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Author:  Huey_Hattan [ Sun Jul 12, 2015 12:07 am ]
Post subject:  Mission Abort!: Premature Ejection Problem
What's going on community. I've been making it a goal to go out and approach more women, and work out as much as possible. I'm committed to achieving my coveted progress.

So, as I've been approaching I've been noticing that I eject way too soon. Sometimes conversation flows easily and I can close, other times I psyche myself out and just walk away. I'm thinking this is a problem because I haven't done anything yet. I say hey, followed by a situational opener chat about it then leave. How can I improve on this problem, and not have eject be my first option?

Thanks in advance.

- Huey
Author:  david14433 [ Sat Aug 08, 2015 9:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Mission Abort!: Premature Ejection Problem
Here are my notes from the 10 hook lead system made by Kezia Noble.

Introduction
The most common problems: Approach anxiety, being able to sexually escalate, running out of things to say, awkward and uncomfortable silences, interrogation or motor mouth.

2. The three stages of the interaction. The introduction, comfort and then the seduction stage.

3. Turning negatives into positives.

4. Creating a ‘strong base’.

5. What the 10 hook lead system will give you.
The ability to transition the interaction form ‘opener’ to ‘comfort’.
How to get even the most unresponsive women to respond.
How to demonstrate high value and high standards.
How to implant hooks that you can sexually escalate from.
How to use ‘deep connection’ techniques to their full advantage.
How to show off your strengths to the maximum.
How to take negatives and turn them into positives.
How to create a strong ‘base’, for you to use ‘routines’ effectively.
How to master ‘cold readings’.
You will get honest and powerful information about the female mind.

6. What is a hook? Every single word that comes out of her mouth is a hook. Not a word that you can connect with or a word that fits your reality. Every single word.

7. Low Calibre hooks and High calibre hooks. Low calibre hooks are useless. High calibre hooks are what your going to use.

Low calibre hooks - Yes, No, Fine, Thanks, Hello, Over there, Name, cuisine, animals, colors,

High calibre hooks - Celebs, countries, cities, hobbies, jobs, interests, books, movies,

8. Hook lead: ‘open question’ You can use open questions at book stores, coffee shops, recreational sports leagues, Cigarette Breaks, The Post Office, school, Public Transportation, Your Apartment Building, Working on a Political Campaign, Art Museums or Galleries, Whole Foods, Office Parties (Just Not at Your Office), In Front of Public Sculptures, lake, Dinner Parties, Hair Salons, Poetry/Fiction Readings, Chuck E. Cheese (or Other Child-centric Spots), Yoga Class, Wedding,

9. Hook lead: ‘Fact’ Use fact hooks on shy girls. Make up a fact if you have to. “I read in _____ that......”

Some facts:
Bill Clinton’s approval ratings actually went up during the Monica Lewinsky scandal.

10. Hook lead: ‘Challenge’ “A challenge is the result of....” French women love to be intellectually challenged.
Negs or negging: "You know you blink a lot." "Awh I love the way you laugh your nose goes all crinkly like a rabbit." "Your too much of a nice girl I can’t go out with you."

(If she likes partying, drinking, night life) “What do you know about partying. I can see you just going home and having a cup of hot chocolate watching sex and the city.

11. The diffusion technique. “Stop (look down and smile) me and you are never going to agree on this. We can sit here for two weeks and argue about this am I right? (girl yes) You know what I love that, don’t you find that most other people you have a discussion with they just agree with you for the sake of it. It’s like they don’t even have an opinion. But your like me your fiery and you’ll stick to what you believe in. You won’t back down."

"You call your lawyers and I’ll call mine."

Once into a big argument, say “Stop, you know what the problem is ________ you are the female version of me and I am the male version of you."

"We might not agree but were the same we connect."

10. Hook lead: ‘Opinion’ Use both positive and negative opinions. You can’t have a strong opinion about religion or the country the person is born from.

13. Hook Lead ‘Humor’: Put a name to the type of humor that you have. If they don’t laugh at your joke find it amusing that they don’t get it tell them what kind of humor you have, and they will respect that.

14. Hook Lead: ‘Anecdote’ Storytelling Tell a small story in epic proportions. Don’t tell a big story in epic proportions though. Add a LOT of detail. Don't’ use names that tend to represent something bad, like Margaret, Bertha, Hillary. Words and names can anchor certain emotions in us. Instead use words like Layla, Laya, Layne, Kanzi, Amber, Max,

Use detail, timing and tone of voice, emotion. Use NLP to help with this.

Use follow up threads within your story, and they can be used with an assumption. Eg “I was at the water park and there was kids there. Do you like kids? (girl yes). Cool you’ll have to tell me why you like them. (then continue with the story.)

Use both positive and negative emotions and stories.

Kezia like, Titanic, Terms of endearment, Fox and the hound, Bambi, black beauty.

15. Hook lead: ‘Task’ This is Kezia’s favorite. You use this to get her to learn to start obeying you. Eg give me 3 reason you like moive, place, person, thing. Or “show me”.

16. Hook lead ‘validation’ You can use positive/approval and negative/disapproval validation. You must demonstrate high value and high standards.

Eg “What do you do for a living. I’m a teacher. That’s kind of cool, I many of my friends are actors and models, and it’s cool to meet someone that does something for society like that.”

A negative validation. Eg “So where are you going on vacation? I’m going to Las Vegas. (You give the look of I don’t want to hear that. Not a direct disapproving look though.) What’s wrong? Nothing. No tell me? Alright but you got to tell me that you won’t get mad? OK Promise me that when you go to Las Vegas that you won’t misbehave.

You want to put her in a state of limbo where she feels like she could lose you any moment.

Use positive validation first and then only can you use negative validation.

This is the most powerful hook lead. Since it shows high standards.

Girl: I’m going to watch some reality TV later!
Guy: Oh…you like reality TV?
Girl: yeah….what’s wrong?
Guy: Nothing….only….I thought you seemed so intelligent and pretty cultured, I pictured you watching something much more high brow than that…
Girl: Well I don’t just watch reality TV…It’s just nice sometimes to watch something silly for a laugh. Personally I really love the History Channel.

As you see the girl is trying to prove herself to the guy, when she found out he disapproved of her choice she immediately tried to defend herself and prove her worth. She will see you as a strong figure who has set the bar for her which she must reach.
She may react differently to this when you negatively validate, in which you can turn it into a positive validation:

Girl: I’m going to watch reality TV later.
Guy: Guy: Oh…you like reality TV?
Girl: Yeah! I don’t care what people say, it’s hilarious. TV is for relaxing and that’s what I wanna watch.
Guy: While I hate Reality TV…I fucking love your honesty! Well done for not giving a shit!

17. Hook lead: ‘Assumption’ Cold reading. It’s chick crack. Women love to be psychoanalyzed. The assumption must be very detailed.

Eg “You seem like that kind of girl that was naughty in school”.

Even better “You seem like the kind of girl that was naughty in school that would sit at the back of the class and let your friend take the blame.”

The more detailed your assumption the more wrong you can afford to be. So if your wrong use the card of intrigue. “Really, I can’t picture you being the good girl at school.”

“You were the good girl in school, the one that never missed a day of school and got good grades.”

A lot of women like to hear about palm reading, horoscopes, past lives. dream interpretations.

18. Hook lead: ‘Suggestion’ Eg “Oh you like _______ then you should try _______.

18. Putting all this into practice. Go out and just use 3 of these hook leads. Validation is the most important. Then use opinion. And the third is up to me. Once you end up with some uncomfortable silence you are going to force a hook lead in there. After practice the whole hook lead system becomes a reflex.

19. Common questions.

How long does it take to grasp the 10 hook lead system? It depends on how much you go out and practice it.

2. How can I apply this to direct game? So if you run out of things to say you can say. “Look because this is so random I will tell you 3 things about myself, and you tell me 3 things about yourself. Cool?” Remember you have to go first.

3. When is a good time to stop the conversation and go back to her later? Break rapport at the peak of the conversation. You can say “Oh I just remembered I got to do something.” Or “I got to get back to my friends.”

4. What if deep connection starts to get the girls to open up about very personal problems, or past boyfriends? Say “I thank you for sharing this with me. I appreciate it. But you really need to speak to your friends about this. Their the ones that can help you.” This is left to her friends and not you, since you don’t want her to view you as a friend but a potential boyfriend.

Good luck.
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