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Author:  anywayyyy [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 2:54 am ]
Post subject:  Girl opens me...how to response??
Last night. I was sitting with a friend in a bar. My friend went to the toilet.

There was this girl (HB8) sitting next to me. She was alone.
She looked at me several times. So i looked back
She said to me... Do you have a good time in this bar?

We had a little convo after that. But i just dont know how to respond when a girl opens me. It happens more to me...
Author:  Riskless1 [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 3:45 am ]
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Man she opened you, that's perfect.

Firstly, you have to gain control of the situation as SOON as POSSIBLE. The game is centered around you being dominant. An easy way to get control back is to answer her question politely and straight away ask her name. She already opened you, showing a MASSIVE ioi, so you need to reward her for that behavior by showing her one back.

Once you have her name just launch into whatever you usually do after you have opened and got their names. The situation is then back in your control, and you have overridden her attempt at dominance, which would make her see that you are in fact far more alpha than she was probably expecting.

Man I wish more girls would open me. I think the main problem is that it happens so little that when it does happen it catches you off guard. Just ask her name straight away and then lead the conversation as in a normal pick up.
Author:  anywayyyy [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 10:58 am ]
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Yeah you are right,


I was off guard...and every time when it happens i am off guard...
Author:  gotcha [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 11:35 am ]
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Establish yourself as flirty from the get-go, keep it playful, show her what a confident guy you are and she will love it. Escalate once appropriate.
Author:  kilativ15 [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 12:13 pm ]
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Everytime it happens? Youd think you will be more prepared after multiple occasions...
Author:  anywayyyy [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 4:04 pm ]
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maybe i could have chosen my words better, but it happens more to me...

I think im way to cocky when it happens. I play hard to get (its what girls do) but that doesn't work... or well.. it doenst work for me...
Author:  TheFresh™ [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 4:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl opens me...how to response??
Quote:
Last night. I was sitting with a friend in a bar. My friend went to the toilet.

There was this girl (HB8) sitting next to me. She was alone.
She looked at me several times. So i looked back
She said to me... Do you have a good time in this bar?

We had a little convo after that. But i just dont know how to respond when a girl opens me. It happens more to me...
I get opened, most guys do, we just miss the IOIs because we're pussy AFCs that go into denial, or maybe think the girls are DLVing to themselves and thusly are not worthwhile, which is wrong. They may just be seeking men of higher value than the dickheads who typically approach them. If I sense a girl in a bar or whatever might be interested, mostly I get "the puppy-dog dinner bowl look" stair, which is how most attractive women open men they're interested in because I think it's more of a stigma and hence and emotional risk for a girl to be rejected by a guy than vice-versa. And like me sometimes (though happily less-and-less), she opened YOU because YOU were too much of a PUSSY to open HER! No disrespect intended, but why are you aware of this stuff and not aware that you should be outside your head and noticing when pretty girls are alone and next to you out of the blue? And I'm not judging, because I do it too. But if she's a HB8 sitting next to you, why are you making her do all the work? She's already opened you via proximity and nonverbal communication. And dude, forget the horseshit about "Alpha male," control, and dominance; because quite frankly some of that stuff sounds sort of gay too me and is way overemphasized. You have a lot of options because the groundwork is already laid, you can even go direct. Or you can throw her a canned opinion opener or talk about her shoes, or the time you threw up all over your ex-girlfriend's dog, or whatever. It probably doesn't matter at that point...
Author:  jasonb [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 6:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl opens me...how to response??
Quote:
Last night. I was sitting with a friend in a bar. My friend went to the toilet.

There was this girl (HB8) sitting next to me. She was alone.
She looked at me several times. So i looked back
She said to me... Do you have a good time in this bar?

We had a little convo after that. But i just dont know how to respond when a girl opens me. It happens more to me...
OK now look --

when a girl is opening YOU it is a GOOD sign that she is interested...isn't it? (YES IT IS)

So what you can do here -- talk about anything be naturally cool (cocky and funny, laid back, just talking and having fun) the perfect thing is to qualify her

we can analyse this through the eyes of mystery:

Open -> attract (FEMALE TO MALE INTEREST) -> qualify (MALE to FEMALE INTEREST) -> comfort -> seduction / sex

When you open a girl, mystery would say, you need to demonstrate value in order to generate attraction!

so when SHE is opneing YOU, you can skip the opening and the attraction phase just continuiing at qualifying ..and gaming towards sex :-)
Author:  anywayyyy [ Sun Dec 19, 2010 10:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl opens me...how to response??
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she opened YOU because YOU were too much of a PUSSY to open HER! No disrespect intended, but why are you aware of this stuff and not aware that you should be outside your head and noticing when pretty girls are alone and next to you out of the blue? And I'm not judging, because I do it too. But if she's a HB8 sitting next to you, why are you making her do all the work? She's already opened you via proximity and nonverbal communication.
you might be right about this...
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