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| Author: | phaseshift [ Mon Oct 12, 2009 7:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Can building any type of comfort be done over MSN |
Well here is my problem, So I have known this girl quite some time, but rarely talk with her. The last time there was any face time about over 1 year go. Since then, I have only talked briefly to her over MSN (my only point of contact other than Facebook). I tried asking her out to a common event (thought it would be the best way) but got shot down and she made up some stupid excuse, unfortunately I do not know any of her mutual friends. What would be the best way to establish any sort of comfort so that she would be more willing to come out for face time? Btw, I am chinese, and she is taiwanese. Thanks so much! |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Mon Oct 12, 2009 2:36 pm ] |
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you can't really build comfort over msn ... but you can build familiarity over MSN. YOu can't kino over MSN- that's why girls don't feel comfortable when you meet them. Dont even ask her out .... Find out what she likes and lay the emphasis on that... don't do this : hey do you want to meet ? We should meet sometimes and hang out. We should hang out with some friends ( YOU NEED MUTAL FRIENDS, SHE HAS NO COMFORT WITH YOUR FRIENDS ANYWAY because they don't have anything in common with her) NEVER ASK a girl ... just tell her you are going to do something and you ask her If she wants to join ok if she doesn't want to join then fuck her NEVER become needy and never ask a girl's permission. dont ask a girl just take a girl do this : '' Oh you play tennis ... fuck i can't even talk to you now - i love tennis ... are you good ? ..... il bet you are just bragging about how good you are ..... try to beat me ... Hey im gonna this saturday you can pas by if you want ....we should tennis some times, i got a friend - he also plays tennis maybe we can meet up so i can beat you and win'' what happened here is that i've shown her i got something in common with her ( comfort familiarity + ) i did some push and pull by telling her i can't even talk to her and she will be like ''WTF'' and then i tell her i love tennis . It's a IOD + IOI it's keeps her mind bussy , familiarity breeds contempt so you also have to be slightly unpredictable. Now i told her that she is bragging about her skills.. girl always think they are right .. never engage them on a logical level BUT DO challenge them. Show her you are going to play tennis on saturdays anyway... this way you don't appear needy maybe she will say '' oh maybe i will pass by'', Show her you can have fun on your own anyway - i even told girl i go out on my own.. because i can have fun on my own and like to make new friends - in other words show her you are a fun person to hang out with. You also can use a DHV embedded story, merge some DHV spikes in your conversations without conveying being needy or arrogance. By telling her i got another friend ( better if you tell her it's a female friend ) it becomes less date and more like a friendly meeting - it takes away the pressure and you show your not needy in any way. I always involve a second person in my date - it;s about having fun - the more persons the more fun .. at least that's the plan. especially on msn girls won't believe you if you are telling the truth .. if she's like '' no way '' or '' i don't believe you '' don't ever argue about this - never argue who is right or not just tell her a DHV embedded story or change subject. Freezing out on msn works well. |
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