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Author:  allyman8 [ Mon May 10, 2010 9:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Store cashier.
Okay so, this is my first post on these here forums, and yes, my situation may sound a little pathetic, but I can't hide it.

I've been home schooled my whole life, never really touched foot in a school, it sounds bad, but you get used to it.

I'm not the most social guy, but I believe I can hold a steady conversation, and I don't get too shy around people, because they don't really matter.

Most of my life I've been pretty sheltered, due to location, and not in the school system, but recently I've moved to a location where there's a lot of stores and such, to meet women, without having to go a great distance..

I don't have a car, because did I mention, I'm only 15.

That's basically my situation there, the only other thing about me is my looks, and I consider myself an alright looking guy, not ugly or anything, at least that's what people tell me, and what I see... I'm also around 6'0 Tall, and I work out often.

People tell me very often that I look like Chris Brown, I don't really think I do, but maybe a younger version of him? Whatever.


Besides that, lets get on with the situation.

There's a girl working as a cashier at a publix, a short walk from my apartment,

The problem is I'm not sure on her age, and if she's interested.

The minimum age for working there is around 14 or 15, She looks about 15 or 16.

Every time I check out with her, it seems she gets a bit nervous and out of place, today she actually said she was "out of it", whatever that means.

She puts on a big smile when I come by, and looks me right straight in the eyes, as if she's trying to tell me something, without actually saying it.

Recently, I've gotten past most of my shyness with people, by asking them how their doing, and making small talk..

This is what I'm trying to do with her, but it's not working great, as I get a little nervous myself.

I ask her how she's doing, she says she's doing good, and that's basically it.

I want to use some sort of opener on her, but stores are usually crowded, and I don't want to make a fool of myself to the people beside and around me.

Working up the courage to say "You look pretty today", or something along those lines would be pretty hard, but I believe I could do it... I'm just not sure if that's the correct route.


Now don't get me wrong, I know this could all just be me over thinking things, maybe she smiles and gets a little nervous with every one, maybe she isn't interested at all, but at the same time, if she is interested, and I never even tried, then I would never know.

I got nothing to lose at this point, I can't keep being unsocial with people, I've never had a Girlfriend for god sakes, and I'm not afraid to say it.


Hopefully some one can offer me some advice, or not.

Either way, cheers! .. Lol ;)
Author:  allyman8 [ Tue May 11, 2010 5:53 pm ]
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Anything?

I came up with something, since I have braids;

Me: "Hey, can I ask your opinion on something?"

Her: "Yeah sure"

Me: "Do you think I should leave my hair how it is, get it cut, or pony tail it?"

Her: "BlahBlahBlah"

Me: "Okay thanks, by the why, you're hair looks pretty today (Or something like that)"


Think it would work?

I think it would some what catch her off guard, and if I'm confident enough, and not nervous, it will work well..

I would obviously variate it, and not totally like use a "script"..

So?
Author:  pedrolive [ Tue May 11, 2010 7:14 pm ]
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My openers for cashiers:

"Quite busy today, hun?"
"You got skills..." (she'll ask "On what?", just keep playing)
"You're too fast for me" (this one is for shopping when they are passing the items through the "thingy"
8) This are some I use... but you can open with almost anything, just be polite and act relaxed and happy.


Edit: Btw I would advise you not to compliment her on her looks. Go for something like "What is a smart looking girl doing working at this place" or "I bet you're a crazy party girl... (HB: Why do you say that?) Honestly I can't explain it, but I sense good vibes coming from you"

These are just examples dude. Be creative, don't show neediness.


Just my 2 cents!
Author:  KravenDee [ Tue May 11, 2010 8:10 pm ]
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I'm new to the game, but am learning everday. Since you've already broken the three second rule, using an opener on her seems pointless. If a girl is already familiar with you of course she'll talk about something small like your hair style.

If I were in this situation I would assume my only move left would be the direct approach, and since it's a one-set then a dirct approach can work.

If I were in this situation I would go to the store when it is not busy, and she doesn't have a lot of people waiting in line.

Also, I say this from experience, when doing a direct approach you can't simply say "You're stunning. Can I get your number?" You have to try to talk to her and build comfort with her, so when she gives you the number, she will actually call you back. This is why you need to go when it is no so crowded.

Good luck brother.
Author:  allyman8 [ Tue May 11, 2010 9:04 pm ]
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Okay thanks a lot guys.

I've been to the store quite a few times now, and scoped it out.

Noticed that an Two HB8's, And an HB6 work there, cashiering.

One of the HB8's seems to look at me a lot, right in my eyes.

The HB6 seems like she might be talkative, she kind of tries to start small talk with me.

And the other HB8, I'm not too sure about her, she seemed like she was into me, but I haven't seen her enough to know.


I've been in and out of the store quite often in the last few days, Actually applied for a job there, which might help me out if I get the job, I need a job anyways.

Any more advice would be greatly appreciated.

The real problem I'm having now, is trying to open on one of the girls, because there's other people around, and if I get like rejected, or I sound stupid, then there's many around to hear.

But I've got nothing to lose, and I don't care too much about what people around would think, as they don't matter.

I always say if 1 girl rejects me, or isn't interested, there's a million more to go, and this really helps with my nervousness and shyness, which is very little already.


:)


Edit; There's also another HB8, but I'm sure about her, she doesn't seem like she'd be interested, although she has given me a few looks.


I'm just getting into this whole gaming thing, and women in general, it's a pretty fun experience, weather I fail or not.

So advice is very welcome ;)
Author:  allyman8 [ Fri May 14, 2010 10:36 pm ]
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Feeling great today!

So I went back to the store, along with my little brother, he kind of messed up my game a little bit, as he is a little annoying at times.

But besides that, I made a small move, which in my eyes is a BIG MOVE! I complimented an HB8, I actually did it.. I didn't punk out, or have second thoughts, I just did it!

I didn't even have something ready to say, I did it straight on the spot.

So I'm at the cash register, checking out some chips and crap, when I notice her eyes, right then I thought up something to say, and let me tell you this was the first time EVER, that I actually went through with using what I thought up on the spot.

So,

her: "Here again?" (She said this in a fun kind of way, while smiling.. Since I come to the store a lot).

Me: "Yeah, ha".

Her: She tells me how much I have to pay, for the crap I was buying.

Me: Reaching in pocket to grab my money, at this point I was super nervous, because I was about to drop the line..

Me: Hand her the money, and then.. "Do you wear contacts?"

Her: "No" (While smiling)..

Me: "Oh, because you're eyes are really pretty.."


Boy was I nervous as fuck, thank god there wasn't many people around, just some old guy, who insisted earlier for me to come to his cash register, as he could ring me up.. I'm like no thanks.


Her: "Thanks" (While smiling again)..



Yeah, I know it's not much, and I know you shouldn't like compliment a girl like that straight up, but it's all I could come with, and I could of either hesitated and not have said anything at all, or man'd up and spit out what I wanted to say.


I did that, and now I have MUCH more confidence, kind of life changing actually.


If I could bring myself to complimenting her like that, on her appearance, imagine what else I could accomplish.



Today is a good day, only thing I wish is that I would of took it further into a small short conversation, but I couldn't head that route, instead I headed out the door, lol.


I'm just thinking... What if I would of went to a separate cash register.. Today would of never happened.

But I didn't, so every things great..

Offer any advice on what I could of done better, if you please.
Author:  Nightsong [ Fri May 14, 2010 11:46 pm ]
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Hi


This is my first post and I sincerely hope that you will find it helpful. I will put on a wall of text about myself and my dedication to this community later on...

According to your description about how these HBs are feeling about you. I might say they might be more attracted to you than you are to them. In this case you are the one who already got the upper hand. Now its time to outstretch your hand and guide them into your wicked love nest.

I would like to add that getting a job there is not the best idea. Once you wear the same uniform, all these HBs will be your colleagues. Yeah... you now have an easier access to walk up and say hi my name is.... by pointing your index at your name badge. However there is this rule. It's like shitting in your own backyard. Try not to target someone in your class/gym/work/ects. It makes you harder to get out of the game once you fail and you dont want to fail. As a customer you could just move on to the a different cashier or supermarket if the shit hits the fan


Anyhow, good shot with the opening. Next time you wont be as nervous as this. However I wouldn't have left her with this sole compliment. I would add something on top such as. ..."Oh because you're eye are really pretty. I honestly thought you had them done somewhere. You parents must had taken a loan to pay for this pair of eyes." Or something more simple.

Example: There is a bunch of guys walking down a crowded street. There are 2 types of women who will get their attention. 1. really really HBs. 2. really really ugly girls. This goes same for the girls. Now adjust this example into personalities.
The girls will remember the really sweet guy or the really mean guy. They dont usually remember a nice guy. You need to be outstanding, if you think she is a HB. I bet there are 50 young Chris Brown out there in the neighbourhood share the same feeling or dirtier. Luckily for you most of them are nice guys or really sweet guys. Try to be mean and evil with a backhand compliment and always wear a charming smile.


Godspeed


NS
Author:  allyman8 [ Sat May 15, 2010 12:17 am ]
Post subject: 
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Hi


This is my first post and I sincerely hope that you will find it helpful. I will put on a wall of text about myself and my dedication to this community later on...

According to your description about how these HBs are feeling about you. I might say they might be more attracted to you than you are to them. In this case you are the one who already got the upper hand. Now its time to outstretch your hand and guide them into your wicked love nest.

I would like to add that getting a job there is not the best idea. Once you wear the same uniform, all these HBs will be your colleagues. Yeah... you now have an easier access to walk up and say hi my name is.... by pointing your index at your name badge. However there is this rule. It's like shitting in your own backyard. Try not to target someone in your class/gym/work/ects. It makes you harder to get out of the game once you fail and you dont want to fail. As a customer you could just move on to the a different cashier or supermarket if the shit hits the fan


Anyhow, good shot with the opening. Next time you wont be as nervous as this. However I wouldn't have left her with this sole compliment. I would add something on top such as. ..."Oh because you're eye are really pretty. I honestly thought you had them done somewhere. You parents must had taken a loan to pay for this pair of eyes." Or something more simple.

Example: There is a bunch of guys walking down a crowded street. There are 2 types of women who will get their attention. 1. really really HBs. 2. really really ugly girls. This goes same for the girls. Now adjust this example into personalities.
The girls will remember the really sweet guy or the really mean guy. They dont usually remember a nice guy. You need to be outstanding, if you think she is a HB. I bet there are 50 young Chris Brown out there in the neighbourhood share the same feeling or dirtier. Luckily for you most of them are nice guys or really sweet guys. Try to be mean and evil with a backhand compliment and always wear a charming smile.


Godspeed


NS
Thanks a lot man.

I agree, I could of added more on top of the conversation, so she'd really remember me, but I was already in a pretty nervous state after laying out my first opener ever.

I know for sure next time I will not be as nervous, as I have gained a huge confidence boost from this encounter.


Now, aside from that, let me focus on what you said about me working there.

Either way, trying to approach women or not, I need a job, tired of relying on my parents, you know?

I can always talk to girls in other areas, and venues, but I truly understand what you mean by "shitting in your own backyard", I get it.


Thanks for the advice, the smallest amount of advice is huge for me, coming from anybody.


Future is looking bright from here, will update you guys on how stuff goes.

Also, I just got remember.. No matter what happens, there's always another million or so girls left on the list, so it'll be okay :)
Author:  allyman8 [ Mon May 24, 2010 10:14 pm ]
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I've made little to no progress, in the time between now and my last post.

I've been trying to make small talk with most of the people I see, to get past the nervousness of speaking to the opposite sex, and the shyness of speaking to strangers in general.

Well, today I had to go to the store, I saw the same HB8, at the cash register, so I bought a soda..

I can't seem to figure out what exactly to say, but this is how it went, I said everything with confidence and tried not to be nervous, it went well, even though little was said.

Her: "You come here a lot.."

Me: "I know right?"

She just smilled..

Me: "So, how you doin?"

She took a breath like she was tired, and said "I'm alright, tired.."

Me: "Oh, what time do you get off?"

Her: "Uh, tennish" (10ish)..

After that she handed me my change, and again, with her big smile and staring deep into my eyes, she says the old "Have a nice day"..

I said "You too, Cya", or whatever.


I feel like I could of went to something else from the "What time do you get off".. I feel like I just left her hanging, because you're supposed to like ask a girl out or something after that line, right?

I don't know, any advice?

I want to at least number close lol... Or TRY TO, instead of the simple small talk ;(


I'm not fixated on this one girl or anything, I'm just attracted to her, and I want to try to take this some where, at least get her number.. I feel like she's attracted, so I want to try ;l

Hope some one has advice..
Author:  Dr. Beat [ Mon May 24, 2010 11:31 pm ]
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I think you need to take all of that fear and nervousness and put it aside. Remember, this is a game and she's just an NPC in it, and you're the PC. Do not fear anything and be bold. If you ask a girl something like that, just ask her out after. If anything it'll vanquish your fears a little and help you in future approaches.
Author:  minsok [ Tue May 25, 2010 12:29 am ]
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6'0" and you work out? Those are good stats right there. I didn't read everything, but firstly, people matter a lot. Just accept it, stop trying to trick yourself and outsmart your fear. If you screw this up, it's not the end of your sex life, either.

Okay, listen up. If you want to game a girl that's working, you have to do the direct approach. This is super easy and requires only a little game. All you do is get it in your head that you're the best thing that's going to happen to her today, which will be true because work is boring. Have your usual interaction, try to demonstrate a little humor and confidence, or swagger since you're Chris Brown, and after you pay, say "Hey, I know you're busy now, but I really want to talk to you outside of here. What's your number?" Make sure none of her coworkers or other customers notice. Write it down on the receipt and get her name if you haven't already. Then you have to do phone game and whatever.

If she says something like "Oh, we're really not allowed to." Just shrug it off and bail, don't push it. Rejection sucks, but trying something is valuable experience. Rejection doesn't actually take anything away from you. Do you even know if she's single? You can continue to shop there, just act normally, like nothing happen. You might even get lucky and she'll feel like giving you a chance down the road. In the future, if you're in this situation again with another girl, ask for her number the first time you see her.
Author:  allyman8 [ Tue May 25, 2010 12:47 am ]
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6'0" and you work out? Those are good stats right there. I didn't read everything, but firstly, people matter a lot. Just accept it, stop trying to trick yourself and outsmart your fear. If you screw this up, it's not the end of your sex life, either.

Okay, listen up. If you want to game a girl that's working, you have to do the direct approach. This is super easy and requires only a little game. All you do is get it in your head that you're the best thing that's going to happen to her today, which will be true because work is boring. Have your usual interaction, try to demonstrate a little humor and confidence, or swagger since you're Chris Brown, and after you pay, say "Hey, I know you're busy now, but I really want to talk to you outside of here. What's your number?" Make sure none of her coworkers or other customers notice. Write it down on the receipt and get her name if you haven't already. Then you have to do phone game and whatever.

If she says something like "Oh, we're really not allowed to." Just shrug it off and bail, don't push it. Rejection sucks, but trying something is valuable experience. Rejection doesn't actually take anything away from you. Do you even know if she's single? You can continue to shop there, just act normally, like nothing happen. You might even get lucky and she'll feel like giving you a chance down the road. In the future, if you're in this situation again with another girl, ask for her number the first time you see her.
Wow man, thanks so much for this advice :)

That really made everything seem a lot easier, I will be sure to take all of that in, and use it.

I'm not sure if she's in a relationship, but I'm sure going to try to find out.

If I get rejected, it's not the end of the world, it's just the start.

So again, thanks for taking the time to leave the tips, really helpful for me ;)
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