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| Author: | 1234567890123 [ Sun Jul 12, 2015 6:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | A way to deal with approach anxiety that worked for me |
I know I've heard other people mention this but mindfulness meditation helped me a ton and I can explain why. You sit down and then close or half close your eyes. Then focus on your breathing. Your mind will wander. As it does you acknowledge your thoughts in a non-judgemental way and then bring your focus back to your breathing. When I started it was really hard because I'd want to stop because I was bored, wanted to check my phone or remembered something I needed to do. Starting out meditating for 5 minutes at a time helped me overcome that because those things can probably wait 5 minutes. You still feel the anxiety but choose not to act on it. The idea isn't to make the feeling go away. Before approaching, in set or on date there will be times when I'll think of something that seems like a good idea but then I have this second thought which tells me to play it safe. I feel anxious. If you get used to meditating you'll still feel the same anxiety but making the more ballsy move despite how you feel will start seeming like more and more of a valid option. You already make decisions independent of anxiety all the time when meditating by choosing not to act on it. I also love meditating when I'm angry, anxious or feeling any strong emotion. It's good practice because you acknowledge your emotional state and you feel it strongly. Then CHOOSE how to act rather than letting the emotion direct you. Since you've decided to meditate the action will usually be to focus on your breathing for now and possibly do something about it when you're done. Before doing this I literally felt like I couldn't approach at all. Like it was this 1000 foot wall I couldn't climb. An hour a week of meditation a week made a huge difference after a few months. |
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| Author: | HugoMoreno [ Thu Jul 16, 2015 6:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: A way to deal with approach anxiety that worked for me |
Emotions are states of mind. One of things that I do to "snap" me out of a negative state of mind is to play a dramatic movie in my head that involves the powerful giant "me" Slapping the shit out of the anxiety ridden "me" And the giant tells the little "me" to stop fucking with the giant me What happens is I get a surge of adrenaline and feel powerful literally within a minute or 2. |
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