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| Author: | bay [ Tue Jan 08, 2013 10:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | pursue or let it go? |
Background I met a HB7 through a friend about 3 years ago. we all went clubing once or twice and flirted a bit but nothing serious because I was in a relationship at the time. 3 years later for new years I get a text from the friend asking to go out for new years and she mentioned that the HB7 says hi. I replied saying that I had plans tell your friend I said hi and that I want to marry her. she responded saying that she would marry me in a heart beat. We ended up planning a club night for last Saturday. I met them at the club, as I showed the HB7 gave me the biggest hug and seemed really excited to see me. after a trip to the bar we were dancing together. I noticed her looking at my lips so I leaned in for a kiss. That would trigger an hour long make out session in the club. they were leaving early so I got her number and said good bye. I must mention that we had very minimal conversation because we were making out the majority of the night. After they left I ended up staying at the club with some of my friends. I didn't contact her the rest of the night(might have messed up there) called her the next day and she didnt anwser so I sent her a text... saying hope you got home safe. thanks for making my night and hope to see you soon... she messaged back about 5 hours later saying... they got home safe and that it was nice seeing me... today I sent a meassage asking how her day was and havent gotten a response... I know it has only been a day that she hasent responded but I'm not really sure what I should be doing. should I chill out for a couple of days and try and start convo again or should I just drop it because she seems like a flake? Should I take her lack of a response as an indication that she is not interested? Any advice would be apprieciated |
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| Author: | Devin [ Tue Jan 08, 2013 8:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: pursue or let it go? |
Okay! Well currently I'm having trouble with getting girls to text back; but my big problem has more to do with the fact that I'm not much of a texter, and tend to not text the women for several days, at which point, it's far too late. But I can provide some ideas, (and perhaps this will inspire me to follow my own advice, heh heh..). I've found it's usually best to text the girl after she leaves the venue on the same night, because then you don't have to do the whole "Hey I'm _____ from the other night". It's throws an unfamiliar vibe into the mix. So, a couple things here. You guys made out for a while with not a lot of conversation. That's can be a problem, since she loses sexual momentum as the night subsides. Think about it- you're dancing, and both aroused from the contact, and end up making out- which only furthers said arousal. After that, she goes home, and after the drive, she's no longer horny. When she's calmed down, it's possible she feels like you have the impression that she's "in it" to get physical, and becomes uncomfortable, since she thinks there's a motive behind your contacting her since you didn't build any comfort, especially since it's been so long and you didn't really have any serious conversations when you met initially. So that aside, we can talk about now. I think some of the texts you're sending are completely unentertaining and generic; they do't really demand/provoke responses. You don't want to invest that much early on; make sure they're different. "Hey Lord of the Dance, what are you upto? End any world hunger today?" "So, I saw something that reminded me of you". <- (I have good results with this one). "Jack Daniels 5, Devin 0...I'm going to need a baseball sized aspirin.." Not particularly fascinating conversations, but they provoke a response and they're entertaining. If you ask "how was your day" it just seems as if your begging for a response, in addition, it's what everyone sends her. The timing in these cases is a little weird; since she's not responding, you don't want to come across as needy by sending tons of text messages. At the same time, you really don't have anything to lose, try texting her something creative, you don't want to wait too TOO long, or else she'll sort of forget about the interaction even more as the time between your interaction grows. |
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| Author: | bay [ Wed Jan 09, 2013 10:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: pursue or let it go? |
Hey thanks for the advice. I agree with you with the text messages were generic. Will probable send another one in a couple of days and will put a little more thought into it. thanks again |
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| Author: | fishsticks01 [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 5:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: pursue or let it go? |
Second reply was somewhat straight on. You did good with not texting her the same night, NEVER text a girl the same night you met. Your texts are boring, and spice it up a little. ask her who would win in a contest between a rabbit and a smurf, her response will tell u a lot about how she thinks and what she thinks of you. She has to NOT reply immediately to your texts, thats how every girl who wants to be seen as someone a man would marry has to act. Shes leaving you hanging... thinking about her , etc. If you set dates up and she doesnt show up twice, then she is flaking. Bro, she wants to marry you, get that ass playa!! |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Thu Jan 10, 2013 6:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: pursue or let it go? |
Text her this: "Hey, after the other night I woke up with some red sores on my lips. Actually went to the doctor today for it and...well, just call me, will you. We need to talk." Your phone will start ringing within 30 seconds. |
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