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Author:  PUA Kenny [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Think it's hard to approach;imagine being approached.
Literally 10 minutes ago,an HB10 from my area(I see her around)just approached me and opened me.

Went like this:

HB10:"Hey,hey[trying to get my attention]".

I stopped and too out my earpiece.

HB:"You didnt hear me calling you from all the way back there"?

Me:"[Very nervously]You werent calling me,stop lying.My music isnt even on so I would've heard you".

HB:"Seriously[huge smile]but you kept on going".

HB:"You always have your earpiece in,what you listening"?

Me:"Some Techno".

HB:"What kind of phone you have"?

Me:"Smart phone.Yours have music"?

HB:"Duh,you tryna diss me as if you're the only one with a smart phone(lol)".

Me:"All of us cant be rich.

HB:"[Playfully taps me]so..."

Me:"So...".

HB:"Well,Im going this way so later".

Recap:

Guys,I felt like a friggin' fish out of sea.

At first,I choked on my words,stuttered a bit.

The HB10 displayed more comfort than I did.

She obviously wanted me to continue the chat as an awkward silence came which propelled her to break away at the next junction.

Sounds very AFC'ish of me bing a seasoned-social dynamic guy.

But that's how powerful and nerve wrecking it is to be approached and hit on.
Author:  Appss [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:15 pm ]
Post subject: 
Ghehe, I'd be like "Woah, whats happening?" then get myself together and go on with the conversation
Author:  Moreno [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:30 pm ]
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that girl had some balls ;), and since u know that an hb10 found u attractive,u
can feel good about urself that ur an attractive motherfucka :D yeah you
gotta be, hb10 don't start conversations just like that with strangers,
so feel proud that u got some looks,though be prepared to hold the conversation and
show interest back,she expected to show some interest back and get some
small talk going,i feel u gave her a bit of a cold shoulder.What i do in my game,
is i go directly,i show that i liked something about them,i usually give them a compliment,thats the reason i wanted to meet them,and then it's all about makin
them feel comfortable being with ya,so i go with questions like how's ur day going,i
talk about my day,i make some comment about her appearance,i ask her if she
knows about anything situational going on in my city,stuff like that,and after
we're comfortable with each other i go with getting to know each other deeper :)
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:36 pm ]
Post subject: 
@Appss-I did get more comfort and enter my standard-banter zone.

But I was a bit too damn late(lmao).

But I totally wasnt expecting this.

And I know a lot of guy would shit in heir pants too.

Now I ask myself,"WTF was her intentions"?

Obviously to get acquainted & get laid(lol).

Maybe she's going through boyfriend probs and want to do something rebellious.

Since she lives in my neighborhood,Im guaranteed to see her soon again;ever tomorrow.

But what a rare opportunity I blew.

Women rarely ever open men.

I think this' 1st time in over 4 years,or longer,that a girl(random)has approached and opened me.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:41 pm ]
Post subject: 
@Appss-I did get more comfort and enter my standard-banter zone.

But I was a bit too damn late(lmao).

But I totally wasnt expecting this.

And I know a lot of guy would shit in heir pants too.

Now I ask myself,"WTF was her intentions"?

Obviously to get acquainted & get laid(lol).

Maybe she's going through boyfriend probs and want to do something rebellious.

Since she lives in my neighborhood,Im guaranteed to see her soon again;ever tomorrow.

But what a rare opportunity I blew.

Women rarely ever open men.

I think this' 1st time in over 4 years,or longer,that a girl(random)has approached and opened me.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 11:49 pm ]
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@Moreno-I like your style.

If it's 1 time I advocate direct game is when a girl's literally hitting on you.

She did want me to continue the small talk but I kinda gave her the cold shoulder inadventently.

Lmao,hey Moreno,good way to look at it too:I must be good looking.

A great confidence booster right there.
Author:  Moreno [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 12:08 am ]
Post subject: 
i've done that too bro,i think it's because we kinda get suspicious and
into bantering mode when we don't know about other people's intentions,like
she came up to u,made a comment about u not hearing her with those earpices on and asked asked u what ur listenin,it's like she skipped the
"i find u attractive and i had to come meet u" and went quickly into small talk mode,
so u got kinda defensive by throwin some banter.I bet if she told u the reason why
she wanted to talk to u,u'd feel more comfortable right there and probably
find something to keep it going :)
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 12:31 am ]
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@Moreno-Lol,I have to laugh because that's just how it went.

It's like she started th car in 4th gear.

Lol,and I definitely reverted to bantering out of defensiveness.

You seem to be a genius at this Moreno.

You describing very vibe & emotion I felt and why.

An if she did tell me her intentions and did things by the book:I would've been way comfortable.

Wow,very awkward moment.

Really tests your skills.
Author:  Moreno [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 1:04 am ]
Post subject: 
thanx bro,i'm not a genius,i'm just like u,tryin to put this whole dating puzzle
together,and i gotta thank u too,cause i definatelly got some wisdom nuggets from
this back and forth convo we have.The thing u said about her starting in 4th gear was spot on! so it seems that that even hb10's don't really have any game when it comes to meeting guys,they go through some situational comment about the place,or making some comment about u,asking some light personal questions.
But they,like most of the average guys skip saying why did they come up to have
a chat in the first place.I'm not entirely sure about it,but i believe that
everybody's hidding their intention cause they try to protect themselves
from rejection.Like imagine going up to a girl,telling her "hello i noticed u
walking on the street and i had to come meet u,u look absolutelu gorgeous"
and then the girl goes "oh,thank u but i'm not interested in u,i don't like
the way u look" and she leaves.I bet that would freakin hurt! So
exposing ourselves to the truth,showing our true intent makes us feel vulnerable,
and in case u get rejected that way it's more painful,so the average guy and girl
tries to hide his her intent,by starting with small talk,hoping that the other person
will get that he/she is interested in him/her eventually

So we're trying to protect ourselves by hidding our intentions,but by doing so,
the other person gets defensive cause he/she doesn't know what we're up to

That's fucked up :)
Author:  PlayHer Man [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 1:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Think it's hard to approach;imagine being approached.
Quote:
Literally 10 minutes ago,an HB10 from my area(I see her around)just approached me and opened me.

Went like this:

HB10:"Hey,hey[trying to get my attention]".

I stopped and too out my earpiece.

HB:"You didnt hear me calling you from all the way back there"?

Me:"[Very nervously]You werent calling me,stop lying.My music isnt even on so I would've heard you".

HB:"Seriously[huge smile]but you kept on going".

HB:"You always have your earpiece in,what you listening"?

Me:"Some Techno".

HB:"What kind of phone you have"?

Me:"Smart phone.Yours have music"?

HB:"Duh,you tryna diss me as if you're the only one with a smart phone(lol)".

Me:"All of us cant be rich.

HB:"[Playfully taps me]so..."

Me:"So...".

HB:"Well,Im going this way so later".

Recap:

Guys,I felt like a friggin' fish out of sea.

At first,I choked on my words,stuttered a bit.

The HB10 displayed more comfort than I did.

She obviously wanted me to continue the chat as an awkward silence came which propelled her to break away at the next junction.

Sounds very AFC'ish of me bing a seasoned-social dynamic guy.

But that's how powerful and nerve wrecking it is to be approached and hit on.


I know what you mean. This type of thing has thrown me off too. I'm used to being in control and deciding when and how to engage girls. I always feel strange when girls approach me. I wonder if I should just let them lead or try to pick up where they started. Both feel strange.

If I don't initiate I feel strange.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 3:25 am ]
Post subject: 
@Moreno-Feel what you saying.

HB's really have no game neither(lol).

She definitely hid her intentions as we all do to a point.

Im still mystified as to why?

I didnt even think of #-closing that's how random it was.

@PlayHerMan-It threw me the hell off.

In PU,we're taught to open and approach,but never taught how to handle being approached.

I totally agree PlayHerMan;if I dont open,I feel strange.

Thought I was the only one who deal with this phenomenon.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 3:31 am ]
Post subject: 
@Moreno-Feel what you saying.

HB's really have no game neither(lol).

She definitely hid her intentions as we all do to a point.

Im still mystified as to why?

I didnt even think of #-closing that's how random it was.

@PlayHerMan-It threw me the hell off.

In PU,we're taught to open and approach,but never taught how to handle being approached.

I totally agree PlayHerMan;if I dont open,I feel strange.

Thought I was the only one who deal with this phenomenon.
Author:  farismagic [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 4:01 am ]
Post subject: 
K-loc man i look up to you as a guru. but i wouldn't know what to do in ur situation... last time i got approached was because wearing sunglasses at night and it was direct. what happened to you is like a stereo typical thing .. like in the movies. she told me i was cool with wearing em at night. so i was like well at least buy me something before you hit on my like that (from mystery). And went from there. Moreno's direct is amazing it isn't even threatening its just being honest
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 8:35 am ]
Post subject: 
@Farismagic-Thanks for the praise but Im no guru.

I never tried the sunglasses at night but I could imagine it generating comments.

Point of this post was to show how vulnerable we men in the community can be,despite being in PU for years.
Author:  Moreno [ Sat Dec 11, 2010 8:57 am ]
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i get approached once in a while and mostly about situational things,like the last time
that happened,it was raining,didn't have any umbrella so i was just taking my time under this building,a girl that passes by sees me waiting for the rain to stop and
she comes to me and tells me to join her under her umbrella,she was cute
i had a nice walk with her but nothing more than that.I also remember one time
a girl called me on my phone,didn't have her number,and she says me that she got
my number from a relative,and that she finds me attractive,she saw me someplace
with my bud who happens to be a relative to her and she really liked me,basically
she went direct on me on the phone,i remember feeling really flattered at that moment,i got some small talk going on afterwards and we ended up meeting each other uplcose and I'm friends with her now.The truth is that,when a girl
has a thing for u,u can notice that through her body,maybe her
"a bit longer" eye contact every time she sees u,maybe her "sideways smilling"
when her gaze meets urs,maybe her messing with her hair or even just by feeling nervous around u like we do around some girls is a sign they like us,
those are golden opportunities to approach,only thing that remains is
to tell her u like her too and get the rapport going,simple stuff :)
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