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Author:  wingman789 [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 9:22 am ]
Post subject:  critique me
First contact after meeting

Me. Hey you... can you keep a secret?
Immediate response
Her. Lol what is it
Me. Haha you didn't answer the question
Her. Lol yes I can
Me. Sshh don't tell anyone... I met this girl named lafonda (not her name haha) the other night and she seemed pretty cool, but here's the thing.. she was kinda weird and I think she only wanted to use me for sexual favors
Her. Omg lol that is the most ridiculous thing iv ever heard!
Me. Haha you must not hear ridiculous things that often. Her. Not that ridiculous!!
Me. I think you need more ridiculousness in your life.
Her. Or do I? :-p
Me. Hmm let me think.. yep you do
Her. Probably

Few days later
Me. Congratulations!
Her. Lol for what
Me. You just popped into my head. Congratulations
Her. What an honor! Haha
Me. Haha I seem to recall you dragging me into a photoshoot, how'd they turn out?
(We were at a party and she whipped out her phone and put her arm around me and her face up to mine and took pics. I told her to kiss my cheek n she did haha.I couldn't remember if she was as hot as I remember her being, I was canned, so I needed to refresh my memory.)
Sends pic.
In the pick she's got her tongue curled and sticking out in the corner of her mouth. Any body lingo experts out there?
Me. We look absolutely miserable haha
Her. Yea haha. Pretty drunk is what we look
Me. Pretty awesome is what we look! We should hang out next week
Her. Ok I'm down :)
Me. Okay sweet! Il hit you up later so we can figure it out
Her. Okay sweet

I think it went fairly well but wanna see my mistakes
Author:  wingman789 [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 10:02 am ]
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Haha thanks. No problem there is just always room to improve. My issue seems to be living up to my text game on a sober date haha. Number closing drunk at a party is so easy and I'm so high energy, but I get a lil nervous on day twos.
Author:  Musterion [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 6:21 pm ]
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As Tony said no major problems here. I'll just point out a couple things that I'd have done differently.
For example:
Her: Omg lol that is the most ridiculous thing iv ever heard!
Me. Haha you must not hear ridiculous things that often. Her. Not that ridiculous!!
Me. I think you need more ridiculousness in your life.
I'm not a fan of how much the word rediculous is repeated here. The idea behind it is fine (teasing her for not having much rediculousness in her life) but I'd suggest just changing the words up, "I think you need more craziness in your life" it just gives the illusion of each text being more fresh as opposed to flogging the same word over and over again which can make it end up being mundane and boring, like 'ok the joke was over 5 minutes ago' kinda thing.
Like I said this isn't a major thing but I like having a little more attention to detail over text with how you word things because literally that's all you have at your disposal with text....words; plus a wide vocabulary can be a bit of a DHV when you get so many ignoramuses using txt spk on girls.

Only another small thing:
Me. We look absolutely miserable haha
Implying that you two were miserable together - in my opinion - is never a good option to take. You want her to want to meet-up with you again and the best way of doing that is to have her thinking "Wow that guy is so fun/cool/awesome/exciting to be around" by saying "We look absolutely miserable" you could inadvertently change her mind about this, one message probably wouldn't do it but if a few self depricating ones like this slip through she may end up thinking "actually he's right, it wasn't that great". I just find it good practice to always get her reflecting on your time together as enjoyable, so something like "We were clearly the life of the party!" is what I'd put.

Let us know how the date goes dude!
Author:  wingman789 [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 8:07 pm ]
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Good advice. I only said we look miserable because we look pretty fuckin happy in the photo. I think at first she thought I was serious but probably figured out I was joking eventually

Thanks for the input il let you know
Author:  wingman789 [ Mon Mar 12, 2012 3:34 am ]
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I texted the her again tonight to set up plans.
Me. Her name!
Her. What!
Me. We should get lunch this week! Tuesday or Thursday good with you?
Her. Itl depend il have to figure it out when I get home,
Me. Okay
Her. I get back tomorrow il let you know
Me. Sounds good. You on vacation? Runnin from the law?
her. Vacation.

Wtf why is she being so unresponsive? I didn't send another text, should I?
Author:  Musterion [ Mon Mar 12, 2012 11:19 pm ]
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Me. Sounds good. You on vacation? Runnin from the law?
her. Vacation.

Wtf why is she being so unresponsive?
The answer to your question is right there. She's on vacation, don't read too much into this. Some people when on vacation do just like to leave everything behind at home and forget about everything for a few days/weeks/whatever.
If you do text her back just be relaxed and personally I'd aim for your next text to be the last until she comes back with a seed planted that you're gonna be setting up plans with her soon, for example tell her to enjoy the vacation and say you'll call her at some point in a couple of days to arrange plans (not tomorrow, she'll likely be tired from the journey home, whether it's jet lag, long car journey, whatever) something like that maybe.
Or if you want don't text back and just text/call her in a day or 2. Try whichever you feel is gonna work best.
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Tue Mar 13, 2012 12:08 am ]
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Haha thanks. No problem there is just always room to improve. My issue seems to be living up to my text game on a sober date haha. Number closing drunk at a party is so easy and I'm so high energy, but I get a lil nervous on day twos.
When you're having fun, you aren't thinking about having fun, you're just doing it.

When you go on the date, don't think much, just have fun. The right thing to do is always right in front of you, keep your eyes open and do it as soon as you see it.
Author:  wingman789 [ Tue Mar 13, 2012 4:13 am ]
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I didn't text back and am hoping she will send a text tomorrow. She said shed let me know so I think I'm gonna wait a week to see if I hear from her. If I do sweet if not il text her again in a week.

Any flaws in that?
Author:  wingman789 [ Tue Mar 13, 2012 11:14 pm ]
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So she didn't text me yesterday, and she hasn't so far today. It's Tuesday which is one of the days I suggested meeting up.
She said shed let me know so I'm taking this as her blowing me off. Is she expecting me to text her? If she is do you think shel text me if I wait it out? Is a week a good time period to wait or is it to long?
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 3:05 am ]
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So she didn't text me yesterday, and she hasn't so far today. It's Tuesday which is one of the days I suggested meeting up.
She said shed let me know so I'm taking this as her blowing me off. Is she expecting me to text her? If she is do you think shel text me if I wait it out? Is a week a good time period to wait or is it to long?
You're overthinking this. Once you get the numbers of two other girls, you'll know what to do.
Author:  wingman789 [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 8:32 am ]
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So your saying forget her?
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 8:09 pm ]
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So your saying forget her?
Yeah, for now. Think about her once you have the numbers of two more girls and DON'T DO IT ANY SOONER.
Author:  wingman789 [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 5:12 am ]
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Where did I fuck this up at? Was it with the lunch offer? Should I start using something else for day twos?
I'm over this girl but I really am confused about what went wrong. I wish that when you next a girl they would tell you what there impression of you was at different times so you had some feedback as to how you were coming off, cause I don't have a clue. To strong to weak beats me
Author:  smokeit [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 4:23 pm ]
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Where did I fuck this up at? Was it with the lunch offer? Should I start using something else for day twos?
I'm over this girl but I really am confused about what went wrong. I wish that when you next a girl they would tell you what there impression of you was at different times so you had some feedback as to how you were coming off, cause I don't have a clue. To strong to weak beats me
Like homeboy said, your thinking about her to much get more numbers, then you'll see what we are trying to tell you.
Author:  wingman789 [ Fri Mar 16, 2012 8:08 pm ]
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I'm not thinking about her or kicking myself cause I think I did fine. I do think its important to figure out what went wrong as often as possible.
It's good to forget the girl but its not good to forget the situation, at least not till youv learned from it. Say your playing a sport, for this example we will use golf. Your swinging and you keep hittin the ball but its slicing terribly. Some people will think to much about how terrible they're doing and live in shame, some will completely forget there last swing and continue making the mistake for a period of time, and some will realize they're doing something wrong and work to correct it for the next swing.

So with this girl I don't wanna live in the past and imagine what coulda been, I wanna take steps to correct it for the next girl, always gott improve and the best way is to learn from.experience
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