To have a conversation you need to make it interesting or/and engaging. Two ways to be interesting. One is through talking through exchanging facts such as what do you study? where do you live? what are you doing today??.. then you could talk or tell a story.. I once lived in.. it is a nice area.. the town hasnt got a lot of people but at the same time there are a lot of interesting attractions.. are you a person who likes silence, you dont seem to me like a person who likes hectic places...
and keep exchanging facts, followed by more guesses and question, until she feels comfortable with you.
You need to be interesting, so you need to either let her talk and listen..hopefully she will like to answer your questions and enjoy your listening skills (nod from time to time, repeat what she said sometimes and lean forward when she makes a point, respond and show expressions to what she says as if you are present and congruent.. actually enjoy the conversation dont fake it with your body language..it doesnt work that way.. show open body language dont cross anything,, the torso needs to be completely open and your facial expressions need to be more animated than usual. Use your hands to make your points. You need to seem confident).
Here is an example.
Quote: Me: I saw you from afar and I just wanted to say you look AWESOME.
Hb: Oh thanks, that's so nice of you.
Me: I'm Gunner
Hb; I'm Stacy
Me: What are you studying?
Hb: I'm studying astronomy, you?
Me; I'm studying psychology, I love human interactions. Here's a game I learned in class. *Jump straight into kino/compliance testing*
Dont rush with the kino? and why are so fast with the compliance test..lolz.
So you know psychology. I learnt that if you know about one topic well enough, you can select 1% of it that is interesting and tell it to someone who is new to it and by doing so being interesting. I would try to link her field of study with yours and talk for 10-15 mins. I would talk about things like who people are superstitious and believe in God instead of aliens..There are billions of stars in the milky galaxy alone..all what is need is another solar system and water like the solar system earth has for life to exist.
If you choose to be interesting by exchanging facts about something you studied or about what your personal life, you need to be interesting. I learnt business management at uni and psychology at highschool. Those subjects cover 90% of what majority of women choose to study at uni, from sociology to history to arts. I also travelled a lot in the past and I know 3 languages.. .. So as you can see, I can establish topics to talk about given that the target doesnt mind sharing factual/personal information with me.
The second interesting way to talk is by talking about different concepts. The difference between a concept and a topic is that a concept could include a few topics in it. You could use comparisons, be creative, provocative, specific, empathetic and be relevant. I took some of those ideas from a book which is called: "How to be more interesting" by Edwards Bono. Here is an example of how I would make an approach.
Quote: Me: I saw you from afar and I just wanted to say you look AWESOME.
Hb: Oh thanks, blah blah blah
Me: I'm Gunner
Hb: I'm Stacy
Me: Get this, on my way here I saw a little girl and a little boy holding hands. Looks innocent right? As I was driving by the little boy gives me the FINGER!
You raised a topic out of the blue.. it would have been better if you were relevant instead.. if you have anything interesting to talk about that is relevant to what you or she is doing or what is happening around you. Raising a new topic like you did is okay, as long as it is interesting or funny or intriguing.
So here are the elements of what you said:
- Boy and girl holding hands looking innocent.
- Driving and a boy giving you a little finger.
Few things that you could do. If you are good at improvisational comedy, you could add a punchline by exaggerating, underestimating those topics or using reversal. Most people arent good at this.
I would use comparisons. Take two things and compare between them..it is that easy.
I would compare girl and boy behavior. I would root it first and say, I study psychology, and I find it weird that boys that can be romantic at early age can also be very aggressive?
Do you think boys are more rude than girls at early age than boys?
Note: I was specific. That made my statement after rooting more interesting. I also used comparison and took the element that describes people and relationships. Women like talking about relationships and other people..and men like talking about themselves and what they do  a fact that many seducers dont know.
By doing all that mostly, she will be say something.. she was complaint enough to give you her name at the beginning right? ... Then you can pick on something that she said. Try to take something of what the other person said and not what you are going to say next. Expand her view point. She is not likely to contradict herself, because she already gave you her opinion and you are only expanding it. If the topic or concepts are dying..use linking with statements, new roots or stories.
It depends on what you have. You could link child relationship with adult relationships.. bring celebrity behavior cases, bring stories from your relationships with your parents/sister/family relatives, talk about person discipline and how boys who are allowed to have what they want at the beginning (romantic relationship and the freedom to wrongdo) become social deviant in later years.
The second way of interacting has the advantage of not talking about her or you in an intrusive or boring way. It is also more indirect and allows you to be more manipulative. The second way requires more creativity and feeling of comfort.. not many people are good at it.
Both ways are used to build attraction at the initial stage. The process should take 10-15 mins. Dont drag it for 30-40 mins. You could if she enjoys the conversation and you both have the time.
Quote: Me: I saw you from afar and I just wanted to say you look AWESOME.
Hb: Oh thanks, blah blah blah
Me: I'm Gunner
Hb: I'm Stacy
Me: Wait, DON'T MOVE! "touches her hair as if there was a bug or something on it"
Hb: Omg was there a bug?
Me: Idk it was like a wierd smudge, anyways... (proceed with kino games, test games, DHV's etc)
Kino games and routines are good mostly for compliant girls, for 2 or more girls and when you need to default to something. I tried them on singles..and a lot of the time they fail. All those games,tests and DHV's wont save you from having a conversation.. they were developed in night game to cope with certain situations like penetrating in her social circle, not seeming needy and direct like everyone else around and also lock her into a conversation at the beginning and perhaps kino her early on if you use certain routines or routine stacking.
I have 4 routines: Best Friend Routine, ESP, NLP and Lie game routine. I have roots, openers and stories within which context they all lie.
To sum up, try to be relevant. Only introduce a completely new topic if you have to and have nothing else to say, and your material or improvised topic is interesting/engaging.
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