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| Author: | chw1989 [ Wed Nov 12, 2014 2:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Barriers vs Rejection know the difference |
Recently I posted a thread about fear I think it is the biggest reason guys fail to pick up the girl. Another big reason is the failure to see the difference between when a girl has rejected you and when you at being tested. Subconsciously or consciously girls can be intrested/intrigued even though they apear to be rejecting you she is really placeing up a barrier that she wants you to break through and win her over. She may not even know she is but she is or she could be intentionally doing it intentionally to test if you have the confidance or can give her what she wants. If a girl flat out says no or yuck or no thanks and looks anoyed or uncomfortable then she is rejecting you flat out and you should move on. However if she is more detailed or playful in her rejection then 9 times out of 10 she is putting up a barrier for you to breakdown. Examples could be: I just got out of a relationship= she is screaming I need someone to comfort me and show me why you are different? I don't date ____= why should I date _____ and what does this _____ have to offer me? I am not ready to get involved yet= why should I get get involved with you? Your not the kind of guy I would ever go out with/a joke like pick me up at quarter past I am never going out with you= Let's test this guys confidence level. I am really focused on my career now= why should I focus less on my career and more on you? This is your time to display value. Now wether what she says is true or not she is testing your confidence persistence wit and value. Also if she is giving you a detailed reason it means she cares enough about you that she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Learn to recognize these instances and learn how to breakthrough each barrier smoothly with confidence and without seeming too forward or creepy. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Thu Nov 13, 2014 11:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Barriers vs Rejection know the difference |
Quote: This is your time to display value. Now wether what she says is true or not she is testing your confidence persistence wit and value.
Alot of guys miss out on great girls by exiting on the first mild resistance to the #. The thing is whether the girl knows it or not she is weeding out guys by throwing out these mild objections. It's sort of like ASD/LMR on the front end. When you bust through the objections cooly and smoothly, the girl appreciates your unaffected-by-her persistence. Example; Had nice rapport with a girl. Went for the #. Her: "I don't give my # out to people I don't know well." 20 seconds after saying that - in reply to my calm persistence - she was happily giving me her number, IOIing etc. Great post OP. |
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