at my place for tests but, only when you take Human Sexuality.

Fun fact, I'm having a post mid term party in my bed. You can come but, only if you're cool with being naked for me.

Another thing I noticed is that you should be talking open ended. Like full time. Only text with direct statements.

Hey, Epic Fail, heard you failed midterms would convey the same message as your text but, do.it in a fucking z I'm the man bitch kind of way. Got it yet. Re read those rules until you have it mastered.
Author:  Amazed [ Fri Mar 08, 2013 9:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
For sure. Im so used to AFC bullshit ive been socialized with. I need to break out of this shit. Thanks alot slip for the advice.

Edit: When do you think i should message her next Slip? Last time we texted was Tuesday.
Author:  SLIPKNOT [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 7:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting up the first meet, IOIs and more
The timing of your text is far less important than the quality. If your timing is off but, the text itself is a high quality emotion provoking message, it will almost always get a response.

Since you seem to be stuck, I'll explain this a little more in depth. I'll give you a bunch of examples since at first it doesn't make any sense.

Create an emotional impact...

I use emotions like arousing, funny, insulting, etc.

When I use a text like "don't be alarmed if I grab your ass and crush your body into mine"

The text speak = warning I plan on being sexual with you!

When I say stuff like "hey bratface, I heard you failed your test but, at least you have a nice ass."

The text speak = I'm not afraid you'll reject me cause I called you a name, plus I want to smack your ass.


When I say "what color thong are you wearing? And by that, I mean happy Friday"

The text speak = I'm thinking about you sexually, glad it's the end of the week.

When I say "on a scale of 1 to 10, how hard do you want me to slap your ass?"

The text speak = I want to fuck you and the higher # of your response means you want the same thing.

How about "my cock is really small, can you just pretend it's the biggest you've ever had?"

The text speak = My cock is big, so get ready to be stretched out.

Or "would it be inappropriate if the next time I see you, I make out with your face?

The text speak = I want permission to sexually escalate right away.

I sent this one recently to a chick I only met once and was getting together with.

HB-will you even recognize me?
SK-no, send me a nude pic from the chest down. Or just a regular one.

The text speak = I want to see your actual pic but, won't be offended if you send a nude one.

She replied unexpectedly with a pic of her tits. I actually just wanted her face pic since we were meeting at a popular bar and I haven't seen her in a month.


This one turned out good. "I'm very good at massages but, I'm good at other things too"

The text speak = I've had my hands all over women on many occasions, I've had other parts of my body touching them pleasurably as well.

Every text I send is not a ? unless it involves sex or a get together.

Now for the build connections...

I've used "you + me = trouble, I'm in"

The text speak = we we are probably going to at least be making out very soon.

Or "we haven't even had sex yet but, l don't care. Your still on my bucket list."

The text speak = you are on my to do list of shit I will accomplish before dead.

What you actually say always has an undertone to what is meant. Notice that almost every text I send is a statement. No ?s unless sexual.

Text her whenever you want to. There isn't a magical timeline to follow as long as you follow the rules.

The rules I laid out suck btw. Not because they don't work but, because they are fucking HARD to follow. Just suck it up and follow those rules. You'll notice as off the charts and awful they seem, they totally work.

At first I was skeptical myself. I sent many texts I thought were crazy only to have them reply too with more crazy woman stuff.


I can't explain why but, this is best system yet. Just follow the rules because your texts are pretty boring.



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