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| Author: | SexyAsianKid [ Tue Jun 22, 2010 7:46 am ] |
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Overcome Hesitation Stop talking yourself down like “She wouldn’t like me”- instead, talk positive- “I’m the sexiest guy she’s ever met” Stop the self-defeating thoughts, “She’s out of my league” and think the exact opposite, positive thought, “I’m out of HER league” Don’t think to yourself, “I’ve got to” or “I must”. Just have fun meeting people- nothing takes the pressure off like being playful When you make a mistake with a women, don’t dwell on it- everyone makes mistakes. Identify the problem and avoid it for next time That whiny voice inside your head that tells you to stop or freeze; change it to the voice of a sexy woman and your hesitation will vanish When you find yourself hesitating to approach, take a deep breath and allow a wave of relaxation to go through your body Eliminate nervousness & hesitation by watching yourself from above in your mind. Notice how you feel better, it’s that easy When you fear approaching a woman, look at the situation as if flying above from a thirdperson perspective like watching a movie to relax Eliminate nervousness when talking to women by focusing on HER rather than yourself; have outward focus rather than inward focus Expect your first opener to suck- it’s just a warm up. It’s a throwaway opener. The throwaway paves the way for that gung-ho state The first approach is always the hardest because you’re the most nervous- it’s often lame. Successful approaching hangs on getting past the first one To get into the groove of talking to girls, ask a few girls for directions like “Hey, where’s the food court located?” Being nervous on the first approach of the day is normal- and everyday you start over again at zero. The first one is always a warm-up The worst has already happened- you’re not with a beautiful woman. Doing nothing will only result in the worst possible outcome Adopt the mindset “There are thousands of women- I practice to learn.” Don’t focus on getting THAT particular girl, focus on improving your skills Don’t feel it has to go great with that one particular woman- after all, there are 100 more ladies standing in line for you to meet If you place your hopes in one woman, you’ll be a nervous wuss. If you place your hopes in the great sea of women, you’ll be a confident king Ditch the scarcity mentality. Your life is one of abundance, with thousands of women to meet. If one doesn’t work out, there’s another and another! Women want sex- they just want it with socially valuable men. Have social value and you’ll have nothing to be nervous about- women will chase YOU Don’t think about whether a woman is interested or not- make her interested! Go ahead and talk to her, you have nothing to lose! Turn your fear into excitement. Women love men who lead exciting lives and who do exciting things. Your fear can be your advantage It’s better to attempt great things and blow it than succeed at meaningless things and just get by- conquer your fears and you will always win women When you’re old you’ll be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do, than by the things you did do- meet women and live your life without regret Your past problems with women do not determine the future. The past is over- it doesn’t exist. Today you can accomplish whatever you set out to Real confidence is not just in being able to approach a beautiful woman- it’s in being able to walk AWAY from a beautiful women He who hesitates... masturbates! And he who acts opens the rainbow’s treasure Don’t fantasize what can go wrong when approaching a woman- deal with obstacles as they arrive. Only practice makes perfection, not nervous planning Pining after one woman puts all of your eggs in one basket- with so much at stake, naturally you’ll be nervous. Instead, meet 3 new women everyday Fear of failure causes us not to approach- but not approaching is the real failure. Conquer your fear! When you see a woman you want to meet, don’t think about what you can get from her- think about how incredible you can make her feel Most people are slave to their fears. Be a man and conquer yours. Beat your chest a little, relax, and playfully approach that woman You can’t think your way out of anxiety, so don’t try. The only way to get rid of it is to get experience approaching women Like having stage fright, the first sentence is always the most difficult to say. Just say “hi” and you’ll feel better from there Real confidence is not about being “bold” with women. A truly confident man is relaxed With women, you miss every shot you don’t take. Even if you’re not sure how to take the shot, just shoot and you’ll make some baskets If you’re nervous, imagine yourself on the Star Trek holodeck. Each approach is just one of many holo simulations for you to practice on Being prepared can eliminate your fear of women- use the same canned opener again and again- if it works, keep using it Transform your fear of women into playful anticipation- and you’ll enjoy the feeling. Soon, you’ll be looking forward to going out Your fears are hallucinations of the worst scenario magnified. Imagine the best scenario and glorify it- what you project is the reality you will get If you drink alcohol for “liquid courage” you’re success becomes dependent on a crutch. Master seduction on the strength of your own two feet To score with girls, detach yourself from the outcome. Look to the long term process of learning, not the specific event of the moment Act like every day is your last day on Earth. Screw the social norms. Screw your doubts. With massive action you will get laid What if you were to see fear with women not as a distress signal, but rather as a signal for you to experience a rush of relaxation and pleasure Visually rehearse to rewire your brain for relaxed confidence- imagine the pickup scene as a movie in your mind where the best possible outcomes occur Using sheer willpower to banish your fear and hesitation won’t work- your willpower is no match against your years of bad habit. Practice new ones Being confident means having relaxed confidence- so practice relaxing. Spend 15 minutes every day breathing deeply relaxed Don’t look at approaching women as a task- look at it as a fun game. If you see meeting women as a chore, you’ll give up before you ever succeed Don’t just approach super beautiful women. You learn relaxed confidence by talking to men, women, and children young and old Open women with only your head turned toward them- that way, if they don’t respond, you can just turn your head away and reject THEM Men who take risks trigger attraction in womenbe that man who takes risks and use that attraction trigger to your advantage |
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| Author: | salsero77 [ Tue Aug 10, 2010 3:33 pm ] |
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Great Post! Thanks for Sharing.... |
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