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Author:  Dave Blaze [ Sun Nov 11, 2012 8:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Got numbers, what's next?
Went to a couple college parties this weekend and definitely got a lot of good responses from girls and got numbers if we had some sort of connection. Got six numbers altogether (Did the hand phone to girl technique). Now what's the game plan? Do I build rapport by mentioning that I had a lot of fun and that I was glad to meet them and keep building on that and then ask them to chill? Should I not text them until a few days later? I have no idea how to proceed.... Some people say that texting is just a means to get her to meet with you, but I don't want to seem TOO needy. Also I texted them letting them know my name and where I met them so they wouldn't forget about 3 hours later.

My ideal situation is to find a girl that wouldn't flake and get her to invite me to a party that she knows.
Author:  Dave Blaze [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 12:53 am ]
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Alright 10 views, no comments, or replies real big help ppl. So I messaged all six of them. Out of the six, only two replied back to me. Didn't act needy or nothing just replied with a good vibe/feeling about last night. The one I talked to (HB 8.5) said she doesn't remember what I look like or what we talked about, even though we had good communication, IOI's, we even talked about her ethnicity, good communication etc. All of the girls I talked to don't have a bf btw I sneakily asked about (Where's your bf at?). The other girl (HB 5.5/6) is a goddamn slut. She was sloppy as hell at the party and kinoing every guy there. She now is talking to me, and acting like she's hot shit. I called her on it and said that she was sloppy, also called her out that she is playing hard to get, and she said if she was that I would fall for it. I told her ahha your funny maybe some fool. Not me I don't play those games just being honest. She says that I'm too intimidating, and not in a good way. THATS WHY I FUCKING HATE TEXTING YOU CANT EXPRESS EMOTION, I'm never that serious. I'm seriously getting fed up with this bullshit. On the other hand I just broke up with my ex that I've been with for 4 years. She fucked me over and had to let me go because of personal issues. So while I'm struggling she's probably having a ball fucking every guy out there. I just don't get it. Also I take care of myself, dress nice, go to the gym, and I'm good looking (not to be cocky). I would be expecting bitches flocking on my dick. I see them with these ugly assholes and I just laugh my ass off. At the same time I've been really invested watching videos and looking up on these forums.
Author:  smooth_criminal [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 4:49 am ]
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My advice: the best way to look at it is that if you can get six one night, then you most likely can get six more the next time around. Hit them up when you are ready (not based on some schedule), see what they are all about.

If you get positive feedback work with it and build on it. Suggest another meet up, somewhere that takes the girl out of her usual comfort zone, so she sees it as kind of an adventure. Something different -- like a trail walk, the beach, the park, whatever.

If you're just looking to hook up, then go straight for the invite to your place to watch a movie or something and see how she responds. Bottom line is that every girl is gonna be different and each one is gonna want something different from you. The key is to know what you want so you won't waste time with the ones who don't "click" with you.

In the end, a lot of it is a numbers game anyway, so as long as you're getting numbers, you're got some game to play.

Know what you want, find out what she wants, and then decide if she's worth the effort or if you should look for something else instead of wasting your time. Just like with fishing, you're gonna cast your net, some are gonna slip through, and not everything you catch is gonna be worth keeping.
Author:  PUA-Enigma [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 11:27 am ]
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a few things I would add that you may find useful now or in future #closes

1. try and remember a funny thing you talked to each girl about (maybe even save it as a note on u'r fone!) - you can then use this in f/u txts
2. as soon as you take the no you could txt immediately - i usually txt "u'r cute but crazy ;) xx" n ask em to check their fone as there may be a message - helps them remember better when f/u texting
3. don't wait too long to text (esp if you didn't k-close and only gamed for a few min), e.g. txt the following eve with: "crazy nite, jus about starting to recover, you were soo......lol" and then after a bit of quick banter go immediately for "you seem cool, lets do drinks, I'm free tue eve bout 8ish......."

obv goes without saying that the easiest way is to f-close one of these chicks on the same night!
Author:  JohnnyValentine [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 12:59 pm ]
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By the way, you did not 'sneakily' ask the girls "where your bf at?". They know exactly what you are after. That line is probably considered AFC as well. I have seens so many AFC's use it anyway.

You need to build some rapport with the girls and flirt with them. Build the attraction with them dude!!! Then texting them will be natural, you will know exactly what to say to them. As already mentioned, callbacks, inside jokes, nicknames etc

You opened and you closed. Work on your mid-game, it is the most important part of your game.
Author:  Dave Blaze [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 4:13 pm ]
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Thanks for the replies. I think I pinpointed my problem. Most of these
girls automatically think im some sort of player, not because of what I say, but because of how I look. They even have said it to me. Now the way to balance this is by building comfort... Is there any good comfort lines techniques? Someone in another pua forum said compliment, eye contact, smile, but not sure if I should compliment...I feel this is a major problem... I dont have any issues with AA or speaking about topics,building attraction.... Also should I stick to asking where ur bf is at? (I havent recieved one bad response) Is there a better way?
Author:  RonnPaul [ Mon Nov 12, 2012 7:52 pm ]
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Dave Blaze, my man, i can really relate to you man. My advice for you: go out more, approach lots of girls, build comfort, close them, set up a day 2 as soon as possible and enjoy the process. We are always learning something from flakes and rejections.

I have the same feeling like you. I see these ugly guys walking with 10s all the time and im still fucking learning game! I get pissed! I know im good looking, i also go to the gym, im educated and smart, i dress really good, i have my own style, im well groomed...but i still get rejections and flakes!

But really, who cares?! You know youll get better, you will get that 10! I know it takes time to learn this and i know i will not quit! If somebody else can do it, hell, i can do it even better! Just go out more and practice, youll get great results, trust me :)
Author:  Dave Blaze [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 12:37 am ]
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Good looking out Ron. It helps to know that I'm not the only guy struggling with these issues. I'm not gonna lie though, I feel a bit depressed. This is only making me motivated and WANT to really focus and overcome this obstacle. I'm thinking about starting a journal very soon for my own archives.
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