Hey guys this should make things easier to understand
First impression:
First thing to think about is that there are lots of other guys in the bar. Luckily most of them are chumps that will be no competition once you’ve read this article. Look your best but don’t worry too much about your technical good looks, there are more important things to worry about: Vibe, Intent, and Energy. Most of the other guys are out on the pull, somewhere on the scale from tipsy to wasted, and not having much fun with each other. Women don’t like these guys! If you can look like you are having fun with your friends, pay them attention and only notice the women out of your peripheral vision you will stand out from the other guys and create a better first impression. Women will place themselves near to you just because you are giving off a positive vibe and aren’t blatantly on the pull (yes I know you are actually!). A few rules:
Keep the arm holding your drink lower down, don’t raise it in front of you – that looks defensive.
Don’t stand side by side with your mate, face each other and subtly check out girls over each others shoulders.
React positively to him, smile, and create what looks like a good vibe between you – even if you secretly hate the guy. By being seen as having fun you are much more likely to make a better first impression than if you are on the prowl with scowl.
Eye contact: If you catch some eye contact across the room, don’t look away, don’t stare her out and don’t shoot a cheesy smile…raise your drink. She will then be forced to respond and it’ll either be positve or negative. If she reciprocates, she is in to you and you can approach confidently. You won’t need anything special to say because she is already interested in meeting you, just introduce yourself. If she was looking at the barman or daydreaming then you haven’t lost anything.
The approach: When you walk up to her you don’t want to invade her personal space too much (unless she is giving you a massive come-on, in which case, she wants you to get right in her face). To do this, you need to end up standing slightly to her side with your body angled across her and not directly towards her. If you approach and face her head-on, being any closer than arms length is uncomfortable. If you are slightly to the side with your body and feet pointing across her you will be able to get close enough to put your arm around her whilst keeping her totally comfortable. It’s like when you are next to someone at the bar and you are touching but it is totally comfortable, if you were face to face it’d be way too much.
Opening Line: Buy her a drink? NO! Lovely eyes? NO! Is heaven missing an angel tonight? NO! Cheesiness, something she’s heard a million times, or something which puts pressure on her right away like a compliment are all wrong. Lets make it nice and easy for her to interact with you and get you into a conversation. You might have already decided you want to run away with her just based on her looks, but unless she is very drunk she’ll need a little longer. We need to say something that she can easily engage on, be interested in, but not feel under pressure. What this calls for is a classic ‘female opinion opener’. Here are 3 that are tried and tested and have lead to thousands of happy endings (of the bedrooom variety):
“Hey, can I ask your opinion on something…my friend is coming in 20 minutes and he has known his girlfriend for 3 months, he’s planning on proposing to her tomorrow but I think it’s a terrible idea, he’s totally made his mind up though and I don’t think he’ll listen, shall I just go along with it or tell him what I think?” This one leads to a great conversation in an area that women love talking about – they call it chick crack for a reason!
“Hey, you look like you could help me with this…my friend rushed away on business and he asked a massive favour. He wants me to buy a present for his girlfriend and he’s given me £200. I really owe him and he’s my best friend but I’m really stuck, do you have any ideas?” Again, you have a great reason for coming and talking to them so they’ll happilly engage in a conversation with you.
For a bit of fun, a quick one-liner “Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment?” She answers “yes”. “Good, so am I, you go first!”
Now go out and get some approaches in, you’ll see that by following the above advice the responses will be pretty good.