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Author:  The Alcoholic Police Capt [ Mon Dec 19, 2011 5:57 am ]
Post subject:  Didn't respond to my texts, but liking my stuff on FB
Howdy everyone, new to the forum.

I have a somewhat interesting issue.

1. I bailed on this text convo I was having on tuesday of this week w/ a hb8.5 I've been talking to cause I could smell blood in the water (I was off my game and didn't want to risk being the last person to text)

(four days later)

2. I re initiate: 'hey loser will I have the pleasure of wishing you an awesome break in person?' [possibly a DLV mistake, it was originally the other way around but it sounded clunky] No response.

(one day later)

3. I drunk texted her yesterday (mistake by definition) saying something garbled and misspelled along the lines of 'i'm drunk out with friends and prolly wont be able to see you before i leave so have a great break " still no response

However:

4. She's been liking all my statuses this week on fb (including the funny damage control one today where I sent my condolences (not apologies) to all the people I drunk texted)

I'd like your take, I have some other background info if necessary. Depending on if I hear back from her, I also wonder how often I should keep in contact over break (about 4 weeks)
Author:  Vietman100 [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 6:08 am ]
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Ehhhh Id wait until break is over. Text her one last time and if you don't get a reply, next her.
Author:  Cool_Face [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 7:49 am ]
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She is playing you by the leash!
Another text and that's more value lost.
Next her.
Its her move now to miss you.
Author:  Conker [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 8:14 am ]
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Unfortunatly you're too caught up in standard PUA material to be sensing what's going on. Worried about your game level... Worried about being last to text... And calling her loser when it may not have been appropriate to actually do so...

You probably lost some spark when you broke off the initial conversation early - and probably lost practically all the spark if you haven't yet shared something fun yet outside of that convo.

Calling her "loser" is advice given by PUA's whom it worked for in a specific context - and none of the surrounding context is given. She probably thought you were wierd or just really rude.

And she's not "leading you on a leash", she just lost interest.

The amount of time that's going to pass is not normal courtship time. If you see her again you will be back to aquaintances, and you should start again with that in minds.
Author:  pumpington [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 8:16 am ]
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think of if you texted yourself the texts that you have texted her, now ask yourself, would I like to recieve these texts?, calling someone a loser doesn't seem fun and playful, dork... maybe, nerd.. i can see that, but loser is sort of just rude, the problem I sense here is that you are trying to win her over, you don't win her over, you meet her demonstrate a bit of who you are in a fun way to loosen her up to get her to invest, once she is chasing, you just let her chase until the close, the part where you are winning her over doesn't really exist, you just meet her, flirt with her, then let her talk herself into your bed with you guiding where the convo goes if you don't think she will do this, then she probably isn't into you or you have an extremely boring introverted girl on your hands, there is no reason to insult girls, instead of being rude just be assertive, when a girl is being a snob or being rude, make fun of her, not in a hurtful rude way, but in a way that puts her on the spot and makes her not want to be rude or snobby any more (call her out on her shit), other then that focus on flirting and hitting on her and making her horny, not randomly being rude and ''alpha'', alpha comes from leading, not from being a negative person
Author:  adam emre [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 12:03 pm ]
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I call girls 'loser' all the time, it's my standard, however, they need to be aware that it's in a playful way. Such as 'Alright loser :) ?' at the start of a text. If you're confident in your playfulness, i'd suggest a facebook chat convo with her next time she 'likes' one of your things on facebook.

I'm unsure on your level pf pua knowledge; but if you can, start to mirror her during the conversation a little and more advanced would be to change the conversation into a roll-playing situation as if you two were dating, such as (providing the conversation is directed this way) "oh so you're a tough girl yeah? So you can be the muscles when we're out and a bout together, i'll let you protect me ;)"
Author:  kaDak8 [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 1:14 pm ]
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Quote:
Unfortunatly you're too caught up in standard PUA material to be sensing what's going on. Worried about your game level... Worried about being last to text... And calling her loser when it may not have been appropriate to actually do so.
I must agree with this and also what pumpington suggested. As for the next step it should be freezing her out for as long as it takes. She will hopefully reinitate contact or bump into you IRL. Make sure you game other girls too so you'll have more options (for drunk texting :D) Don't do drunk texting btw.

Edit: I just realized I was telling this to The Alcoholic Police Capt :D
Author:  Conker [ Fri Jan 06, 2012 3:40 pm ]
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Pumpington put it well. You have to unlearn a lot of that macho bravado shit the regular PUA material instils in you, it's actually done out of fear and uncertainty. Truely alpha is doing things that you know are good things to do, without being afraid of repercussions.
Author:  Octave [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 7:06 am ]
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completely stop talking to her over texts. texts can either serve the purpose of heightening a relationship, but that only works with some relationships. Most of the time, it is better to use texting just to ensure a meet up. You know youre gonna see her again, and the texting isnt working, just wait until you see her again in person, and by not texting her anymore, when you actually see her in person, its like a fresh spark
Author:  The Alcoholic Police Capt [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 3:39 am ]
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Thanks everyone, specifically Conker.

She did text me a few days later. We texted a few times over break. She did drop off the last conversation though and I sent a text her a text a week or so later (was busy f-closing another person from home) saying 'you popped into my head and I thought I'd say hey! now get out =]' and didn't hear back. Lol now I'm back at school and wondering where to go from here
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