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Author:  bridgeandroll [ Mon Dec 03, 2007 3:38 pm ]
Post subject:  chick wants to come visit me
First time posting here. So here's my story:

Met a girl at a business conference last week. She works for a company that does some business with my company. She's hot, but I don't really try to pick her up, but a couple days later she's making it very obvious she wants me bad. She's doing things like calling my hotel early in the morning to find out what I'm up to that day, wishing me luck in my meetings, etc. At this point it's very obvious she wants to hook up with me, and the game is on.

We meet up for a couple meals but I get the feeling she's holding back. One day (I forget, but let's pretend it's a Monday) I let it be known that I'm planning to cut my trip early and head home tomorrow, trying to accelerate things. She seems disappointed and wants to spend Tuesday with me.

So Tuesday morning she calls and asks what I'm doing, I tell her I was just headed out to the gym (the truth) but she's welcome to come along. I happen to be sort of a beast in the gym and she seems to be fit, so I think it's a good plan.

After the gym we hang out with some work associates in a mixed group. She has dinner plans with some colleagues and I also have dinner plans with friends which I don't want to blow off for her. I get back from dinner before her though and I'm getting annoyed waiting around. On the advice of a PUA friend, I call her up and tell her I'm leaving right now, are you gonna come back to hang out or what?

Unfortunately the plan fails, she kind of just says "ok bye". Well, I rolled the dice and lost.

Or did I? Now she's asking to visit my city for a week. She's asking if she can "stay in the spare bedroom". I told her there's no spare bed (the truth). I made a joke like "as long as you're not trying to take advantage of me in bed" but she just said "haha" and left it at that. So now I'm wondering what to do?

Further notes (like this wasn't long enough): This chick is a professional chick in her 30s, so game that might work on chicks in their 20s might not work here. Also in doing some snooping I'm like 60% sure she has a boyfriend, but with all the interest she's shown in me it doesn't seem to matter.

All advice appreciated. If I decide to let her come, I will settle for nothing less than what you guys call the "full close". :)
Author:  The Wild One [ Mon Dec 03, 2007 3:52 pm ]
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You have her disappointed in you know because you didn't take the hint to build more of a relationship with her. Now ask yourself what do you want? Do you want a women thats disappointed hanging out with you or do you want a girl that loves being around you? You have to make the girl feel that she's having a great time with you, and you have to break down those walls. If she is hanging out with you in C2 then you need to be kissing or building to C3. I wonder if your just sitting in A3 and she's waiting for you to take the hint. Move forward with this one and be decisive about it. Get a piece of paper and write down the feelings you want her to have with you, and then make that happen. Read threw all the resources the seduction community has to offer you regarding creating those states and move forward with your plan. If you move forward and fail you can adjust and learn. If you stay where you are then you just learn nothing and fail again. So try again this time, and continue to game women. Practice as much as you can.
Author:  bridgeandroll [ Mon Dec 03, 2007 4:19 pm ]
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Oh yeah, her last e-mail (as of right now) was:

"So I'm going to have to sleep on the floor?"

This was because I told her I don't have the spare bed. Previously I had just said something like "well, you'll have to sleep on your side of the bed, don't try any funny stuff."

I thought that was fairly clever, but I guess it didn't work.
Author:  The Wild One [ Mon Dec 03, 2007 9:13 pm ]
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You need to talk with me personally send a PM to me.
Author:  bridgeandroll [ Fri Dec 07, 2007 4:14 pm ]
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A quick follow up. Don't have a lot of time (she's like 5 feet away right now) but here's the quick summary:

- Dinner/beach/etc. went really well. I offered my arm when we came to a dark road, she took it, we went arm-in-arm back to my place.

- Back at my place we watched 15 minutes of tv then i shut it off. We gave reciprocal massages on the couch. She offered to give me an even longer massage.

- Went in for the kiss but got LMR. "Don't want a bad reputation as a slu"/"i'm too vulnerable" (coming off a relationship).

- I tried to freeze out and just left for my room but she didn't try much to stop me so I decided I had to continue, and went to bed.
Author:  Thugnificient [ Sat Dec 08, 2007 1:34 am ]
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Dinner/beach/etc. went really well. I offered my arm when we came to a dark road, she took it, we went arm-in-arm back to my place.

- Back at my place we watched 15 minutes of tv then i shut it off. We gave reciprocal massages on the couch. She offered to give me an even longer massage.

- Went in for the kiss but got LMR. "Don't want a bad reputation as a slu"/"i'm too vulnerable" (coming off a relationship).

- I tried to freeze out and just left for my room but she didn't try much to stop me so I decided I had to continue, and went to bed.
I hope you didn't volunteer to take her to dinner. Massage usually = sex you must have gave a poor non sensual massage. And she was testing you by turning away when you went for the kiss. Looks like you just gave up when she wanted you to come back but you went to bed WHY??? I believe if you would've put a little more effort and smooth talk your part you could've had that.

That being a Slut statement was test too think why is she letting you touch in the first place and spending the night at your crib.

Next time let your let boxers hit the floor
Author:  They Call Me Lucid [ Sat Dec 08, 2007 11:36 am ]
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Oh yeah, her last e-mail (as of right now) was:

"So I'm going to have to sleep on the floor?"

This was because I told her I don't have the spare bed. Previously I had just said something like "well, you'll have to sleep on your side of the bed, don't try any funny stuff."

I thought that was fairly clever, but I guess it didn't work.
answer we'll work something out.

man... sounds like she wants you bad. no point trying to play a game when she is obviously already to that level. in my opinion, just take your opportunity. try to build some comfort with a dinner or something then go back to your place and make the magic happen
Author:  Roads [ Sat Dec 08, 2007 11:05 pm ]
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If I were Mystery, I'd be screaming in your ear: "COMFORT COMFORT COMFORT COMFORT!!!!! COMFORT!"

It's obvious this woman is into you. She flew/drove to your house for fucks sake. Just let her know you're interested too, be playful with her (have a pillow fight or something, poke her in the arm and say "tag! you're it"), escalate kino (pillow fight ahem, then wrestle her to the couch playfully if she hits you in the face). Give her a foot massage (this is sooooo easy, google a video).

If you are looking for an LTR, don't rush it, just push the envelope a little further every time. In fact, I dare say that at this point it's OK to go a little AFC, if in fact you think she's girlfriend material.
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