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Author:  D_Cullen [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 7:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Asking her out
Hey dudes
I need some help and advice on getting a girl to go out with me. The story goes like this, we've seen each other in person once and we've talked over on facebook a few times. I always try to keep the chat focused on her and not talk about myself to much unless she asks and I keep trying to throw some humor in there to get her to know that I'm interested in her and that I can make her laugh("Knowing that girl like guys that can make them laugh, right?"). So anyway a few times I've made really bad jokes or asked stupid questions and I felt that she was responding just out of being nice, and most likely that was the case. Up until one time where she didn't respond. I haven't texted her yet, and I think she would respond if I do so I don't want to blow it. That's why I ended up here asking you for as much advice as you can give me before I text her.
I want to go out with her and I don't know how to ask or convince her to.
Thanks!
Author:  Khatib_Imron [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 7:52 pm ]
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I've made really bad jokes or asked stupid questions and I felt that she was responding just out of being nice, and most likely that was the case.
You should apologize and convince her to accept your apology.
Author:  D_Cullen [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 8:00 pm ]
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I've made really bad jokes or asked stupid questions and I felt that she was responding just out of being nice, and most likely that was the case.
You should apologize and convince her to accept your apology.
I mean, it's not that I offended her with the joke or question, it was just plain stupid. Something that you'd say that guy is boring why should I respond...
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 8:16 pm ]
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Is she aware of your attraction to her?
Author:  D_Cullen [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 9:17 pm ]
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Is she aware of your attraction to her?
I haven't told her or gave her any hint, but I kept asking questions about her, showing interest so she might have a clue.
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 9:36 pm ]
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Is she aware of your attraction to her?
I haven't told her or gave her any hint, but I kept asking questions about her, showing interest so she might have a clue.
You can't ask a girl out without actually flirting with her unless she has expressed interest in you. If you don't express any attraction towards her then if she accepts your invitation to go out, the odds will be that she will view it as friends even if she suspects that you want more.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 1:29 pm ]
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I've made really bad jokes or asked stupid questions and I felt that she was responding just out of being nice, and most likely that was the case.
You should apologize and convince her to accept your apology.
No
Author:  Black Phantom [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 4:14 pm ]
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One of the best ways to ask a girl out is to use what I call a 1-2 punch.

What you do is basically this:

Send her a:

Message #1 with these words: Hey name, what's up? How are you doing?

Then after she responds, you respond with the:

Message #2: Awesome. You know I wanted to ask you if you would want to go out with me - like on a date?


And then you SHUT UP, and you wait for her to respond.

There are two possible ways she will respond:


Response #1: "Yea, I would love to :)"

In this case, you respond with: "Great, how does Wednesday 7pm sound? "


Or she can Respond #2: "Hey, well thanks for asking, but it's better that we just stay friends"

In this case, you'll have your answer.

Beating around the bush won't do you any good. If you ask her directly, she will gain SOO much respect for you.

I've learned that a lot of success with women is just by cutting through the B.S and just getting to the point
of what T.F you want.

Women like men who can be DIRECT and BRIEF. There is a LOT of power in you asking her out like this, because
you show 2 things:

1. I am a strong man and I know what I want. When I want something, I find a way to get it.

2. I am not dependant on your mood or anything like that. I am a force of my own entering your life.

Make sense?

So try it and let us know what happens.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 6:18 pm ]
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Pick up the phone and CALL HER. And talk to her so things don't get misconstrued this time around. Call her up and talk to her the same way you would talk to her on the first date. Vibe with her, learn about her, and get to know her. This will build the comfort that will secure you the lay so long as you have the confidence to escalate.

But you do have to ask yourself how is she to thinks it makes sense to go out with you, if you can't even have a simple text conversation with her. A text conversation is way more basic and simple to actually going out. "If he can't do that, how will her do this" - That is how women think.
Author:  Khatib_Imron [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 9:18 pm ]
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You can't ask a girl out without actually flirting with her unless she has expressed interest in you. If you don't express any attraction towards her then if she accepts your invitation to go out, the odds will be that she will view it as friends even if she suspects that you want more.
The above is a good advice.
Author:  Khatib_Imron [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 9:21 pm ]
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No
I thought it was a serious joke that could offend her.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 9:24 pm ]
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No
I thought it was a serious joke that could offend her.
By no, I mean 'No not ever.' Never do that shit.
Author:  Khatib_Imron [ Wed Mar 01, 2017 9:36 pm ]
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No
I thought it was a serious joke that could offend her.
By no, I mean 'No not ever.' Never do that shit.
OK, thats your opinion.
Author:  Salzy [ Thu Mar 02, 2017 11:02 pm ]
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You are focused a lot towards the outcome, which is to ask her out and girls can sense that. With that mentality you will get nowhere. The mentality you should have is that your making her a better person by allowing her to come into your world. And don't apologise that would make it more awkward and she will feel good about herself. Instead, on Facebook upload pictures of you having a good time for the next 3 days and wait another 2 days till you pop up. Have a light hearted conversation without thinking of the outcome and later on get her number to arrange a date.
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