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| Author: | ERida [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 6:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
The Background So I met this HB 9 earlier on this year through mutual friends but hardly see her as she lives far from me. We've all gone out a few times since we've met and I've ran game on her, built rapport, and number closed. We all went out a few months ago and I ran the what she is looking for in a guy routine. It was golden! Thanks to whoever posted that! I had noticed some IOI's form her but had never actually asked her to be my girl as we hardly see each other and for now we are friends. The Scenario Last month we all planned to hit the club and go dancing. I texted her and asked if she was coming. She wanted to come but not drive as it was far. I offered to pick her up to which she said that was very nice and gladly accepted. We went out danced and had a great time. Since I didn't know when I was going to see her again, this was my shot to ask her out and do it PUA style and not AFC. I remained cool and confident as I told her straight up that she was hot and that I liked her more than just a friend. I knew she was not expecting this so I immediately threw in some cocky funny material to diffuse any awkwardness that might try to creep up. The material worked and got her to laugh and smile. I told her to think about giving me a shot and let me know. The Help Needed Since then, I've had to switch to my texting game to ask her out. I've asked her out several times now but she always has plans. I know for a fact it's true so she's not making stuff up. It's been more than a week since my last attempt as she is out of the country and won't be back till end of this week. I randomly asked a girl for her perspective and she said that she likes to be pursued as its more fun!?? She said to keep at it. Here's where I need some help. Any ideas on what to do get her to go out? Is she playing hard to get or not interested? She has returned my texts so far when I've asked her out. One of them said she would go out to the club soon? Any help would be appreciated! |
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| Author: | NorthBoy [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 3:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
Really hard to say. However, I would not listen to your female friend. Girls have a tendency to tell us to do things that get us into the friend zone : Be nice, be there for a girl (that you don't really know), chase her, etc. You have your own life and you should not always be texting the girl for a meet-up. It is your life that is important and what you should do is just give her the opportunity to be part of it. Instead of asking her out to the club or something like that, just tell her "I'll be with my friends at (whatever the place), you should join!" If she declines, its just too bad for her because she is missing to fun. Oh and btw, hot girls ALWAYS (almost) have plans! If you always wait on friday to ask her out on the same friday, most of the time she will have something. If you just suggest her to join what you are already doing, there is a chance thay she might join you (with her friends or not) if her activity is boring or if it's close to you. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 5:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
I couldn't think of anything worse to say to a girl than "I think you are hot, I want to be your bf, think about it and let me know." That being said, you've dug yourself one helluva hole here my friend. You're best bet is to just stay at it and find out when she's going to the club again and go with her, or let her go with you rather. The thing about her liking to be pursued is somewhat true. But it's also a way that girls weed men out. The ones that don't chase at all fall off of her radar. The ones that chase too much come across as needy and desparate and she blows them off. The trick is to stay in contact with her but give her mixed signals. Talk about going out without constantly asking her out. Try to let her make the suggestion that the two of you should meet. I've said this a thousand times on here and I'll say it yet again. After she is done talking to you, you want her to call her girlfriend and be like "I can't tell if he likes me or not. He keeps calling me but I'm getting mixed signals..." The reason this is good is because it means you'll be stuck in her mind and she'll need to go out with you to try and figure out what your intentions actually are. |
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| Author: | ERida [ Tue Nov 27, 2012 3:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
Thanks for your help fellas much appreciate it. I know now what the answer is. She texted me and said it would be best to LJBF. Don't know if I should just blow her off and move on or see if I can get out of the LJBF zone and continue the pursuit from there. She did say she was thinking of going out dancing this weekend and would let me know. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Tue Nov 27, 2012 12:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
Of course. Telling a girl you think she is hot gives her all the power. She knows she can have you at any time so she says LJBF that way she can continue shopping for men and come back to you if she doesn't find anything else. I mean, you already told her she's hot and you want her, so she knows she can always get you if she wants. Btw, she won't let you know. She just said that to buy herself some time and give you the false hope that you might get to go out with her several days from now. But she wont' call you or agree to go on a date. She'll either have an excuse or hit you with more LJBF. All you can do now is bring some other girl to the same club this girl is at and make out in front of her. |
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| Author: | ERida [ Wed Jun 12, 2013 5:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
So here's an update. I saw her one more time after and texted her a few times but didn't receive that same interest. Stopped communication all together. A few months ago she texted me to see if I was going to this place we all hang out. Long story short, her and I hung out a couple of weekends back to back in which I DHV'd, negged her, and was CF. Not sure if that was enough to spark some attraction but definitely felt we connected more and created more comfort. Flirted with her to let her know I was still interested in her however, she said we had talked about this. I know she has a great time with me and enjoys when I neg her although she acts all offended but she laughs the whole time. People tell me she is just a friendly person. I know there has to be a way but I'm not sure what I'm missing to spark that attraction and move out of the LJBF zone and into BF zone. So the question is, is it possible to get out of the LJBF zone and if so how. Her B-day is coming up, not sure if I should do something. |
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| Author: | Broseidon55 [ Wed Jun 12, 2013 7:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
You're firmly in the friend zone, you're not getting out anytime soon. Best bet is to move on. You might find she gets interested again once she sees you have other options. |
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| Author: | AFCToTheMax [ Wed Jun 12, 2013 2:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is she playing hard to get or just not insterested? |
Man, sometimes there is no way to make her attracted. You can forget it. No trick, NLP or Mistery Method shit will help generating attraction if it's not there already. First time you blew it by asking her to be your gf instead of taking action of physically escalate. Your recent posts suggest that same. You basically just talk. Like friends. Since you are being a pussy she has no attraction. Forget her. |
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