Hi,
I had a kiss close last weekend with a HB7. She is is not extremely gorgeous but she's a very spontaneous girl and she's fun to hang around with (perfect to get along with for social proof
).It was at a carnival party, she was dressed up as Waldo. I tried to run some routines and got some IOI's from her. But it was very hard to isolate and go for a kiss close, because she is just getting out of a relationship after being abroad for 2 months. (She told me she is not sure if they were still a couple since he hasn't texted back to some of her texts or sth)
After the party we had to go the same road home. She was telling about her (ex-)bf, and I told her he was not worth it if he was not texting back. Basically I kinda tried to convince her not to go for him and go for me (which in the end was pretty AFC I think)
When we arrived at my house I invited her in, but she said she shouldn't do this (because of her (ex-)bf). I can't tell the exact things I said anymore (it has been a while and I was a bit drunk). In the end I did just kiss close on the porch.
I analysed the situation later, and I think that the talk about her (ex-)bf was just a shit test. By responding to it as in "well he's not worth it if he does not text you back" and kinda trying to convince her i just failed the shit test. In the end I was happy to have kissed her but i think it was all just pretty AFC-ish.
I'm wondering what's the good way to respond here??? I'm sure she was interested in me some way, and if I could have convinced her I might have f-closed!
Also a few days later I spoke to her on fb and she asked me if I did not tell anyone about that evening. So apparently there was not only resistance the evening itself but also maybe some regret the day after...
I told her i told everyone :p (which obviously i didn't)
After that situation I started thinking I reallly have to work to improve my game. I should be more in the field as well as analyse the situations more after, to see what i do wrong. Guess I'll spend some more time here too
.I havn't contacted her since. actually I would like to, but I think maybe it would seem a bit needy to ask her out. Anyway I'm sure I have to DHV next time I see her.
Does anyone has some advice on how I should have handled it that evening? And how I should contact her again?
Tnx!!
It would be a good start to get to improving my game!