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| Author: | PatrickAnanda [ Fri Feb 26, 2016 8:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Give Up Your Fear Of Failure And Life Fearlessly |
“Because he expects nothing, he is never disappointed” – Tao Te Ching Right. Let’s get to the deep dark dirty gritty truth shall we? There Is No Growth Without Failure! Stand up from your chair and say that out loud three times. Then what I want you to do, is think back at all the times you’ve stopped yourself due to fear of failure. Every time your mind came up with a pathetic excuse as to why you shouldn’t be living by your own rules. I mean seriously… What the hell are you waiting for? I find it strange when I get calls from clients and there’s some kind of problem. “Pat… I just can’t seem to find a great partner!” “Pat… I just can’t do this!!” People sounding like they’re bleeding in the trenches or something… The. Absolute. Fuck. Is. This? “And he sees you standing there, looking as if you had a problem… Looking, as if, this whole living thing were extremely difficult. But from where he’s standing it’s all quite funny. Because he knows, you see, that there is no problem at all!” – Alan Watts Don’t even want to get into the billion different reasons as to why your fear of failure is ridiculous. Call me lazy, but instead I’m going to get straight down to the dirty truth: There is no success without failure. One of the biggest realizations you could possibly have is to notice how everything you’ve ever done has been to avoid failure. Every time you desperately seek out the next piece of material, the next dating tip, the next self-improvement technique, the next piece of the puzzle to make you feel whole. This fear of failure is a desire for safety… And that’s about the time you need to do some honest self-assessment here. Chances are, if you’re looking to ‘knock time off your learning curve’ – then you’re doing it wrong. If you’re looking to get everything you could possibly dream of – but effortlessly and with NO chance of failure – you’re doing it wrong. If you’re looking for the newest technique that will completely eliminate rejection – then you’re doing it wrong. Notice the marketing lingo I used? Because I’ve seen that shit sold by so-called coaches all over the place, and I’ve seen armies of men buy into that crap. I mean really, why would you want to avoid failure anyway? It’s your greatest tool for growth. Let Go Of Results “Want to know what my secret its? I don’t mind what happens” – Jiddu Krishnamurti This is what it boils down to; You are afraid of failure because you have an outcome in mind. Want to know the quickest way to eradicate that fear of failure entirely? By removing your desire for outcome. There’s a fundamental difference between seeing your fear of failure as something you need to overcome, and accepting your fear of failure as part of the journey. One is negative, unpleasant, almost like you’re dragging your feet. The other is exciting, fun, and curious. Be THAT guy. The reason most people burn out is because they just can’t take the rejection. They can’t handle the failure, or the embarrassment, or the humiliation, or the pain, or even, yes, the loneliness. Every time anyone wants to accomplish something great, the world is going to beat you down for it. So what it really comes down to is where you choose to place your focus. Will it be on how nothing seems to be going right? Or on the attractive possibility that you are getting one step closer to achieving your dreams? Your choice. Look, life is… well… Life! It would be boring if you didn’t fuck up every so often. It would be boring if you just always had the good stuff – there’d be nothing to strive for! You’re going to fail. Over and over and over. So stop trying to escape this and just relax and enjoy it all! Take it all in like a man and laugh at yourself. Stop taking yourself so seriously. Rant over. Your fan, Pat Ananda |
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| Author: | Don Horneone [ Sun Feb 28, 2016 11:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Give Up Your Fear Of Failure And Life Fearlessly |
Negatives first, please drop the "your fan" thing forever. It sucks. Positives, well everything else about your post. This is what separates those who are serious about doing something with their lives and those who aren't. And you write really well man so I want to encourage you, don't take the above as a diss. The rejections I've received are if anything more precious than the acceptance. Face it, half the time acceptance is based on reasons you wouldn't want it to be for. The woman who truly appreciate you for who you are is rare. A lot of the time it's for things SHE wants from you or just things you were born with and haven't earned. So acceptance is seriously overrated. But accepting failure and rejection shows that YOU value you. Cos if you can keep going when others doubt and knock you, then you've really got something. If you'll only keep going when others like you, what have you got? Nothing of value. The best thing about rejection is seeing a girl who knocked you back and laughing because you realise SHE missed out. And it'll happen sooner or later. If you walk the path we're walking, you will increase in your objective value and your own perception of your value, and girls will see more in you than they did before. And sad to say, you'll see less in them. That's another reason why these rejections are great. Because when you see them for the joke they are, it only strengthens you. |
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| Author: | Sodomorrah [ Fri Mar 04, 2016 6:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Give Up Your Fear Of Failure And Life Fearlessly |
Great advice man, you sound like you mean what you mean,something i definitely need to hear, im still working on this exact state of mind myself, got shut down by a chick who barely spoke english and it struck my ego or whatever it was. |
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