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Author:  Hm1987 [ Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:21 am ]
Post subject:  Ruined it with ONE text message?
Ok, Im a guy from Sweden who really needs help. Was my last message extremely bad?

History:

Hooked up a girl a few days ago at a club, and she came over to my place. We made out and I played with her boobs etc:). She slept in my bed for a while, I played with her hair and ears etc. Tried to get down her pants with my hand but that was a no go appearently. Kind of tried twice. Anyhow she had trouble sleeping in my bed so she went home...

Btw she is a 7/10;-)..

The next day she texted me and said:

Her: Did you have fun yesterday? (Time: 16:24)
Me: Hi hi:). Yeah i had a great time. you? (Time: 16:57)
Her: Thats great. Yeah I had a good time to:) How are you feeling today? Hangover? (Time: 17:09)
Me:Good to hear! hehe..feeling alright actually. You? Slept well in your bed;)? (Time: 17:16)
Her: My head hurts, otherwise its okey. Yeah my bed is ridicously good:). Did you sleep well in your bed? (Time:17:18)
Me: ok. Good that you have a good bed, important! Yes yes slept well. What is happening this week? A lot of work as usual? (Time:17:32)
Her: Absolutely! It will problably be a pretty calm week at work:) Nothing planned except for work. What are you doing? Studying? (Time:17:44)
Me: Wow, calm week? Unbelievable;)...I have internship and studying. But it would be nice to see each other and do something this week! (Time:18:29)
Her: Where is you internship? Yeah, absolutely. I think so too=) (Time:18:42)
Me: I do a internship at XXX,,,xxx,xxx. Nice.what about doing something on wednesday evening? (Time:18:52)
Her: exciting! What do you do there? That will problaby work:) just have to check work tomorrow so that dont have a late presentation (she works in real estate) (Time:18:56)
Me: ok ok! xxxxx bla blaxxx (Time:19:08)
Her: Internship is underated, sometimes;) do you work full time there? Hard work:) (Time:19:25)
Me: Precisely, sometimes;). bla bla..Did you have internship during your education? (Time:19:42)
Her: aha okey! Do you get grades? bla bla(Time:19:57)
Me: bla bla (made a joke about her)(Time:21:28)
Her: haha when you are drunk you are always best at everything;)(Time:21:49)
Me: I guess that is the way it is! But have a good day tomorrow, (here is a swedish phrase that kind of translates into talk to you here the coming days);). Hugs (Time:22:11)

Then no answer:/. I realize the last part was kind of cold, but do you think I'm fucked? I really fucking hate text messaging
Author:  Hm1987 [ Mon Oct 15, 2012 2:05 pm ]
Post subject: 
Thanks for input:)

"You could actually let it rest for a day or two and contact her again and TELL HER you wanna take her out and show her a good time. "

I set up a date on wednesday evening in the text conversation!

"Me: Wow, calm week? Unbelievable;)...I have internship and studying. But it would be nice to see each other and do something this week! (Time:18:29)
Her: Where is you internship? Yeah, absolutely. I think so too=) (Time:18:42)
Me: I do a internship at XXX,,,xxx,xxx. Nice.what about doing something on wednesday evening? (Time:18:52)
Her: exciting! What do you do there? That will problaby work:) just have to check work tomorrow so that dont have a late presentation (she works in real estate) (Time:18:56)"

BTW. What about the last text message that i didnt get response on?
Author:  Hm1987 [ Mon Oct 15, 2012 5:34 pm ]
Post subject: 
Thanks:). Good to hear!

About the last message, if you study the last 4 messages the last message is kind of out of place..I mainly sent it because I really didnt want to text message any more. I think she got the impression that I didnt want to get to know her more, and I think she is kind of sensitive. I dont know, she said she would get back with about the work today, but the clock is ticking.

If she doesnt send a message today what do I do then?
Author:  Hm1987 [ Mon Oct 15, 2012 7:27 pm ]
Post subject: 
Ok, but the problem is that the date on wednesday isn't confirmed. She said she had to check with her work!!

Thinking I might call her tomorrow evening
Author:  Hm1987 [ Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:05 pm ]
Post subject: 
haha=)..Yeah I dont think being needy is a recipe for getting laid.

If I call her and she starts being flaky, ofcourse I wont be needy(easier said than done maybe?!). But I have learned atleast a few things through the years so hopefully I wont be that pathetic guy:).

Thanks for all the advice and input!!! Appreciated

See what I do about the message. I don't know, swedish chicks are pretty politically correct and not like girls in other countries. I have lived in the us, and stuff like that works much better there. Or maybe Im wrong...
Author:  Hm1987 [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:19 pm ]
Post subject: 
I followed your advice regarding the text message and it worked well:)!

Althou my follow up response wasnt perfect thou, I schould have written something like "no, im sorry:)"

Me: Make sure to dress sexy and cute for tomorrow:)
Her: Workclothes isnt okey they? :)
Me: Hmm..depends, don't know the dresscode you guys have;)

Edit:

Her:Jeans, jacket and shirt:)
Author:  Hm1987 [ Thu Oct 18, 2012 10:53 am ]
Post subject: 
The date went well! Unfortunately I couldn't bang her since she had her period, but I did get a hand job. Sucking tits etc. Unbelievable big perfect tits she has!!

Love her personality also, so this is girlfriend material=).

She texted me this morning:

Her:Im completely dead today and its your fault;) are you tired or are you still sleeping?
Me: haha..Just thought of, and how miserable you had it:D. Woke up about an hour ago maybe
Her: Sounds wonderful! Luxerious to be a student;) study today?
Me: Yeah maybe, se what I feel like;)..how long did you have to work today?
Her: Today im problably home around 18-19 I think:)

When schould I arrange the next date? Wait a few days?
Author:  Hm1987 [ Thu Oct 18, 2012 6:29 pm ]
Post subject: 
OK. Thanks a lot for all the input you have given!!

So its okey to ask about a date tomorrow again?

Also I'm thinking it might get weird seeing each other tomorrow again if she still has her period..maybe saturday is a better day.

When i hooked her up on the club and brought her home..I think she also had her period then. Period dont last more than 6,7,8 days right?
Author:  Fluffs [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 4:44 pm ]
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I didn't read everything on this post but you shouldn't just suck up with being rejected, you didn't get down her pants, you disliked something, she knew it, you sucked up and BLAM needy.

Next time this happens I think it would be best to raise the tension like this:
1. She rejects/upsets you anyhow.
2. Let her go with it like you did that night not to ruin your frame of having as much fun as you can.
3. When she asks how was it, just bitch a little about what you disliked, then tell her what you really enjoyed and what she should fix about herself if she wants to see you again.
4. Keep your frame, you have to have a POWERFUL, STRONG and STRICT frame if you want to do this technique. You can't chicken out (I already did once.).

If she's not up to changing for you, let her know you'll have someone else ASAP but she can still be with you for some time to have fun etc..
Author:  Hm1987 [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 6:51 pm ]
Post subject: 
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I didn't read everything on this post but you shouldn't just suck up with being rejected, you didn't get down her pants, you disliked something, she knew it, you sucked up and BLAM needy.
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What are you talking about?! Think you have been reading some other thread...
Author:  textanova [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 7:23 pm ]
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That text conversation was going well until you wished her well. Why do guys always do this? You shouldn't hope or wish a woman well unless she's going away for a long time. Sounds needy.

Anyway, disappear from her radar for a few days and then send her an interesting text. Something she can't ignore. Then, take it from there and try to get her out.

Remember, you didn't blow it unless she tells you "stop texting me". Otherwise, game on.
Author:  Aspiring [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 4:04 am ]
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1 You're over thinking this. Change your frame of mind so she is chasing you, not the other way around. That doesn't mean be totally cocky (a little doesn't hurt) but don't be desperate either.

2 tone down the smiley face usage. It keeps the mystery, makes her wonder what you're thinking. Also they're more meaningful the rarer they are, like a reward.
Author:  Hm1987 [ Fri Aug 23, 2013 5:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Ruined it with ONE text message?
Just wanted to give everybody an update and tell that everything went well. We were together for 8 months, but we broke up yesterday:/. She had lost her feelings(and I know why). Going to post a thread in relationships about this.

But the way she told me a few months later that she got really confused about the message about "dress sexy and cute"(or whatever it was). She told me that she was sure that I was only intrested about sex with her. She also told me that she even asked friends about that message. She also wondered why I wrote that..

Guess it was a positive message?!;) or what is your conclusion.?
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