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Author:  Wolf119 [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 7:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Approach Anxiety
Hi guys, my names Wolf, shame that whenever im in a club and see a set that i want to approach i turn into a wimpering puppy and freeze, i literally freeze, i stand there dancing or whatever, and run through in my head a few possible openers, and what she could say in response to them etc, but by then its like 2 mins since i saw them and the window has shut, How can i get past this? how can i beat AA?

Thanks
Author:  imnotghetto [ Sat Dec 06, 2008 7:41 pm ]
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This happened to me and always will probably. The only thing you can do is reduce it. Just say to yourself "I am the prize and i will most likely never see them again anyway. The reason girls are here is to socialize so talking won't hurt" I run that through my head and after a beer or two i'm ready to mingle. Just remember that they are no better than you and are looking for a non-harassing guy.
Author:  Wolf119 [ Sun Dec 07, 2008 12:57 am ]
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Cheers, IMNOTGHETTO ive been reading the Game, and one of the lines that has stuck with me is the line Mystery gave Style that each club is a video game, so im going to try to internalize,

Any more ideas from anyone would be great, also where do people find better for sarging, Clubs or Bars

Ta Wolf
Author:  ratsomalley [ Sun Dec 07, 2008 1:14 am ]
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wolf

i share your problem, when i first read the game i lost my anxiety albeit with a bit of of dutch. i stuck with a chick for a while, it didn't go well and ive been struggling with AA ever since.

in club situations recently i have improved. i find an over the shoulder opener at the bar is simple, straightforward and you will more times than not get a response. it is easy and it requires little thought.
Author:  Wolf119 [ Sun Dec 07, 2008 2:40 am ]
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Thanks bro il try that have you got any surefire openers that work for you?
Author:  talman [ Tue Dec 09, 2008 8:46 pm ]
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The way to get round this is to get dancing and give the impression your not there to pull women. Therefore dont be looking round for girls and do some bad ass dancing. Women prefer a guys whos not women hunting and will open you or at least dance with you. For vidoes of my dance workshop see, but please keep an open mind as it wont show you the whole thing

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=mbxS44mYbU0

others videos at www.youtube/tazza32
Author:  RailRoad [ Wed Dec 10, 2008 11:23 pm ]
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please help, tonight something really strange happened. I was sitting at a table with some of my friends, when I saw 2 HB8's who was trying to take a photo of them both, but I saw they were struggling, so I decided to go over there and ask them: "You look like you need some help with the photo". The one replied with:"No, we want to do it ourselves".

So afterwards I was wondering, "what did I do wrong?" and "Do you stay away from tipsy chicks?" Please help me with delema.
Author:  stunt101 [ Thu Dec 11, 2008 3:41 am ]
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I believe nothing I say online will get rid of your approach anxiety, you have to out there and get rid of it. Try an excecise. Go to random people in the streets or mall and approach them. Say hi at first then move onto the "How are you doing?" and make small talk. Everyday, walk more confidently with shoulders back and scan the area ocassionaly. When soemone gives you eye contact, make eye contact until they look away. You have to get into that zone. Once that happens, you'll notice most people are receptive to approaching.
Author:  xephyr [ Sun Dec 14, 2008 2:34 pm ]
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Quote:
This happened to me and always will probably. The only thing you can do is reduce it. Just say to yourself "I am the prize and i will most likely never see them again anyway. The reason girls are here is to socialize so talking won't hurt" I run that through my head and after a beer or two i'm ready to mingle. Just remember that they are no better than you and are looking for a non-harassing guy.
Yeah, you're right but still, it's not easy :)
Author:  Wolf119 [ Mon Dec 15, 2008 2:02 pm ]
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hey guys. I was out on saturday with a mate at a bar leaning against the bar with a bottle of beer and I saw a nice four set worked up enough courage and opened thebset with the my mates gf and ex gf letter opener but had trouble transitioning it past that. Does anyone have any canned routines that work generally cheers

Wolf
Author:  Hot Alpha Female [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:30 am ]
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I would say that you need to stop approaching at clubs.

This is like one of the ultimate tests.

First figure out what exactly it is that you are scared about when approaching a girl.

Is is the fear of rejection or something else?

Then start talking to girls at the shops, who wait on your table and who you find in everyday life.

In fact just be more engaged with the world around you.

You will find that there is a natural flow that comes out of you when you are relaxed and comfortable.

Then once this happens you ur self esteem has grown ... and you want the ultimate test .. then go into clubs and do the same thing.
Author:  Stygian [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 4:34 am ]
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In the words of Jackie Chan "Don't think, just do."

Here's a little excersise you can try, it helps with many things (it helped me get over my over-analysis) and will help with almost all bad habits.

Every time you feel yourself starting to think too much or in this case, think at all about the approach simply cut off that train of thought and envision yourself partying with these girls, being the life of the party and f-closing them. Now approach and make their night worth having.

Obviously you will have to change it around a little for different habits but you get the idea.

This excersise, though simple as hell, will eventually stop you from getting these thoughts and because you have envisioned these things, you will likely be smiling at this point and will have the presupposition of closing them, so you will be feeling like a billion dollars.

Happy sarging!
Author:  Playze [ Sun Dec 21, 2008 1:30 pm ]
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just thing of them as girls/women dont think of them as HB's just think what is gunna happen?

all that will happen is you will be sucessfull and get the outcome you want or you wont if you dont then move on its not like there going to laugh at you, they will probably respect you for trying

good luck for the future
Author:  crazdy [ Fri Dec 26, 2008 9:13 pm ]
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AA. the hardest part of Pick-Up to overcome. however, a good stratergy acording to mystery is give you wing $200 (or £200 if its england, or however much you want to give him/her) then after every aproach your wing gives you $20 or whatever the fraction may be. therefore in order to avoid losing money, you HAVE to aproach.

hope that helps
Author:  sorin93 [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:11 am ]
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AA will happen!
you can't really control it. i get it all the time. it's how you handle it that matters. i use AA as my motivation to just go up and open the set. AA increases exponentially. the first second you're at 10%, in a few seconds you go to 50%, if you wait any longer you will be at 100% AA. soo when you feel like you're getting AA just say to yourself "screw AA right in the ass. i dont care. i'm opening that girl no matter what!!". just be confident. do some research on inner game. getting AA actually helps you because your body releases adrenaline. like i said, depending on how you handle it, AA can be the best thing or it can blow you out.
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