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Also, she DIDN'T LJBF me. Her reason was because she just ended things with another guy (my roommate, whom I met her through) and doesn't want to jump into something else...which is a semi-legitimate excuse, I guess

So I had what I thought would be an awesome day with this girl set up in which we'd basically spend the day doing different things in the city. We were talking about it today and she was all excited.

But apparently I didn't make my intentions clear enough, because I just got this text from her:

"Hey, the following question is very forthcoming so I apologize, but sunday hangout is a friends hangout, correct?"

This is not at all what I wanted to hear. What do I respond to this?

Maybe this isn't a shit test and maybe she's god forbid telling the truth, guess what, you can't make it with every single girl. Sometimes it simply is just poor timing. Deal with it and move on, maybe in the future once she is more stable, you can try to pursue her again. Don't don't get hung up and move forward

So I basically was honest and let her know that no, this is not just as friends.

And of course her response ended in "I'm sorry".

So as you can imagine I'm pretty bummed out, as I really thought I had this one.

I'm also not really sure what to do now, as I don't want to lose her as a friend, as female friends are important to have.

Also, she DIDN'T LJBF me. Her reason was because she just ended things with another guy (my roommate, whom I met her through) and doesn't want to jump into something else...which is a semi-legitimate excuse, I guess, but useless unless she comes around some time in the future, which probably won't happen.

Author:	GoodGuyGreg [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 8:31 pm ]
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So I had what I thought would be an awesome day with this girl set up in which we'd basically spend the day doing different things in the city. We were talking about it today and she was all excited. But apparently I didn't make my intentions clear enough, because I just got this text from her: "Hey, the following question is very forthcoming so I apologize, but sunday hangout is a friends hangout, correct?" This is not at all what I wanted to hear. What do I respond to this?

Author:	Phoenix_ [ Thu Sep 20, 2012 8:52 pm ]
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It sounds like your already in the friendzone. If You werent she probably wouldnt have asked you that question. If that was me i'd say " Yeah! Ill bring my friend and you bring yours and itll be a double date" But then again Im a cocky SOB, so i wouldn't recommend you say that.

Author:	GoodGuyGreg [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 2:38 pm ]
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So I basically was honest and let her know that no, this is not just as friends. And of course her response ended in "I'm sorry". So as you can imagine I'm pretty bummed out, as I really thought I had this one. I'm also not really sure what to do now, as I don't want to lose her as a friend, as female friends are important to have. Also, she DIDN'T LJBF me. Her reason was because she just ended things with another guy (my roommate, whom I met her through) and doesn't want to jump into something else...which is a semi-legitimate excuse, I guess, but useless unless she comes around some time in the future, which probably won't happen.

Author:	ApplesNoranges [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 3:18 pm ]
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"I'm also not really sure what to do now, as I don't want to lose her as a friend, as female friends are important to have." She befriended you, not the other way around. Having her around while gaming others would be a massive DLV (considering she doesn't want you). Cut your losses and run, you were too nice, don't look back.

Author:	attrax [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 3:39 pm ]
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Quote: Also, she DIDN'T LJBF me. Her reason was because she just ended things with another guy (my roommate, whom I met her through) and doesn't want to jump into something else...which is a semi-legitimate excuse, I guess I'm not a PUA, but my understanding is that this IS NOT a semi-legitimate excuse. If she were hot for you, it wouldn't have mattered. This excuse is only dished out when the attraction isn't there. So it is an LJBF.

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Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Sep 21, 2012 5:14 pm ]
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Quote: So I had what I thought would be an awesome day with this girl set up in which we'd basically spend the day doing different things in the city. We were talking about it today and she was all excited. But apparently I didn't make my intentions clear enough, because I just got this text from her: "Hey, the following question is very forthcoming so I apologize, but sunday hangout is a friends hangout, correct?" This is not at all what I wanted to hear. What do I respond to this? Hey, Good Guy, With little background story here. Like how many times you went out? Did you try to escalate? Or K-close? I'm afraid you may have jumped the gun. It seems as it was an avoidable SHIT TEST!

Author:	Phoenix_ [ Sat Sep 22, 2012 5:13 am ]
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Maybe this isn't a shit test and maybe she's god forbid telling the truth, guess what, you can't make it with every single girl. Sometimes it simply is just poor timing. Deal with it and move on, maybe in the future once she is more stable, you can try to pursue her again. Don't don't get hung up and move forward

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Sat Sep 22, 2012 2:11 pm ]
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Quote: Maybe this isn't a shit test and maybe she's god forbid telling the truth, guess what, you can't make it with every single girl. Sometimes it simply is just poor timing. Deal with it and move on, maybe in the future once she is more stable, you can try to pursue her again. Don't don't get hung up and move forward Maybe not just a shit test, but not enough back ground to tell

Author:	pumpington [ Sat Sep 22, 2012 2:33 pm ]
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Quote: So I basically was honest and let her know that no, this is not just as friends. And of course her response ended in "I'm sorry". So as you can imagine I'm pretty bummed out, as I really thought I had this one. I'm also not really sure what to do now, as I don't want to lose her as a friend, as female friends are important to have. Also, she DIDN'T LJBF me. Her reason was because she just ended things with another guy (my roommate, whom I met her through) and doesn't want to jump into something else...which is a semi-legitimate excuse, I guess, but useless unless she comes around some time in the future, which probably won't happen. learn to screen girls better you shouldn't even be spending time on time wasters in the first place, if a girl is not interested she should be screened out before you even put any effort into it it's cool to have female friends, don't leave that out in the future if she's cool but you give off the vibe you are single and this is some important thing that she isn't interested, how many new girls have you met this last week?, how many have you asked out in the last month? seems like you're not meeting enough new girls on a regular basis, 1 new girl met a day eventually keeps the friend zone at bay and keeps your penis happy, do it up and meet more girls

Author:	VietnameseProdigy [ Sat Sep 22, 2012 10:26 pm ]
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go get more girls

Author:	xXcruxXx [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 2:24 am ]
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I think that you could've avoided getting friend zoned. Here's how. If she asked if it was a "just friends" thing, just say yes. Don't make it seem like you're desperate. While hanging out with her, you HAVE to DHV to create attraction, push-pull to let her know you're the prize (& tease her as well), and of course kino. If by the end of the night you weren't getting IOI's then you did something wrong. I honestly believe that was a shit test. If she was willing to hang out with just you, that's an IOI dude!!! Not a very strong one, but it'll definitely give you opportunity to run your game and have her isolated. For now, keep talking to other women & good luck~!

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