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Author:  BirdBoy [ Mon Nov 28, 2011 5:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Need Professional Advice PUA Dudes!
Hey guys. Im in a complicated situation right here, and I need your help.

Alright, so I've completley unleashed everything on this one girl. Neg, amog, ect ect.

We've been talking online for about 3 months.(met fb)

We met yesterday for the first time and spent the day out together.

It went really well, we talked endlessly for hours, and developed an emotional connection.

She came back to mine, and we watched a movie. the kino was just below actual sex.

Although we never had sex, i felt good about myself. (part of building an orgasm is shutting down the stress part of her brain)

I walked her down to the bustop.

She gave me hints that her last boyfriend didnt have the guts to kiss her. So we shared a kiss and a moment together.

Ended with a perfect high.

She went to a party that night.

I told her today, i think i love her (text).

Intrested by her reaction, she came back like why do you think that?

I told her i felt happy around her. None of that cheesy bullshit you know? Just being really direct and honest. I enjoy her company.

She said she isn't ready to talk about that kinda stuff. It wasnt that blunt but i accepted it.

I said "I understand".

She later messaged me saying she was naked doing strip poker.

I felt so angry and jealous.

She is a wild party girl, but dear lord is she a stunner. ive been with lots of HBs but this one...DAAYYEEMM SISSTAA!
I dont party at all!

I have no idea where to go from this, i told her im attracted to her, and she said she finds me really sexy

shes out every night

for all i know getting banged by a guy she just got picked up by!

what to do? i want a relationship with this girl! not just a one nighter


HALP ME!!
Author:  JSmooth [ Mon Nov 28, 2011 8:14 pm ]
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Well man, you put all your cards on the table saying you love her. She basically said that she isn't ready to be hearing that from you right now. She is in her party mode and I can pretty well tell you she isn't ready to settle down and be in a traditional relationship just yet.

You can either keep pushing the issue of how you feel for this girl which will likely push her away. OR you can do what you can to keep her around interested and staying with you more nights out of the week, and who knows maybe she'll come around.

Then again you can always just save yourself and your emotions some damage by just getting rid of her now...this is a heartache waiting to happen.
Author:  juice man [ Mon Nov 28, 2011 9:23 pm ]
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heartbreak waiting to happen man... but this is part of the learning experience.... cmon ask yourself.. u shared a great moment with her, if she would of reciprocated then yea good for you!!!!!!

BUT thats not the case and it might be a shit test but i kinda doubt it bro.. find anohter one.
Author:  mavenspeermethod [ Mon Nov 28, 2011 9:35 pm ]
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There are a few things here. I agree with the last reply that you let your cards out on the table. Here is what you do. you act like you never said it and get her into your life. That means what do you do? You watched a movie with her. Try to make a movie night with her once a week and then try to escalate. You want to get her use to treating you like a boy friend. If she accepts the frame you will be. Or at least in the running if she is with other guys. She may not be ready to settle down yet too.
But don't be jelious she doesn't need have any commitment to you. She is not your girld friend yet. If she is with other guys the best way to scare her off is get reactive. if you build it up that she is the only one for you then she is going to feel needyness and your going to lose her. Hope this helps.
Author:  nixxor [ Tue Nov 29, 2011 6:43 am ]
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BRO i was reading this and I was like WOW... you got this shit down.... and then I got to the part where you said "you think you love her and you told her". I was like GG... game over. LIKE WTF? Sorry, it's I am just really annoyed because I do want you to get this girl cuz you EASILY had this... and to be honest you still got a good shot.

The mistake you made was as the others mentioned before. You gave her the complete power over you by telling her you love... you didn't even say you love which is worse... you said you think you love her. REGARDLESS, it is WAY TOO SOON for that shit.... like come on you guys are just starting to hang out... wtf. Even if you felt that way... you gotta learn to control your emotions. I am kinda going off on this subject but that's mainly because I have done this mistake many many times in the past and I don't want you to lose this girl.

So how do you turn it around now? Well, keep your cool. Logistically we know she is a party girl and she is gonna get tired from it pretty fast... that's when your chance comes in. Don't try to fclose her. She knows you like her... in fact you should back off now and let her make the move / contact you... don't ignore her... but don't be too available.... Show her a good time like you did on the first meeting and just be respectful... this girl will come around.... and if SHE DOESNT she is not worth it and you did everything right.
Author:  BirdBoy [ Wed Nov 30, 2011 4:12 pm ]
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You guys all seem to flip out when i said i think i love her

Im a really direct guy! I learn from SASHA PUA, if a girl has a hot ass, i'll go up to her and say, DAYEM! NICE ASS!

I was just curious and bored that night!

But, im meeting her this saturday.

Same deal, day out, back to mine.

I know she likes me alot! She won't admit it. The IoIs are fucking insain!

I've threatend to leave her, and she pulls me back!

I really don't mind if i fuck this up, I've actually tried to, and she just won't let me go.

what to say? just be normal player? Kino all that good stuff?

Thanks for replying!
Author:  erick923 [ Thu Dec 01, 2011 6:50 am ]
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Yeah, you revealed your cards too early and gave her the upper hand, especially the "i think i love you" part which is way too soon when it seems as though you've only met up once.

Party girls have a short life span so i wouldn't fret too much about that, what you need to do is get the ball back in her court. She's already told you that her previous bf didn't kiss her, and that worked when you did. I'd slowly start figuring out why it didn't work with her ex bf, and start doing that, because it's little things that she notices (don't forget to be yourself and do things your own way as well). Along with that, keep hanging out with her, but don't bring up the "love you" situation ever again. The next time there's an "i love you" between either of you, it should come from her, not you.
Author:  Allahz Apostle [ Thu Dec 01, 2011 1:42 pm ]
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You are not suppose to tell the woman you love her, especially right after the first date. You could have probably boned her too...

Stop displaying those beta traits.. think alpha.. think, "A bitch would have to be retarded to not want me." You had to follow her lead for the kiss, beta. Be alpha and set the pace.
Author:  MynameisFisher [ Wed Dec 21, 2011 4:56 pm ]
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You guys all seem to flip out when i said i think i love her

Im a really direct guy! I learn from SASHA PUA, if a girl has a hot ass, i'll go up to her and say, DAYEM! NICE ASS!

I was just curious and bored that night!

But, im meeting her this saturday.

Same deal, day out, back to mine.

I know she likes me alot! She won't admit it. The IoIs are fucking insain!

I've threatend to leave her, and she pulls me back!

I really don't mind if i fuck this up, I've actually tried to, and she just won't let me go.

what to say? just be normal player? Kino all that good stuff?

Thanks for replying!
Telling a woman she's a nice ass is completely different than telling that you love her. Her ass is nice at the moment you look at it. But people are not supposed to fall in love after 1 fucking date. You made this assumption from the fact that you felt yourself good around her and that she's hot. This is not love. If this would be love then I could go for a walk, chat with every hot girl for 10 minutes and tell all of them I love them. Grow up!
Author:  nixxor [ Fri Mar 02, 2012 8:51 pm ]
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hey sorry but you are kind of acting like a child. Like really? I dont know how old you are but its just really simple logic.

you don't tell a fat girl she is fat if you still want her to be around.

I really can't explain it any simpler. You can't just do this OH IM A DIRECT GUY thing.
there are things you just don't say or wait for the right moment....

If you can't do it then you gotta just deal with the consequences. Don't expect this girl to be hanging around for too long though

"i learn from SASHA PUA, if a girl has a hot ass, i'll go up to her and say, DAYEM! NICE ASS! "

there is just so much wrong with your argument here. First, of all SASHA is not a good PUA. Especially, for starters like you, you should find your fundamentals in gaming first. You can maybe pick up a few ideas from Sasha or others pua's later.

Second of all, Sasha meant that in a whole different context. And the way he said DAYEM NICE ASS, never comes across as that serious. It's just a stupid comment

Third of all, this was mentioned by my previous poster. Saying Nice ASS and I love you are two completely different things. one is a statement based on observation and one that is based on emotions. look up the definition of love

PS: I know this is a bit late of a response and I apologize for it. I was traveling .
Please fill us in with what happened. It's a learning experience for us all. Thanks mate
Author:  SmoothOp [ Fri Mar 02, 2012 9:13 pm ]
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SASHA is not a good PUA
Yeah I think he is crap. He has zero calibration to human reaction and lacks proper social skills. Oh and his hair is wack.

And OP, dude keep that shit to yourself. This isn't a romantic novel and that was pretty gay on your part.
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