PUA Forum :: Time spent thinking

When you're only approaching a girl because you find her physically attractive your mind will have trouble coming up with anything to say because your motivation to approach had nothing to do with your thoughts, it was pure visually based.

When you actually know what kind of "Attractive" woman you're looking for because you have standards; you'll find it much more easier to engage in conversation, because you won't be boggling your mind with what to say to impress them or contact with them; you'll be approaching and evaluating them based on the list of standards that you require from a woman for you to take interest in them. It become about YOU, what YOU'RE looking for, and if THEY fit into your life. Its no longer about them and you waiting on them to approve of whatever it is you're saying to them. You become self approved, you become the evaluator, the one hosting the interview and not the one seeing if you're going to get hired for the job. Most guys approach woman as if the woman is the boss and they're trying to get hired for a position that there is no space for. When you have requirements beyond the surface you become the boss thats giving them an opportunity to be invited into your world.

So this isn't a technical issue. Its more of a mental thing. You have no idea why you're approaching women other than the fact that you get erect and you think they're attractive. That approach can work and does work here and there, but its hit or miss. You're playing a numbers game. And its their game. You're not there to impress, you're there to inspect. - Eddie Fews

Author:	Traldi [ Wed Nov 30, 2016 1:55 am ]
Post subject:	Time spent thinking
Hey guys, new here. How much time do you spend thinking before the approach? I mean, after seeing your target. Just to clarify, I'm not talking about thinking in excuses. I'm talking about thinking in strategies, what to say, trying to figure out the girl's personality, thinking what she could have that makes her unique (at least a little bit) to say to her... I don't know... (This forum has too many topics. Can't read everything to see if what I'm asking has already been discussed)

Author:	DrewDating [ Wed Nov 30, 2016 2:56 am ]
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Quote: Hey guys, new here. How much time do you spend thinking before the approach? I mean, after seeing your target. Just to clarify, I'm not talking about thinking in excuses. I'm talking about thinking in strategies, what to say, trying to figure out the girl's personality, thinking what she could have that makes her unique (at least a little bit) to say to her... I don't know... (This forum has too many topics. Can't read everything to see if what I'm asking has already been discussed) I try to approach as soon as possible, the more you hesitate the more likely another chode is going to be walking up to them and talking to them. say simple stuff that dont take too much thought like "thats a badass outfit" and carry on the conversation or just go around with a drink in your hand and just "cheers" people's drinks. youll come across as really friendly and fun hope this helps

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:49 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Time spent thinking
No time thinking. Whats the point of thinking? How much time do you spend thinking before you eat your food? Before you work out? before you make a joke with your best friend? You just take action and go right in. Evaluating and thinking is not what this is about. Its about getting out there and getting social. Quote: When you're only approaching a girl because you find her physically attractive your mind will have trouble coming up with anything to say because your motivation to approach had nothing to do with your thoughts, it was pure visually based. When you actually know what kind of "Attractive" woman you're looking for because you have standards; you'll find it much more easier to engage in conversation, because you won't be boggling your mind with what to say to impress them or contact with them; you'll be approaching and evaluating them based on the list of standards that you require from a woman for you to take interest in them. It become about YOU, what YOU'RE looking for, and if THEY fit into your life. Its no longer about them and you waiting on them to approve of whatever it is you're saying to them. You become self approved, you become the evaluator, the one hosting the interview and not the one seeing if you're going to get hired for the job. Most guys approach woman as if the woman is the boss and they're trying to get hired for a position that there is no space for. When you have requirements beyond the surface you become the boss thats giving them an opportunity to be invited into your world. So this isn't a technical issue. Its more of a mental thing. You have no idea why you're approaching women other than the fact that you get erect and you think they're attractive. That approach can work and does work here and there, but its hit or miss. You're playing a numbers game. And its their game. You're not there to impress, you're there to inspect. - Eddie Fews

Author:	Black Phantom [ Sun Dec 04, 2016 12:49 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Time spent thinking
One of the best things you can do when you find yourself in a situation when you want to think and ponder about to say, is to NOTICE what is the FIRST thing that comes to your mind. For example, when you see a guy passionately taking pictures with a camera, your first thought could be "Is he a professional photographer?" If you see a girl in a dress with butterflies, your first thought could be "Is she an artist?" If you see a girl walking really elegantly, your first thought could be "Is she a dancer?" So your first challenge is to become AWARE of what people around you are doing, vs. being in your head and thinking about what to say. Then your next move is to walk up and say it. "Hey, quick question - are you a professional photographer? Because I've noticed you take your pictures really passionately" Hey, quick question - are you an artist? Because I've noticed your dress with butterflies, and I thought only an artistic would would wear something like that" Hey, quick question - are you a dancer? Because I couldn't help noticing your walk - it's so elegant" Make sense? So the gist of it is this: 1. Become AWARE of your surroundings 2. NOTICE something about the people 3. ASK them about it Pretty simple.

Author:	Traldi [ Mon Dec 05, 2016 8:39 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Time spent thinking
Thank you guys. It really helps.

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Author:	kidfromcro [ Mon Dec 05, 2016 10:12 pm ]
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