Hope this is the right forum for this. Sorry if not.

Basically last night I met this really really shy girl. I mean her guy friend came up to me in the club and asked if I was seeing anyone and said she liked me lol it felt like being back in the school yard haha.


Anyway I went over and had a chat and I got her number and was wondering how to proceed with texting. What should I say to her to get a day 2. Should I text her something funny or just say hi remember me? I want to stand out from other guys so don't want to come across lame ha.

I usually just hook up with girls and leave it at that so numbers have never been my thing so it's all kinda new to me.

Thanks for any advice! Much appreciated.

Thanks man thats some good advice.

I totally know what you mean about them going back in to their shells when you see them in person. Used to get loads of cases like that where we'd have massive conversations on facebook and then in person their really shy and hardly say a aword.

I don't really play by all this time lark but don't want to let the fire go cold. What time frame should I be looking at to bring up the idea of a date?

Thanks for any advice

5. Is that just a myth?

Just as I was about to ask her in the next text to come hang out.

Thanks man. It was going well. Building plenty of report. Slightly adding in a sexual tone. There was like hour gaps between me replying becuase I was busy and each time she would reply STRAIGHT away so I wasn't coming across needy or anything.

Yet since my last text she hasn't replied. There might be a genuine reason but it's been 3 days now. Should I call her on it and give her a text? Or just forget about it and move on?

Just as I was about to ask her in the next text to come hang out. Damn haha

Thanks for advice anyway SexAddict911

But remember this, just because she is shy in person, doesn't mean she will be shy via text. Use this to your advantage, get her to open up in her text messages and become sexual. By creating a sexual tone, she will be more opt to give it up when in person. The more sexual it gets in the texts, the better the chance of sex in person.

Here is an example of setting the tone right away.


Text message:
1. What's up butter cup It's X from the other night.

2. I am glad you made contact with me, even if you were very shy about it. hehe

3. I actually noticed you that night, I thought you were very sexy.

4. I have been told to watch out for the shy girls. Supposedly they are very demanding in bed.

Is that just a myth?

This is just an example of how you can bring a sexual tone to your conversation right off the bat. But just like any pick up, you must let her dictate the pace, if she seems a little stand-offish by this, just tone it down, and re-assess the pace.

But keep in mind, this will most likely be your only time ( via text) to get her limits out of her. In person, she will revert back to her shyness.

shy/SHī/

1. Easily startled; timid.

2. a. Drawing back from contact or familiarity with others; retiring or reserved.

b. Marked by reserve or diffidence.

3. Distrustful; wary.

The highlighted are the brilliant suggestions of someone who has never dealt with shy girls in reality.

Refrain from using them. Trust me, they'll do more harm than good, with the overt sexual tones from the get-go setting you up as some sort of a sleaze bag in her eyes. And that's not a great first impression to build upon.

If you're dealing with shy women, you have to be patient and get them to open up and then address the attraction. Also, the sexual side of things should be subtle, not obvious. Also, shy women like charming, good mannered men, not some d-bag on a sex run.

Be excellent in your conduct, respectful but confident in your language and know when to give her time and space. You'll do fine with these pointers.

Cheers man. thanks for all the advice! I text her earlier and after a few exchanges mentioned hanging out. I didn't ask liek I have learnt but her reply was "well I'm a very busy person. we'll have to see!" "What would we do if I did have time eh?"

A shit test to see if I say something lame? (Don't worry I weren't going to say dinner and a movie at the cinema ha).

I know she is genuinely busy the same as me (we're both final year university students finishing in like 1 month).

Any advice on replying to this would be great. I feel it's make or break I kinda want to convey that it will be totally chill and nothing serious. I'll pull out the big guns for date 2.

I was thinking maybe jokingly mentioning some totally absurd ideas that are full on serious. And then busting her saying did she really think I was going to tell her all my ideas over text we'll haver to go for coffee and see how it goes? Hmm I don't know. Any help much appreciated!

It's funny that you say all of this, and that you are so arrogant to assume you know best. You have been in this game for what? 3-4 years, as your initial post would suggest.?

Hey Don shall I get into the fact that one of the female that used to come to this forum, left because YOU WERE STALKING HER. I actually know all the details. I am sure the people on your post would love to hear it. `

Is that the signs of a man that know best? You advice is weak, you act like you know shit but you are clueless. Don't assume you know anything. All women are not the same. Just because you want to deal with shy girls like that, doesn't mean its the right way. I have never had a woman accuse me of stalking them.

Half your advice is a joke, one of your first few posts you mention to keep texting a woman over and over, HAHAHAHA! thats the best way to lose them. But then again, I forgot I was talking about a STALKER

one of your first few posts you mention to keep texting a woman over and over, HAHAHAHA! thats the best way to lose them.