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Author:  MrMotoFace [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 2:14 am ]
Post subject:  WHat the F!&@ is wrong with me
OK so this is my first time ever posting.

I'm 26 AFC basically, though I don't know why. Well actually i do know why, I'm shy or have AA. I've had 2, 3 yr. relationships (8's) and a handful of other encounters so I do know how to talk to women, it's just opening or transitioning that is my problem.

I'm a pretty cool guy, I ride motocross a lot and i have my sh*@ together. I Have a bachelors degree, half of a masters degree done, and I work full time making a little over 100k. I live alone in Orange County, CA where there are tons of women. So why am i single I ask.

The last girl i was with was 2 months ago (since my last relationship) but this was an old friend that got in touch on FB. We had a wild 10 days but then I was over it and told her I just wanted to be friends... she told me to have a nice life :P.

Basically I feel like I should be confident enough in myself to get a 9.5 but for some reason I am terrified to approach or turn a flirty conversation into a pickup. I know that there is nothing to lose, I've read the game, I'm pretty good at being cocky / funny when I get in the groove, I'm successful, I look ok, I dress nice. I'm the most successful person I know out of my friends yet I am terrified to look a woman i don't know in the eyes and put it all on the line. I need to not take it so seriously but that's just my personality... I know i need to relax but when the time comes I tense up.

Just today I was flirting with this receptionist of a business i goto about once a week. I've built rapport, flirted, DHVd, and I think she is pretty comfortable with me. Yet everytime i tell myself today's the day, I choke or find no way to smoothly transition into asking for her #.

WTF is my problem i should be meeting girls. I'm considering going to a mall and saying hello to 30 ppl or going alone to a bar, but geez. i feel like 2 separate people
Author:  Streaks [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 2:30 am ]
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in not too terribley good at this but you should use what you have to its full power. you say cocky funny and that everything is fine up until the close. perhaps you can start talking to her about movies or something and then "suddenly remember" that you and a couple of friends were planing on going to the movies, and say u guy were planning to watch [some genre/or movie she wants to see], and ask if she want to come along or see it with you sometime. if she says no i have a bf just let her know thats not what u were asking. if she says sure, just say ok then lets trade numbers so i can give u information later on. a general rule i learned when i was a kid was text or call a girl 2 days after the number is given, but not to wait after 3 days becauase they think you forgot about them or something.. idk.
but yea good luck man!
Author:  Vallon [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 2:55 am ]
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You want to learn how to open and close? Well in my opinion opening is the best learning experience in becoming a PUA. You get a feeling of "not giving a shit" if you fuck up. And you will use that in every part of the pick-up later down the road. To get good at approaching go to a social gathering. Then you can either grab your balls and go talk to a girl, or cluth your vagina and go home. And for practice you can just walk around and say hi to every HB you see and then keep on walking or if you want, stop and chat if she says hi back. Do that for the entire day. And keep on doing that untill you feel like you're ready for an opinion opener(which i recommend for beginners),direct opener, or indirect opener.

For getting the number, you can just take out your phone (set it up for her to put the number in if you like) and hand it to her, you don't have to say a word. She will get what you mean and put the number in. If you do this after a conversation with that girl you have been flirting with then I promise you that you shall get the number.

And the rule for when to call is that you call whenever the hell you want.
Some tips are: If you get the number in a club, you call the day after.
If you feel that a sarge was not good but still got the number, then you call the day after.
And don't wait no more than 3 days.

Also a belief that really helps me out personally, so don't know if it will help you. But I think all of it as "just practice". And practice is the time to fuck up so have fun.
Author:  Silentman [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 4:41 am ]
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Finally Some-one else from the O.C :)))))))))

Yeah man it's AA. Dont overthink it, just let things run smoothly, just shut your mind up, and move your feet towards her, use a opener, and run things.

You'll be happy you did it in the end, take risks freind, bigger risks= better rewards.
Author:  xxIcexx [ Sat Jun 12, 2010 6:55 pm ]
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I will trade you my confidence for your job money and place :D

Im like opposite, I have confidence to talk to women, but im a broke college student lol.
Author:  Crash88 [ Mon Jun 14, 2010 3:47 am ]
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I understand where he's coming from and if I understand you correctly, its not the approach thats the problem, its the transition right? If so, then I am having the exact same problem. Approaching is relatively easy, transitioning once you're at a hook point is another thing though. Is that the issue for you?
Author:  Yarey [ Tue Jun 15, 2010 3:33 am ]
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I think your problem is that you think there is something wrong with you when there's not. You have your sh1t together, you've been in relationships, and that's great. You are much better off than me in that aspect. I mean my dad is twice as old as you and makes the same amount. You are a PIMP! Accept it.
Author:  MrMotoFace [ Wed Jun 16, 2010 12:08 am ]
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Thanks for the input guys. It's def some kind of inner game problem. I'm confident and happy about who i am. I don't have any specific hangups that im worried about. But for some reason i forget all that and get too nervous to act. I've been trying to go out and say hello to ppl. Ask girls how their days are going and stuff. I need to loosen up. I wish i had someone good to learn from and watch
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