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Author:  MrHolland [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 2:02 am ]
Post subject:  First "date" in a long time..and she's shy!
Right fellas, its my first date in over a year! I started learning PUA stuff summer of last year and it has helped me somewhat although i haven't given in too much attention due to work and study commitments. Anyways, my nightclub game is pretty tight and i feel like im in my element when clubbing. As a result im pretty successful (never get wasted).
However due to an on off relationship (long story lol) over the past year or so I havn't taken anyone out for a date in the same time frame.

So my brothers GF has this HB9.5 friend who thinks im hot and funny (we have hung out in a group once). During these interactions I didn't isolate because; A) she was so quiet B) me and my bro were messing around. Those are probably two very bad excuses haha. My bro's GF gives me the lowdown about what she thought of me. So we start speaking via facebook mail and within a couple of days i tell her i want to meet for drinks and she accepts.

Now this is where im a bit stuck - I don't tend to do so well with the quiet types as im quite extrovert and cocky. I always assume that they think im an A-hole etc so i just dont bother too much, which i realise is a shitty attitude that i want to change. Any average quiet girl, i probably wouldn't bother with but this one is so frckn HOT!.

So we are going to a cocktail bar that my SPAM is the manager of in 2 days time, and i have no idea how to approach this... she seems like a nice girl and im sure there's somebody really interesting beneath her shyness and i want to get peel that layer away gradually, without being too forward (as i hear she is one of those delicate types). Another thing worth noting, i was told by my brothers GF that i'm better looking and smarter than the guys she usually dates.

Anyway, sorry for the long post... thought id include some background info. Any advice would be appreciated!
Author:  babysapp58 [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 4:06 am ]
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i love shy girls.. but you are going to be doing most of the talking at first,, you just need to make her comfortable with you... ask her questions where she has to give more then a one word answer.....once she starts talking a little bit, you want to reward her by saying thats cool or i agree with that... by doing that your giving her positive reinforcement to talk more.. after she gets in a somewhat talkative mood( not being too quiet) the game is the same tease,, call her dork,,, play kid like games with her like thumb wrestling,, etc...

P.s. shy girls are the easiest bro.. and the freakiest lol
Author:  trick182 [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 4:18 am ]
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hope you dont fall in love with this girl..in my opinion shy girls are somewhat not the most fun girls to hang around with and expect to do everything in the relationship as if she was a doll or something haha..

if there is a situation where shes not talking or showing emotion tell her

you-"can you do me a favor?"
her-"sure...."
you-"can you smile for me? it looks good on you"

thanks to jay wa for the tease routine

this could balance out your cocky/extrovert side and show her a different comfortable side to you..

hope it works out :D
Author:  MrHolland [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 5:07 am ]
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Cheers for the speedy reply fellas! I'm literally a fish out of water with this one haha. She might loosen up after a cocktail or two but obviously i wont rely on this. I like the JayWa comment! I always feel like a creep gaming a shy girl, think il try this one though.

And babysapp, it seems like you have been on a few dates with shy girls...i take it you were pretty successful by saying they are easy haha. So did you use a warm and friendly demeanor to melt away their barriers first then continue as normal?
Author:  JamesWatson31 [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 6:33 am ]
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You said that she found you hot and funny.

Great so why not just be yourself?

She likes it.
Author:  MrHolland [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:20 am ]
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^ you make a good point. However a 1 on 1 interaction is obviously different from her watching me be loud/cocky/funny whatever as part of a group. Could get pretty awkward thats all!
Author:  babysapp58 [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 3:01 pm ]
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honestly i treat shy girls.. like a cold approach,, it's the 90/10,, your going to do the 90 percent of the talking in the beginning.. if your going to tease make sure it's really playful... she will start to open up and when she does you wanna reward her a little bit for it... the better answers she gives the more of a reward she gets.. for example if you ask her can she cook , and she just says yes.. a reward for that would cool, but if she responds with like a yea OMG i can cook anything, i love to cook.. then you would respond with like a no way i a girl who can cook that's my kryptonite,, thats attractive,,, your totally bad news for me... and also kino, do not forget to kino.. start slow with like a high 5 or something then work your way up
Author:  MrHolland [ Sat Jul 28, 2012 3:51 pm ]
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cheers dude :D . Feeling a lot more excited and chilled about it now. Il let you know how it goes!
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