PUA Forum :: Online Dating

Most men are wired to fear the approach and therefore exercise varying degrees of restraint. Now, with the anonymity of social and dating sites, men are fearless and express overt, and sometimes even vulgar interest in women. Worse even, men 'over-compliment' women in hopes of getting laid, making her think her value is far beyond what is realistic. So, more or less, 5's become 10's, 10's become 20's etc.

Without a doubt you can still establish your value online, but I feel like because of what online dating does to female psychology and because a woman can't experience your presence, body language etc... online dating is a hurdle for the PUA.

What are your thoughts? Do you agree, disagree or have any other angles / points to bring up on this subject?

Also, if anyone wants to take a moment to give some advice on online dating that would be interesting.

I'll share some things I've seen. Freddie Few had a good idea, once a girl gives you her number it's often a good idea to just call her instead of text as it establishes a more tangible and emotional connection. Most girls don't expect since most guys think it's too forward, but if you're a good conversationalist and have a easy going and relaxed tone, it's been very successful for me.

Also, giving off the vibe that online dating more or less just a joke to you (you don't need it, you're just being playful and having some fun). Having pictures that are a little outlandish (you with an eye patch and relaxed in a chair drinking a beer... not caring...

Author:	SirPounce [ Fri Mar 11, 2016 1:38 am ]
Post subject:	Online Dating - Are We Ready?
Just wanted to pool our thoughts together in a discussion on online dating. Please take all of this with a grain of salt and open mind: I don't believe the human mind was built for the online dating scene. Most men are wired to fear the approach and therefore exercise varying degrees of restraint. Now, with the anonymity of social and dating sites, men are fearless and express overt, and sometimes even vulgar interest in women. Worse even, men 'over-compliment' women in hopes of getting laid, making her think her value is far beyond what is realistic. So, more or less, 5's become 10's, 10's become 20's etc. Without a doubt you can still establish your value online, but I feel like because of what online dating does to female psychology and because a woman can't experience your presence, body language etc... online dating is a hurdle for the PUA. What are your thoughts? Do you agree, disagree or have any other angles / points to bring up on this subject? Also, if anyone wants to take a moment to give some advice on online dating that would be interesting. I'll share some things I've seen. Freddie Few had a good idea, once a girl gives you her number it's often a good idea to just call her instead of text as it establishes a more tangible and emotional connection. Most girls don't expect since most guys think it's too forward, but if you're a good conversationalist and have a easy going and relaxed tone, it's been very successful for me. Also, giving off the vibe that online dating more or less just a joke to you (you don't need it, you're just being playful and having some fun). Having pictures that are a little outlandish (you with an eye patch and relaxed in a chair drinking a beer... not caring... Anyways, these are my thoughts, I'm looking forward to seeing what everyone's thoughts are on this.

Author:	horologist [ Fri Mar 11, 2016 10:33 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Online Dating - Are We Ready?
Quote: I don't believe the human mind was built for the online dating scene. You're probably right, but we can adapt. Quote: Most men are wired to fear the approach and therefore exercise varying degrees of restraint. Now, with the anonymity of social and dating sites, men are fearless and express overt, and sometimes even vulgar interest in women. Worse even, men 'over-compliment' women in hopes of getting laid, making her think her value is far beyond what is realistic. So, more or less, 5's become 10's, 10's become 20's etc. This is probably true, there's been a lot of talk about it. But again we can adapt our game for these over-complimented women. Quote: Without a doubt you can still establish your value online, but I feel like because of what online dating does to female psychology and because a woman can't experience your presence, body language etc... online dating is a hurdle for the PUA. I'm able to establish my value online through instagram, facebook, etc. Lots of pictures. I have friends take pics of me all the time. It's just a different hurdle. With online dating, you have to adapt to psychologically seduce them. Body language and whatnot is out, so you need her to use her imagination of what you can offer. It works. Quote: What are your thoughts? Do you agree, disagree or have any other angles / points to bring up on this subject? I think online dating is here to stay. I think approaching in real life is better by far, but I'm not going to complain about online dating. I've gotten TONS of quality lays from online dating, even a few 10s. I think we have to roll with the tide. We're naturally wired to resist change, but it's no use. I think we should simply learn online dating. Quote: Also, if anyone wants to take a moment to give some advice on online dating that would be interesting. I can't give advice, that would be way too long. I just suggest tons of practice. For good practice, sign up with some free dating sites, and start messaging girls in other cities so you won't have as much leverage weighed on you, make conversation, be charming, see what works and what doesn't. I suggest doing this with a nearby city you like to visit. Me, personally, I like to go to Dallas when I can, so I frequently message girls in Dallas, get one hooked, then go spend the weekend with her while also doing my Abercrombie shopping and downtown Dallas fun. Quote: I'll share some things I've seen. Freddie Few had a good idea, once a girl gives you her number it's often a good idea to just call her instead of text as it establishes a more tangible and emotional connection. Most girls don't expect since most guys think it's too forward, but if you're a good conversationalist and have a easy going and relaxed tone, it's been very successful for me. I'm sure Freddie Few is right but honestly I haven't called right off the bat. I may just try that next time though. I'm really good with texting. That's another thing; texting is a social norm now, we need to embrace it, and learn it I'm gonna try a phone call right off the bat for my next barrage of tinder game. Quote: Also, giving off the vibe that online dating more or less just a joke to you (you don't need it, you're just being playful and having some fun). Having pictures that are a little outlandish (you with an eye patch and relaxed in a chair drinking a beer... not caring... I think that's a good idea. I've used that, even in my "about me" description. It helps for women to know that you have no issue approaching women in real life. Lets them use their imagination anyway.

Author:	oceanx [ Fri Mar 11, 2016 10:49 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Online Dating - Are We Ready?
OP one post would've been enough instead of posting it in multiple spots.

Author:	SirPounce [ Tue Mar 15, 2016 8:54 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Online Dating - Are We Ready?
Quote: OP one post would've been enough instead of posting it in multiple spots. Sorry about that Ocean, thing is I didn't think that it posted in the other section cause it kept saying "can't repost so soon" apparently I hit submit twice too quickly? My bad.

Author:	SirPounce [ Tue Mar 15, 2016 8:55 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Online Dating - Are We Ready?
Thanks for your response horologist. I agree with everything.

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