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Author:  Dawn [ Tue Dec 30, 2008 8:04 am ]
Post subject:  First Approachers - This One Is For You
so, i dont spend much time learning it but this pua thing is an awasome thing for those who want to improve their life in general, not just about woman..

i recently opend a buisness and i was looking for a way to publish it without spending much money..
while looking in this info site i realized i can do 2 things toghether:

1. overcome my fear (or at least leran how to deal with it) of cold approaching woman.
2.talk to new ppl and tell them about my coffee shop (small city).

so i printed a buisness card and a free gift card, one type in each pocket and went outside to look for ppl..
while i was in the street i couldent speak to no one.. i just froze and ended up walking for howers talking to myself.. that was bad.. i still have those days by the way, i will change it..

anyway, i decided to go to the shopping center.. i figured a place with alot of stores have alot of woman in it, maybe there it will be easier..
at first i was just walking around the center with fear..
then i decided to look for a shop with no one in it exept for the sale woman..
so i did it
when you think about approching and you see an oppertunity there are 2 things that goes in your mind.

1.no, no, no, no , no
2. thinking about what could go wrong..

so, force yourself to move in the direction of the store.. just force your self. it's hard but possible, turn your body and move forward.
then, your head clears and you understand that your going to do it..
from there it's easy
just use your opener and procced.. most of them (usualy all of them)
will be nice and cool with it.

heres what i did
i took a survay for my coffee shop

i walked in to a store and said

1. Hi, I need your help
2. I recently opend a coffee shop in (some known area) and im trying to figure out what ppl want.. i need to ask you 3 questions..
3. asking the queshtions and from there it's an open set..

killing two birds in one take..

one thing that's importent.

your first question/opener should be somthing that makes a girl think..

hope this helps
have a good one
Author:  d3sign3r [ Tue Dec 30, 2008 7:31 pm ]
Post subject: 
Well done, glad to hear your facing the fear! and good luck with the business, thats a damn great excuse to get out there and talk with people.
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when you think about approching and you see an oppertunity there are 2 things that goes in your mind.
This reminds me of something Tyler talks about. He says, before you approach a women there are three things you commonly think or three states:

1: THE PAST, you think about all the times before when approach has gone bad, or you have been scared or whatever
2: THE FUTURE: you project and imgine all the possible things that could go wrong
3: THE PRESENT: the ideal state, be in the moment, forget the past and thefuture, just be in the present, trust yourself

Thats one reason why the 3 scond rule works well, it keeps you in the present, you don have time to start remembering stuff or future projecting.
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