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| Author: | FeaganMox [ Wed Mar 11, 2015 6:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to get out of my head when approaching |
So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over. Ill think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that |
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| Author: | Calum Tingham [ Wed Mar 11, 2015 2:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
FeaganMox, Just become used to batting those thoughts aside and repeating: "It's all gonna go well." "It's all gonna go well." When you can have that mantra running in the back of your mind as you approach and continue. You'll do just fine. C. Tingham |
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| Author: | ChocolatePUA [ Wed Mar 11, 2015 7:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over.
HAVE FUN.Ill think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that If you're having fun and enjoying yourself then the inner voices will quiet down. Focus on getting yourself in a good state and attraction is SO much easier. |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Fri Mar 13, 2015 11:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over.
Notice what you said: You said, "I'm always ready for a little, then I get into my head"Ill think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that What you're doing is you are allowing your THOUGHTS to come between you and the girl you want to approach. That is your MIND talking. I know exactly how you feel. In the past, if I saw a girl I wanted to approach and talk to, my first gut instinct would say, "Go over there" but as I was on my way to her my mind would get in the way, by saying me stuff like "She'll reject you" and "You'll embarrass yourself" The trick is to learn how to get in SYNC with your mind and body, so that your mind doesn't interfere. Here's how: The reality is that your mind will never be quiet. It will always have something to say just to mess with you. So just accept that as a fact, and stop resisting it when it happens. When you are walking towards the girl, and you hear your mind say those things and questioning what you want to do, take a breathe in your stomach and say, "Thanks for sharing". Thanks for sharing is a very powerful sentence because when you say it, you stop arguing with the mind, and the mind loses all of it's power. Imagine you're having an argument with someone, and the person says, "You're an idiot and an asshole and stupid" and you just say, "Thanks for sharing" What's probably going to happen? Is the person going to keep repeating himself, after all, you just agreed with him? Probably he'll just quit arguing. That's the same mechanism that you use with your mind. You acknowledge it, and by doing that, take away all of the power that it has over you. If you'd like help with learning how to do this the right way, I invite you and anyone reading this to join my test group, where I'm testing a new AA Cure technique, and teach what I just told you. Details in the signature. Hope this helps, I wish you best. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Fri Mar 13, 2015 4:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: How to get out of my head when approaching
The solution is to force yourself to do the first approach. This hangs up a TON of guys who try to give this stuff a go. Don't worry about being rusty, you'll get better that day after an approach or two. Because after your first approach or two you are fluid and you don't think, you just engage.
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| Author: | Mr. Ruthless [ Sat Mar 21, 2015 8:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over. Ill think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that This is completely normal when you are just learning game. Being in your head is a huge problem in pickup, because if you are inside your head, you are not PRESENT. You are not experiencing the woman. Just be. The 3 second rule, use it and stick to it no matter what. After 3 seconds if you haven't approached, 10 pushups....no excuses! |
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| Author: | PatrickAnanda [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 8:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over.
Hello brotherIll think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that I feel your pain, I really do. And the fact is that the majority of the advice out there for it is ineffective and temporary at best. I highly recommend you begin meditation. And you don't need extensive training in it either, just go on youtube and type 'how to meditate'. It's not easy but if you focus, you will see results quickly. The next thing I recommend is Yoga Nidra. It is a sleep meditation you listen to before going to sleep (again, all on youtube). It will teach you how to consciously move your focus. This is relevant because... Be in your feet. Be in your gut. Be in your groin. Be anywhere but your head! What happens when you see a beautiful woman? A flurry of energy is released in the base of your stomach (really beneath your stomach, right above your crotch) and it gradually spreads upward. Then, your head kicks in and the thoughts begin. The energy is not circulating freely. The trick is to notice the energy coming from the bottom up, and keeping your attention there, rather than tuning your focus to the thoughts in your head. Let me know if there's more I can do to help With love and respect Mack |
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| Author: | DrewDating [ Sun Mar 29, 2015 12:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over.
2 ways:Ill think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that 1) practice 2) warm up sets, give a general opener with no intentional goal but to invoke a response then move on. |
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| Author: | WillEdward [ Sun Mar 29, 2015 1:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Once you start taking action and approach, you will see that it isn't so bad. Most girls are polite and pretty friendly. You will start to develop momentum and the approach won't seem like a big deal anymore. Best thing to do is to have a positive mindset and expect everything will go great. Life is a self-fulling prophecy. If it is hard to imagine a successful outcome now, the next best thing is to go in with a neutral mindset and expect nothing. The more reference experiences you have, the more powerful your positive mindset will because you will experience success. |
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| Author: | FeaganMox [ Sun Mar 29, 2015 3:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get out of my head when approaching |
Quote: Once you start taking action and approach, you will see that it isn't so bad. Most girls are polite and pretty friendly. You will start to develop momentum and the approach won't seem like a big deal anymore. Best thing to do is to have a positive mindset and expect everything will go great. Life is a self-fulling prophecy. If it is hard to imagine a successful outcome now, the next best thing is to go in with a neutral mindset and expect nothing. The more reference experiences you have, the more powerful your positive mindset will because you will experience success.
Yeah i can see that. Like idk where its coming from though. Usually every girl i approach gives a good response even if im really awkward. But for some reason i always think the worst |
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