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| Author: | saranjames [ Sat May 26, 2012 9:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Lack the Killer Instinct? |
I'm a long term pua student and I've got some elements of game down pretty well. My two biggest sticking points are opening and closing. Opening is just practice, but closing well, I just noticed how big an issue this has been for me over the years. Over the past few weeks I've been gaming this HB9 - real model type and probably the hottest girl I've got close to. We met through a class we were both doing and I got through attraction and comfort no problem. I'm not perfect at qualifying, but I think I got that down pretty well. Everything looked good, all I needed was a little escalation and to go for the close. And then... I don't know, I just froze. So no close, and probably friends at best. I've been ok with kino in the past, but when I look back at women I've closed, I realise how difficult I find the leap from being the fun guy whose company they are enjoying, to signalling my intent. I guess I have a real fear of rejection, and I'm just now noticing how much it has affected my game over the years. The handful of times when I have actually been brilliantly in state and gone for a smooth, direct close I've always succeeded. Sadly most of the time I let things run on too long and end up in the friend zone, or I mess up the close by being too AFC. For me this is the 'Killer Instinct' - it seems to be the difference between guys who get laid regularly, even total AFCs, and those that don't. The ability to press on with a sexual goal and accept rejection and move on. After all, no matter how weak your game, the more you put yourself out there, the more results you'll see. So have any of you guys experienced this? What did you do to solve it? I'm pretty good at the early stages of game, and once I've laid it on the line and I'm with a girl I'm pretty solid then too. It's just that leap I'm struggling with. I know if I can solve this, my game will rocket. Any ideas? Thanks. |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Sat May 26, 2012 10:23 am ] |
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here this might help you, pumpingtons-stop-being-a-pussy-motivati ... tivational when doing the challenge try to focus on just being the epitome of anti-game, the only focus is getting it done not on making it work, force yourself through it over and over and eventually it just becomes a habit but you really have to hit that level of discomfort, push yourself to put yourself in the situations that you know will turn out bad, approach the hottest possible girl you can find and run some shitastic weak game on her, then close anyways no matter how the outcome looks, eventually later on when you have something positive going on, it makes it easy as fuck the pull the trigger because you can think back to all the times when you got rejected and didn't give 2 fucks, nothing happens, you don't die, 9/10 it is never as bad as anything that you had dreamed up in your head every guy has the fear of approach and the fear of rejection, no matter what he says, on some level there is approach anxiety and fear of rejection, it is just built into us as men, the only way to overcome it, is to realize it will never go away, all you can do is train yourself to deal with it and make a habit out of forcing yourself through it enough times that you have the discipline to do it without thinking about it, once you pass the two barriers you will feel amazing just because you actually did what you intended to do, it is such an adrenaline rush GOOD LUCK |
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