Why women flake in pickup





Flaking is one of the most common frustrations that men have when it comes to dating women. I think flaking is something that is just human nature; I guess its procrastinating being lazy etc. I’m sure we can all agree that when we have an arranged appointment to go to an event if you like, when it comes to the day of the appointment we feel like not turning up. I cannot explain why we human beings are almost hard wired to be lazy or lack motivation to do simple things, like attending a dentist can feel like a huge commitment on the day for example. I like to break things down in terms of investment when it comes to attending an invitation in regards to flaking- let’s say your best friend invites you to his birthday party when it comes to the day of the party, you will probably ask yourself hmmm is it worth going? I’m not sure I’m in the mood today? You start making all kinds of reasons or an excuse if you like not to attend. Then your loyalty kicks in and you say oh no I can’t let him down, we been friends for years it would be horrible of me so you do turn up and the part goes great and you think I’m so glad I turned up! What a little devil I was to even consider flaking on my best friend hehe.

You see this is a little similar when it comes to women flaking on you! The level of investment is pretty low in regards to how long she has known you for. Let’s say you number close a women in Daygame and you speak to her for let’s say 5-10 minutes and you propose meeting up and she agrees and you exchange contact numbers. You then text her and she responds and you both agree to meet up for a drink 2 days later for example. The day comes and you’re all excited getting your new freshly ironed shirt ready and your nicely pressed jeans with a splash of good-smelling after-shave! oh noo hold on a second you receive a text from her, your all intrigued only to see “I’m really sorry I can’t make it today I have to help my sister move house I’m really sorry!” boooooom you feel like you just collapsed inside and you’re so angry, how could this girl do this to me I can’t understand she seemed completely interested in me?

You have to put things into perspective the girl does not know you well enough to push her plans aside to meet you. If you play the game right and don’t show her that you’re bothered and just text her back “ok.”. This will actually make her feel rejected as she is not used to guys responding in this way. I speak from personal experience having gone through all this specific scenarios in dating women over the years. I think it all comes from a value perspective that women will be attracted to a man who she perceives to have high value. I guess this goes back to the whole evolution theory the tribal leader alpha male who can provide the woman survival value. I think if I was just to be completely straight and honest with the modern man of today I would just say stop feeling sorry for yourself and behaving like a little bitch!!! Then women would not treat you badly, be a man come on guys.

Lots of guys are too hard on themselves when it comes to women & dating: Sometimes circumstances play a role in the girl flaking on you and it’s nothing to do with your lines or level of game. If you had a friend or family member who was in need you would flake on someone to attend your loved one so same goes for women. Most guys don’t have any patience when it comes to dating and this is a rookie mistake and will lose you lots of women. In Daygame especially you have to be patient as lots of the women you are meeting do have busy lives and the way you meet them plays a part in how they perceive you. Women are not stupid they have seen enough guys come and go to know who is who, so when you stop a woman in the street and chat her up she knows you have done this before which is a turn on for her emotionally but logically rings alarm bells!! hehee but I feel meeting women in Daygame puts you in a high position as a man with balls the size of Arnold – schwarzeneggers biceps at least from the woman’s perspective anyway which is good enough for me.

I personally found that my flaking almost completely reduced when I played the numbers game and had the ‘don’t give a fuck’ attitude which women could clearly pickup on. This is about the best advice I could give a newbie on how to reduce your flakes in Daygame as you will just have the abundance mindset and this will actually manifest into your game/personality if you like and women will feel this and be very attracted towards this behaviour. It’s kind of how things work in life where by the more you cling onto things the less you really have them so same applies to attractive women. So don’t show all your cards on some broad you meet outside the coffee shop for 5 minutes. When you have slept with her and been dating her then fair enough to show your feelings as a man and to show that natural neediness that lies in us all. That’s why you have to be disciplined to be good at daygame as women will test you and flake on you to see how you respond as a man. You have to also remember that women are far from perfect they too have their hang ups and will often back out of dates as they feel insecure about how they look and perhaps it’s that time of the month when the river flows red, you get my drift or did I miss a meeting at the office guys.

Flaking due to your level of daygame: I call it the newbie flaking stage yee ha this is your vibe, you’re overexcited and the girls can pick up on this as well as the classic beginner mistakes you make:

. Talking too fast

. Trying too hard to impress the girls

. Not listening to what the girl says

. Dhv-ing to the girl

. Not using strong eye contact

. Not using a sexual undertone- sub-communication

. Agreeing on everything the girl says

. Not letting the girl invest enough

. Not showing enough masculinity

These are all common beginner mistakes that 99% of guys make when talking to girls in Daygame or just in general. Once you get these down and master them your flaking will really reduce and your overall confidence with women will grow as well as your results in Daygame. If you were to get right to the core of flaking it would also be approach-anxiety that can cause flakes as it’s anxiety that does not enable you to be your best self or at least communicate with women in the right way in order to attract them.

These are all the key points that enabled me to be successful with women and you too can do the same if you practice and put the level of commitment into going out and approaching women. I think guys think that you can eventually find a perfect method that women will be love-struck and never flake on you? haha let me enlighten you fellow daygamers around the globe!! no matter how good you are, women will always flake on you! The only thing you can do is reduce the flakes through building enough connection/attraction and basically getting out on the field and taking action. I mean when you’re hitting the streets hardcore and approaching lots of hot women you don’t give a fuck if several women flake on you as you have so many women who will love you and want to see you again. I guess it’s just the process a newbie must undergo in order to see the matrix in pick up if you like.

You must remember women are flaky by nature as they are hardwired to be extra cautious unlike us tribal leader men who just tend to go for it. I think again in order to reduce flakes you must project this type of vibe that says you’re a happy non-needy guy that is going places and does not need a woman to validate him to feel good. I guess the more you work on yourself the more attractive you become and the fewer flakes you will get as women will want to see you. However if you are thinking that every phone number you collect will work then boyyyy you need a reality check my son cause such is life, it’s never a bed of roses it’s human nature we are dealing with so just enjoy the journey for what it is and fail your way to success.

Johnny Berba

Lucifer7 you asked baout compliments. I'm no expert so perhaps you would like to get other peoples ideas as well however when it come sto compliments i tend to avoid giving them but if i do give them I try not to go overboard. For example I might comment on a piece of clothing, a personality trait - ie the way somebody talks , their communication skills but i try to avoid saying stuff like about somebodies physical appearance.

Some poepl emay think that - thats unproductive however think about a hot female , the sort that turns heads when you are in the car, the sort that people cropss the road just to get a better loook at her. Think about how many times she gets complimented per day about her apperance. A hot female gets ocmplimented dozens of times per week. When she hears it agian and again she categorizes the person giving the compliment and thinks not another guy trying to beforied me and suck up to me. This would act as a turn off to her.

I'm not expecting everybody to agree with the above views and don't mind listening to alternatives but thats the way I see it and the reason I don't go overboard with complimenting a female on 1st meeting.