All I have found are stupid lines like "I always see you on this train, you must be stalking me", which makes me cringe

<p>If you know your going to cringe when you say that then don't say it. Something doesn't have to be all that great to open a conversation, it just needs to get you talking to her, just to break the ice.

<p>Just go sit next to her or something and say, "Hey, you know, I see you here a lot, and you seem like a pretty cool, down to earth girl. [stick out hand to shake] I'm BladeR." Then just start a normal conversation, like one you'd have with your best mate.

<p>Be light, be funny, be yourself, and when it's time to leave say, "do you have email?" She'll most likely say yes, so pull out a pen and paper and hand them to her. Bada-bing, you have her email. If you want you can throw in a, "you know while you're at it, why don't you write your phone number down too." But if not, then you still have her email.

<p>And if you really just want to be friends then it's really no pressure anyway.

<p>If you know your going to cringe when you say that then don't say it. Something doesn't have to be all that great to open a conversation, it just needs to get you talking to her, just to break the ice.

<p>Just go sit next to her or something and say, "Hey, you know, I see you here a lot, and you seem like a pretty cool, down to earth girl. [stick out hand to shake] I'm BladeR." Then just start a normal conversation, like one you'd have with your best mate.

<p>Be light, be funny, be yourself, and when it's time to leave say, "do you have email?" She'll most likely say yes, so pull out a pen and paper and hand them to her. Bada-bing, you have her email. If you want you can throw in a, "you know while you're at it, why don't you write your phone number down too." But if not, then you still have her email.

<p>And if you really just want to be friends then it's really no pressure anyway.

<p>If you know your going to cringe when you say that then don't say it. Something doesn't have to be all that great to open a conversation, it just needs to get you talking to her, just to break the ice.

<p>Just go sit next to her or something and say, "Hey, you know, I see you here a lot, and you seem like a pretty cool, down to earth girl. [stick out hand to shake] I'm BladeR." Then just start a normal conversation, like one you'd have with your best mate.

<p>Be light, be funny, be yourself, and when it's time to leave say, "do you have email?" She'll most likely say yes, so pull out a pen and paper and hand them to her. Bada-bing, you have her email. If you want you can throw in a, "you know while you're at it, why don't you write your phone number down too." But if not, then you still have her email.

<p>And if you really just want to be friends then it's really no pressure anyway.

Hi,

I am a new member here, but I joined because I have heard a lot about how PUAs are supposed to be like experts in, er, picking up girls. This should be a routine problem.

Anyway, my situation:

On most days (every other) on the train from where I get on to where I get off (including a change) I see the same girl. I don't see this person everyday because seeing her on the train is down to timing so it's very hard to get it right. I might miss the train she is on or be a little early, or she may be.

Is there any good way to actually make an approach (and just as friends)? Sitting on the train all day is boring as hell, especially with my MP3 players being broken (yes, I managed to break two of them). To make things worse, she listens to her MP3 player so any chance of me saying anything is made x10000000 harder. If she wasn't, I could say something.

Another thread I read about the exact same issue (approaching a girl who uses the same train on a daily basis) mentioned that a girl who is using headphones is a girl who doesn't want to be approached. This is not true as girls take them off when they meet friends on the train, or talk to friends and leave one headphone on, will take them off if you tap her shoulder and ask a genuine question and will try to give a helpful answer (Eg directions). All this means is that any approach is A LOT harder. Now I hate headphones/mp3 players and mine don't work!


She works in the same area as me but I have never seen her around in my lunch break (there is a big shopping centre near by - which is probably why I haven't seen her lol), but because we are of a similar age and work in the same area there is plenty to talk about. I could go on and on about work, except I hate talking about myself.

Of course, I am pretty sure she has noticed I always take the same train to the same destination and I don't see anyone else on the train as often as her/or myself who is already on it or from where I get on it and going to the same destination as us (this is just an observation). I usually notice I see the same people take the same trains as me once every few days and then I see them near my workplace.

All I have found are stupid lines like "I always see you on this train, you must be stalking me", which makes me cringe and if someone like me (a little inexperienced) says this, it surely won't work?

It's even harder to approach a girl who is attractive as it can be unwanted attention and they would realise it.

She is always on her own, which I guess is in my favour. She's never constantly on her phone which also helps and makes me think she is single (just my guess, not using a phone much isn't very conclusive). From her appearance she looks shy and quiet. The only time she may take her hearphones off is when changing trains so I guess that is my best chance to say something (like perhaps "Where abouts do you work?" - as in the company). The only thing I have done is make eye contact, which she spotted, and then I looked away but not as quick as I usually would as that would really imply I've done something wrong. How useful a tool is eye contact? I was establishing it as it requires confidence (or at least used to for me) but I missed a trick - smiling. What would a girl think of this sort of behaviour (eyeing a girl but just looking at her eyes, she looks, I look away)?


What should my "strategy" be?

What if I faked a sneeze and asked her for a tissue?

Is it a bad thing to ask her to take her head phones off? Some say yes this is, some say no - because if she has them on, she does not want to be disturbed. Though when I have my headphones on, I don't mind being disturbed.

The fundamental issue I have (other than luck), is that I am obviously inclined to talk to her as she is pretty. So surely she expects someone who is hot (and I'm average) to come up to her? Of course, I know other things count but these are not shown at face value (personality, etc).

What if I faked a sneeze and asked her for a tissue?

The likelihood of seeing her everyday is soon so I really need to get to the point.

it would be awesome if you faked a sneeze and made sure it looked fake, then ask if you can use her shirt sleeve or something.

Is it a bad thing to ask her to take her head phones off? Some say yes this is, some say no - because if she has them on, she does not want to be disturbed. Though when I have my headphones on, I don't mind being disturbed.

The fundamental issue I have (other than luck), is that I am obviously inclined to talk to her as she is pretty. So surely she expects someone who is hot (and I'm average) to come up to her? Of course, I know other things count but these are not shown at face value (personality, etc).

What if I faked a sneeze and asked her for a tissue?

The likelihood of seeing her everyday is soon so I really need to get to the point.