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Author:  REG720 [ Sun Jul 27, 2014 10:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Approaching girls at stores and shops
What's up, guys? So, lately I have been wanting to practice approaching girls whom I don't know in places such as coffee shops, grocery stores, clothing stores, etc. However, I am not sure how to really go about doing it. I mean, I know that two of the best ways to open a girl up when approaching is to come up with an interesting observational opener to say to them or say something that is relevant to the moment but funny. However, I usually struggle to come up with an opener that is either not a boring compliment on what they are wearing or how they look or about something interesting that has happened within the vicinity or about something that is really is funny. Even if I am fortunate enough to come up with such a good opener, I still don't know how to continue the conversation with any them. I would appreciate any help on this.
Author:  Mastermind9000 [ Sun Jul 27, 2014 11:41 pm ]
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Your problem is simply a lack of experience. Just keep doing it, see it as fun, and you'll get better and more comfortable.

That's it.
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Jul 28, 2014 10:20 pm ]
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Go situational by talking about whatever is in the area of the store you happen to be in. You're not performing an act so you don't have to overtly try to make them laugh or anything. You're a normal guy talking to a girl. If there's chemistry and good flirty banter, go for the # close.
Author:  REG720 [ Tue Jul 29, 2014 9:24 pm ]
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Okay, but one problem I have is that I don't know how to flirt without being too obvious.
Author:  dtrak [ Tue Jul 29, 2014 10:15 pm ]
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Dont worry too much about the perfect line or opener, 2 min into the interaction chances are she wont even remember what you opened with. What matters is the way you present yourself (well groomed and friendly, good style helps) and your intent (why are you talking to her) thats pretty much your innergame. Girls are very socially savy and pick up on sub communications even if you dont flat out say it, she will know you want her. So focus more on a casual fun chat, the flirting comes natural, the fact that you went out of your way to open her is flirting, asking her to talk to you for a couple minutes is flirting, smiling is flirting. Just focus on the overall vibe and then get her number when you feel she has to go or if she has time go on an insta date, is pretty common scence my friend. My useual daygame opener is "hey, excuse me, whats your name?" "Or excuse me, where are you from?" Remember is not what you say, is how you say it. Tighten up your innergame and open with real confidence, smoothly and streight to the point. Good luck. ;)

Check out my weekly blog for more on innergame http://m.youtube.com/channel/UCTJuAgxiigm_gg9YDyq9y8A
Author:  DrewDating [ Wed Jul 30, 2014 1:59 am ]
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approaching in stores is easy but it should be light-
you dont want to do too much kino
Author:  oceanx [ Wed Jul 30, 2014 3:24 am ]
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What matters is the way you present yourself (well groomed and friendly, good style helps) and your intent (why are you talking to her) thats pretty much your innergame. Girls are very socially savy and pick up on sub communications even if you dont flat out say it, she will know you want her.
That's it. This guy obviously knows what he's talking about.
Author:  REG720 [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 1:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approaching girls at stores and shops
Quote:
Dont worry too much about the perfect line or opener, 2 min into the interaction chances are she wont even remember what you opened with. What matters is the way you present yourself (well groomed and friendly, good style helps) and your intent (why are you talking to her) thats pretty much your innergame. Girls are very socially savy and pick up on sub communications even if you dont flat out say it, she will know you want her. So focus more on a casual fun chat, the flirting comes natural, the fact that you went out of your way to open her is flirting, asking her to talk to you for a couple minutes is flirting, smiling is flirting. Just focus on the overall vibe and then get her number when you feel she has to go or if she has time go on an insta date, is pretty common scence my friend. My useual daygame opener is "hey, excuse me, whats your name?" "Or excuse me, where are you from?" Remember is not what you say, is how you say it. Tighten up your innergame and open with real confidence, smoothly and streight to the point. Good luck. ;)
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What matters is the way you present yourself (well groomed and friendly, good style helps) and your intent (why are you talking to her) thats pretty much your innergame. Girls are very socially savy and pick up on sub communications even if you dont flat out say it, she will know you want her.
That's it. This guy obviously knows what he's talking about.
Wait, but how is just going out of my way to open her, smiling at her, asking her to talk to you for a couple minutes all flirting different from going up to a guy or even a girl who is a stranger that I never met before, but had the intent to be friends with or just be friendly with and smile and talk to him or her for a couple of minutes?
Author:  SamEdi [ Fri Aug 01, 2014 11:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approaching girls at stores and shops
Reg, go back to what mastermind was saying. It's a lack of experience that's holding you back. I say this because you mentioned that you want to open girls you don't know. Why not practice that and leave worrying about being flirtatious until you're able to open easily. If you want an example of how well that can work, check out AFCDaniel's learning journal from elsewhere in this forum:
from-afc-to-pua-a-learning-journal-afc- ... 81510.html

He's had quite a lot of success by just taking baby steps. That's what I'm doing now. I suggest you try the same thing. Just work on becoming more social and getting over any approach anxiety you may have. When it comes time to learn to escalate, then focus on that.

Let me know how it works out man, and good luck!
Author:  dtrak [ Mon Aug 04, 2014 2:56 am ]
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The diffrence is in your intent and in your game. If your being too friendly then boom, friendzone. If that happens that means you need to amp up the flirting and communicate as a man to a woman stronger. Take it or leave it style. Ryde the fine line and find out what works for your. Keep it simple. Good luck
Author:  DrewDating [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 2:03 am ]
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dont worry about your opener being boring- just open and change the subject
Author:  Mastermind9000 [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 6:09 am ]
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dont worry about your opener being boring- just open and change the subject
Yes. And keep rambling, bouncing from subject to subject until the girl(s) start rambling.

Blah blah blah blah. Hooked. That's the universal formula IMHO.
Author:  Mastermind9000 [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 6:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approaching girls at stores and shops
Quote:
dont worry about your opener being boring- just open and change the subject
Yes. And keep rambling, bouncing from subject to subject until the girl(s) start rambling.

Blah blah blah blah. Hooked. That's the universal formula IMHO.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 6:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approaching girls at stores and shops
One of my favorite ways to open a conversation in grocery stores, coffee shops or clothing stores
is really to ask for an OPINION.

So let's say you are in a grocery store, and you're looking at a can of beans.

You see a girl looking at beans as well, so you take two brands of beans and you just ask her,
"Which ones do you think are better? I'm kind of an amateur at this, would need a
female perspective..."

Get it?

So you take something that is NATURALLY already there, and you just ASK for an opinion about it.

This is different than when asking for an opinion about something totally unrelated like "Who lies more
boys or girls?"

If you're at a clothing store, one of my favorite ways is to put on something, and then just ask
a random girl how it looks on me, like, "Hey can I ask you a question? If I wore this somewhere
outside and I approached you would you go out with me?"

And a lot of times women will say "Yes", so at that point you can put out your hand and say, "Hi, nice
to meet you..."

You can even help the clerk help you pick out the color of the shirt. And as she does, you can
ask the same line, "So if I approached you outside wearing this, would you go out with me?"

If she says yes, you can say, "Great, well nice to meet you then - where
are you taking me then?"

The most important part of this is to have fun doing it. If you're in a weird
state or energy, feeling needy or insecure, not much will work for you.

And it's even worse if you feel approach anxiety. That's why I want to invite you and anyone reading
this to join my test group where I'm testing my new Approach Anxiety Cure which eliminates
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So use what I've said and see how it works for you. Good luck!
Author:  ConfidenceMatters [ Sat Aug 09, 2014 12:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approaching girls at stores and shops
Read this thread from beginning to end. It's the field reports of a guy who gives girls the apocalypse opener. Most of them happen to be women in stores and shops.
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/186822

NOTE: The apocalypse opener is where you recite a three line pitch to a girl.

"Hey. How's it going?"
"What are you doing later?"
"Want to come home with me?"
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