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Author:  MiikusMaximus [ Fri Aug 24, 2012 9:47 am ]
Post subject:  Painful Failure on what could have been a SNL
For me the most painful rejections aren't when a girl flips out or says fuck off or anything like that. Not even close. The most painful rejections are when you're getting close to succeeding and don't close. There is nothing worse than knowing a girl likes you and maybe even wants to have sex with you but for whatever reason, probably because of something I did, nothing happens.

I was reminded of this tonight. RD and I were out in Santa Monica and we met a three set of girls on vacation from Spain. We all chatted for like an hour. During this time I got the hot one's (let's call her Avi) number and we invited them to hang later. Our conversation continued for a bit then it was time to go. We reminded the girls to meet us up after they had eaten dinner. Avi's two friends didn't seem that into it but I told her to call me even if her friends weren't down. She agreed.

An hour or so later I sent a reminder text that we were at a particular bar. No response. I wrote it off. The night petered out and it was time to go home. I drove the half hour home and was getting ready for bed when my phone chimed a new message. It was Avi!

Here is the text transcript. Keep in mind that English is her second language.

A: Hey!
Me: Hey!
Me: How was dinner?
A: By the time we had finished our dinner it was to late to join you
Me: Hmmm...are you back at your hotel?
A: We have just arrive at the hotel
A: Yes
Me: I see. How long will it take you to pack? When should I come over?
A: Jiji
A: Where are you
Me: Should I bring some vodka and soda?
A: Jiji
Me: I'm like 30 minutes away counting stopping at the store to buy vodka. But I would like to change clothes into something more comfortable.
A: Its not a good idea if we don't want forget anything here
A:
A: What a pitty!
Me: OK cool, no vodka then. You're at the XYZ Hotel right? I'll be there in 40 minutes. What room number?
A: you are so monkey! (annotation: in Spanish the word for monkey and cute are the same)
A: Jaja
Me: Hehe. You to. It's going to be fun making friends and maybe more tonight.
Me: Maybe
A: Its been very nice to meet you
A: Its a pitty we have to leave tomorrow
A: If not
A: We would have liked to party tonighth
Me: The world is dark and filled with pain. We have a chance to do something special and joyful. There are not enough of these chances. Seize them and live life to overflowing!
A: You are completely right
A: !
Me: I'm coming over. At the least we will share some stimulating conversation and a few laughs. At best well make love with unbridled passion and make beautiful memories to enrich our lives.
(Annotation: This had all happened at a pretty rapid pace at this point she doesn't respond)
10 minutes go by
Me: Go outside and listen to the crash of the waves as they rush to the shore and retreat again. Smell the tang of salt in the cool night air as the breeze gently caresses your skin. Look into your heart and act upon what you really want. Let me know. I am driving to the store to grab something wonderful to drink.
10 minutes go by
Me: What's your room number?
7 minutes go by
Me: Ok I'm heading home.

I called once after this just to be certain.

I have some very definite conclusions about how I could have handled this better. Before I share them I would very much like to hear your opinions. Thanks!
Author:  AFC Stevie J. [ Fri Aug 24, 2012 2:52 pm ]
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Well first off you probably scared the shit out of her with your "unbridled passion" nonsense. You just met her she doesnt want to hear about how your gonna make love etc. Your just supposed to meet up and escalate until it happens. Those last couple long texts are most likely waht blew it for you.
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