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Author:  2young2bcaring [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 6:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Possible too much interest too fast how to fix?
So I got this girl's phone number and we started texting and I started running game on her and she was eating it all up. I was surprised I had just met her and she was talking about taking off her clothes, screwing me, kissing, going with me to amusement parks yada yada yada.
Anyway we went on a date and ended up making out in the back of my car. We both go the same very small private college. But this is two days before I leave for break. She said if she couldn't come out my way over Christmas for sure she'd be back on campus after the break.
The next night I texted her asking if she wanted to go for a late night walk, both knowing what it meant. She said she had already made plans but if she could get out of them then most definitely. I said okay we could make it ten or eleven it didn't have to be at nine thirty like i suggested just let me know. She didn't see that message till 10:30 but she didn't reply.
Right before I left the next day I sent her a simple "I'm getting coffee at the shop on campus. you should come. last chance to see me before I leave :P". She didn't see that text until like literally eight hours later and I was already home but again she didn't reply.

I'm just not gonna contact her over break, but she was so into me, and I think maybe I'm overreacting and that she just didn't reply because she got the texts late and it is finals week. Or did I screw up by texting her? I mean she replied and was into it so I'm confused why she didn't reply. And she said she wanted to see me before I was off for the break so again I'm confused. Maybe I'm just overreacting and need to play it cool and wait it out? Let her come to me? I'm trying to learn.... And yes, before you say it, I already have another date today and the text about the second date was sent while I was on another date with another girl so I'm doing fine hitting up other girls I'm just trying to learn from the pros.
Author:  AmazingArt [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:35 pm ]
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So I got this girl's phone number and we started texting and I started running game on her and she was eating it all up.
This is a sellers point of view. You look at game as an external thing. Also you're viewing it as if she has to "eat" what you sell to her in order for things to be good it's almost like your selling yourself to her (reaction seeking). Instead try to look as game as part of you because that's what it is. It's inner confidence. Don't run game on her but rather run "your personality" on her. Show her what you are and demand from her to see what's she's like (not reaction seeking). See if she's the girl you want (buyers point of view). As far as the girl, she likes you and you're overreacting. Just be chilled, don't text her but rather call her.
Author:  2young2bcaring [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 11:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Possible too much interest too fast how to fix?
Well I mean I'm 400 miles away do I have a reason to call until break is over? Is it a bit too serious to call her to wish a merry Christmas? I can always do that
Author:  2young2bcaring [ Sat Dec 15, 2012 5:54 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Possible too much interest too fast how to fix?
I mean how am I overreacting? If she was truly interested wouldn't she have texted back? I'm going through nicotine withdrawal and am all paranoid and can't think straight. I just wish I heard back from her which makes me want to keep trying but I don't want to seem too interested. Maybe letting it lie for three weeks is a good way to go?
Author:  DaveUrkel (BlackWhitePU) [ Sat Dec 15, 2012 11:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Possible too much interest too fast how to fix?
No, not contacting her for 3 weeks is not the way to go.

Number 1: what happened on the original date where you guys were making out in the back of your car? Did you not escalate towards sex or did you escalate and she stopped you?

Number 2: There's no surefire way to turn it back around. There are a million reasons why a girl might be really hot for you and then cool out. If she didn't respond to 2 texts, just wait a few days and then try again. Something that is not at all reaction seeking would be good. Something like "Hahaha oh my god, this lady in line in front of me is crazy!! She kinda reminds me of you :P" Just something to get a response from her. All you can do at this point is keep in contact with her over the break. Doesn't me you have to text her everyday, but just make sure you're in contact and one phone call over the break would be good.
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I mean how am I overreacting? If she was truly interested wouldn't she have texted back??
You're overreacting for a few reasons. First of all, even if she never responds to any of your texts ever again, there are millions of other girls out there. Just like you said, you were on another date. Second of all, I've had many girls who have not responded to my texts and then out of nowhere they respond. Maybe they were busy or whatever, it could be a number of things. I had one girl who didn't respond to my texts for a couple weeks and out of nowhere texted me back and we ended up going on a date the next night and having lots of fun in the back of my car (and not just making out :) ). So, you're overreacting because you really don't know why she's not responding. You just have to NOT be needy, so back off a little if she didn't respond and give it another shot in a few days.
Author:  2young2bcaring [ Sat Dec 15, 2012 3:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Possible too much interest too fast how to fix?
I did initiate sex but knowing she was a virgin I asked if she wanted to go any further. She said maybe next time I see you. I'm just curious what's the best time to send a text? Middle of the day? Late at night? I don't like feeling all caught up in my own head it's not fun or pleasant and I can feel myself mentally sinking. Your replies really help though. I have a girl I'm meeting today back home I'm fuck buddies with so that should help take my mind at ease.
Author:  2young2bcaring [ Sun Dec 16, 2012 4:08 am ]
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I wonder what to text her. I'm all in my head about what I should say if she doesn't respond. My question is like I'm superstitious that now that I've asked for help its doomed to fail because I didn't figure it out on my own. Is that crazy? I feel like I've talked too much about it now its never going to work. I've made up my mind despite the evidence she doesn't like me and even if she does maybe because I thought she didn't it'll make her not like in that book the secret?
Author:  2young2bcaring [ Sun Dec 23, 2012 1:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Possible too much interest too fast how to fix?
So I used your line about the market and it worked wonderfully she was still totally into me. Idk why she didnt reply before. Maybe she just sucks at texting. I then sent her another text a day ago and she hasn't even looked at it which is strange. Should I try to text her again or wait a couple of days and call?
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