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| Author: | crass [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 7:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girls look down when I am ready to approach them. Why? |
A lot of the times I will see a set of girls I want to approach, I'll towards them and try and make eye contact. When I'm starting to get close (10 feet or so) they just look down on the ground and continue walking. This makes me nervous and feel rejected. I know I'm a good looking guy so maybe I'm intimidating them? What should I do if that's the problem? Sometimes at parties a girl will come in say Hi to everyone and just walk passed me with her head down. Then later when shes really drunk shell try and kino me hardcore and be all over me.. This problem has been in my head for so long please give me your opinion! |
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| Author: | Chief [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 7:34 pm ] |
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Who knows what it could mean? It doesn't matter. Take it at face value and just do your thing. Oh, and smile more. |
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| Author: | Wagon [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 7:46 pm ] |
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First I would say check your body language: Are you smiling? Relaxed posture? Unhurried movement? Is your eye contact warm and inviting? The second part of your post leads me to believe that you may actually be a very good looking guy, in which case be aware of the fact that women are people too, they can be intimidated by someone that strikes them as very attractive. I would look to take some of the seriousness out of the situation, if a girl said Hi to everyone but me in a sheepish way, I might tease her about it right then and there. In my opinion, the seduction process is all about tension build up and release. Most guys have to create the sexual tension somehow to begin with, they need to arouse her curiosity, which on a basic level just amounts to flipping her attraction switches. Then you can move on to releasing that tension (and building it back up, and releasing it, and so on), which builds a connection between the two of you and establishes a gradual mutual trust, all the way up to the final release, which happens when you both give in to your desires for each other and fuck. Exude calm confidence, give her an opportunity to invest in you and reward her when she does with comfort, since presumably she's already attracted to her you don't need to bother with getting her to want to invest in you, she already does. Isolate her and build comfort, give her opportunities to show you traits about her that might attract you (that she's compassionate, or feisty, or positive) and take it from there. Just be careful to not dispel too much mystery about yourself, or be overly agreeable, this will confuse her (why is this high value guy working so hard for my affections?). |
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| Author: | crass [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 7:59 pm ] |
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I'm pretty sure my posture is relaxed and I'm not doing any weird movements. I usually am not smiling at all though and just kind of looking at them a bit. How can I be more warm and inviting? |
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| Author: | DonPua [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 9:15 pm ] |
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Well, the solution is quite easy. It looks to me that you approach from the front. Isn't there a guy called Mystery that says that this is not how to approach women because in that why you enter in their space which makes them nervous ? Open from the side over the shoulder, like Mystery told you. Once you see she is more comfortable with your presence you can try to talk face to face. |
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| Author: | Bormad [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 11:03 pm ] |
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Nahh just ignore it and plough through. Dont pay attention to them . Your approaching either way as a cool confident guy! |
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| Author: | PlayHer Man [ Fri Aug 20, 2010 11:11 pm ] |
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Seems like you are intimidating them in some way. I had a roomate in college who was very good looking and sometimes when he talked to girls they would look down and not say much. Then later you find out they were so attracted to him that they were nervous! Also.. approaching girls in a group is hard to pull off unless you have a wing man or some way to seperate the girl you are interested in from the group. |
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| Author: | crass [ Sat Aug 21, 2010 12:42 am ] |
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Thanks everyone! Yea a lot of the time when I'm at the beach for some reason girls check me out hardcoreeeeeee. I usually don't know what to do though so i just lock eye contact and they will usually look down then up and then down and then up its pretty funny. I usually just keep staring with a blank face to see how many times they check me out LOL |
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| Author: | LushPUA [ Sat Aug 21, 2010 12:49 am ] |
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honestly It could even be an ioi, in my experiance they will turn away/blush when you hit them with a good deal of game, might not be the case here but lok at itthis way, you nevr know, and yu'r about to find out (use it to boost confidence) just andom thoughts lol Take it easy -Lush |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Sat Aug 21, 2010 12:57 am ] |
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You should practice eyecontact. It sounds like thats the problem. Maybe you are staring. Maybe you are threatening. Also it sounds like you approach moving targets, thats not always so easy. I almost never get eye contact before I go into a set. Getting eyecontact is an approach invitation, which makes it a warm set, they are already interested. I find that boring. I go for cold approaches all the time. |
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| Author: | @TheRealDonnyV [ Sat Aug 21, 2010 1:51 am ] |
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Maybe you're a HG9 or HG10 haha. |
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| Author: | crass [ Sat Aug 21, 2010 2:04 am ] |
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haha well I'm 19 and look really young (baby face) and all but I've always gamed HB9+ online easily. I might be making weird eye contact though I basicly just stare. I was at the mac store today and so many like 15 year old girls blatantly were checking me out staring at me constantly haha funny shit. My friend was all like oooo all the little girls checking out justin bieber here. Yea my eye contact is pretty much just me staring at them though. How can I look less intimidating like what should I do with my eyes/face. I kinda just blank stare and check them out LOL. |
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| Author: | crass [ Sat Aug 21, 2010 10:50 pm ] |
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Today I went out real quick to get something from the super market and noticed one of the cashiers checking me out for awhilee. When I was close to her I smiled at her and she smiled back and didn't do some awkward stare at the ground thing. So I guess you guys are right I need to be less intimidating. How can I work on making my contact very warm and inviting so I can pull this type of approach off super smooth. |
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| Author: | Manda Chuva [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 8:30 am ] |
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It means they submit to you, so u smile and say hey and if they look back at you within less then 45 seconds ure in either way its a win and stack from there ; and You can open with hi im shy lol |
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| Author: | afc_gone [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 10:43 am ] |
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I think a woman's perspective would be welcome. |
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