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Author:  RMR90 [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 1:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Should I keep pushing or move on?
So, I'm in this situation. I have a co-worker which has the same subjects as I do this semester in college. I haven't many good opportunities to talk to her at work, but one day we were talking about it, she said she was facing some difficulties at some subjects (she's a fresher while I'm repeating those subjects), so I said something like "Hum, ok. We should go to the library one day, I also have to start digging it". And she promptly said (for me in a convincing tone, I think) "That's fine! We then arrange for it" (at this point there were clients coming, so it was time to go). I should have #-closed on the spot, I know... :oops:

Then, when we met up again at work, I asked "Hey, do you want to go to the lib one of these days?", and she said "Yes I do! But mind this week I'm gonna be busy studying "whatever" for the exam on Wednesday". (I'm not having that subject)
Me: "Ok, ok, I'll let you know". And I asked her number. As I was exiting the service, it was time to go.

That was last Sunday, so on Wednesday (I didn't go to college the days before) I texted her like "Hey XX! It's me blablabla :) ... Are you by the campus? Do you accept a coffee?", and she replied "Hey sorry, I'm at home, blablabla...". I accepted, as she was studying for the exam in the afternoon, and kept the convo for a bit.

Friday I texted again saying "Hey YY (I played with her name), I'm going to the lib tomorrow? Are you coming?" to what she replied "Don't call me YY :P Tomorrow I can't because of my "whatever" class (a technician degree she's taking)." (That, I didn't know of)
We kept the convo playfully for a bit even though she was obviously flaking. I mean, a class shouldn't take the whole day, even if she starts working by the beginning of the evening there would still be some time. Although as it's a technical course with classes on the weekend, it's possible, IDK... :?

What should I do? Should I keep trying to get her to the lib? Should I text her something completely out of the work/study frame?
She seemed interested in going to the lib, but she's not making any effort to arrange something. Am I to expect that she would come up with something?

Sorry for the long post!
Author:  RonnPaul [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 5:38 pm ]
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This is normal, it happens a lot, especially when you are a newbie. She is making excuses. My advice: get a day 2 soon as fucking possible! If you text her and text her, she will lose interest. You cant have a relationship, or sex, via fucking phone! Set a date! Game her good, find something what you should do and then invite her straight away, just after you met her!

Advice for you man: move on! Get other girls, she is not the only one! I had the same fucking situation. I learned from it, you should too. Go out, approach other girls, and youll see how atractive you will be to other girls.

But then again, push it to the limit with this girls, if you really like her, but dont be a fucking pussy! Have pride in yourself. Good luck man :)
Author:  RMR90 [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 9:59 pm ]
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Thanks a lot for your words, man! :wink:

In my working place there's a considerable amount of hot pussy, and this one is not of the top ones, but this thing of studying the same subjects was a great excuse to take her out without much game invested (read effort :wink: ) yet.
Author:  textanova [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 6:51 am ]
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Loosen her up. You guys are way too serious with this who study thing.

Send her a funny text. Use a little situational humor like:

"Bored at work…give me a good jam to illegally
download on the company computer"

This is your transition text. You want to transition your normal every day conversations into something more light hearted. Get her to laugh and smile. Girls are more likely to respond to a text that's funny and emotional over anything else. Then you have to ask her out on a real date.

It's the only way you'll have a chance at being in a romantic relationship with her.
Author:  NikAFC [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 6:56 am ]
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ask her out after work or school. work preferably
Author:  dominic_l [ Mon Oct 29, 2012 6:59 am ]
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you can keep pushing if you want but shes doesnt seem interested at ALL. shes not even giving you back a little bit to work with. and girls that are worth hanging with are definitely not that difficult get along with. to her it seems like all you wanna do is meet with her so you can try to have sex with her. which is fine but your skipping so many steps that your not even close to being in that situation. im not saying you gotta be he friend 1st but she should be excited so talk to you every time she sees you then you can set up the date no problem. lastly the face that you guys have classes together has alot of opportunities but its relay not that big a deal. i wanna say you should move on and dont be so needy toward her. girls definitely dont respond to that
Author:  RMR90 [ Sat Nov 10, 2012 12:38 pm ]
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Hi!

Thanks again for your replies.

A few days ago, whenever we came across each other, I think she tried to avoid looking at me. :oops: Then I started to ignore her, reacting cold to her. If she would look at me I just said an uninteresting "Hi...", I would talk with a big smile to other female co-workers and none to her when she was around, etc...
Now, yesterday and the day before, we were working next to each other and she was nice and playful. I tried not to heat up things too much.
Yesterday she mentioned having to make some presentation today (for her degree). Should I text her?

Or maybe I'm over analyzing the whole thing and I should forget. Damn, I can't get the "game on" and create interest. :?
Author:  Jbomb79 [ Sat Nov 10, 2012 2:30 pm ]
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I think maybe you should have built a bit more comfort. I get what you did re seeing the study thing as a opportunity to catch up but as soon as you saw that opportunity you forgot about doing anything else to build rapport and comfort etc. This is easy to do and you will get constantly told to set up a date quick etc and this is true. But try then not to make it all about the date from then on. Otherwise you can come off as needy and like others have said looking like you just want to fclose her
Author:  RMR90 [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 1:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I keep pushing or move on?
Hi!

Sorry to resurrect this topic again.
So, a few days ago I had a work party and to put it short, I think the events of the night might have boosted her some interest on me (social proof, "coolness", some rapport too, you name it...). Yesterday at work, she stood next to me and she was basically teasing everytime there were no clients nearby, even when I was talking to other co-workers. We were always on the funny side. I barelly openned her any time, she did it most of the times.
Later at night, I texted her asking what mark did she got in an exam whe both had at college. Yes, I couldn't avoid the boring topic, but anyway, I felt I had to say something and test the waters :lol: , and it went like:

Me: What did you get on "subject"? "Playful name" (pvt joke)...
Her: xx, and you? My name is "real name" :)
Me: I'm RMR90! Pleasure to meet you, how've you been doing? xD (more like in a formal fashion, just playing with her) "Blah blah blah about exam..."

Then no more response. She seems not to pick too much on texts.
Also I don't know if it counts for something, but during the party night, she kept offering me cigarettes (might have only been courtesy, as I hadn't any, dunno). Then yesterday she asked me if I took my car back home as I was massively drunk, and she went like "Oh God I can't believe you did that in that condition!" (like worried), and I caught her playing with her hair 1 or 2 times.
Maybe I'm overlooking all of it, but help me please :lol: . Just to finish, I think I may have to rely on texting, as working side by side is very random, but I don't know how to cold text something funny and transition to rapport.
Author:  RMR90 [ Sun Dec 16, 2012 3:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Should I keep pushing or move on?
Anyone? :P
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